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post #41 of 69
I'm guessing (based on how I've seen other dresses fit little girls) that while it may look low cut, it won't actually be very low once she has it on. And, as pp have said, if you find it to be too low for your liking, shortening the straps shouldn't take long at all.
post #42 of 69
I don't think it's necessarily immodest, I do think the style is too mature for an 8 year old. I'd prefer if my dd wore a different style.

If you're uncomfortable then I like the idea of asking if your dd could wear another dress in the same color or matching the flower girl dress.
post #43 of 69
Hey! I found a picture of it on an actual little girl. That might help you in your decision some. Take a look:

http://www.getmarried.com/members/br...unior_main.jpg
post #44 of 69
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Originally Posted by KristyDi View Post
I don't think it's necessarily immodest, I do think the style is too mature for an 8 year old. I'd prefer if my dd wore a different style.

If you're uncomfortable then I like the idea of asking if your dd could wear another dress in the same color or matching the flower girl dress.
This is exactly what I was going to say untilI saw the post below! I am not a modest person but I prefer my little girls to look like little girls not teenagers. I have an almost 8 year old and if in a few years she got asked to wear that dress, i would have no problem with it.


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Originally Posted by beanma View Post
Hey! I found a picture of it on an actual little girl. That might help you in your decision some. Take a look:

http://www.getmarried.com/members/br...unior_main.jpg
Now I could live with the dress being like that. I still don't like the wrap around part in the front, so meant for people with breasts, but the length is ok.
post #45 of 69
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
Even out of church I would not find those dresses appropriate wedding clothes.
I understand your point of view, but of course it is not your wedding.
post #46 of 69
Even on the actual kids, I'm not wild about it. I'd ask the bride to let her wear a different dress, same color, or I would provide her with a lace/lightweight bolero or a little shawl. Although the latter might be tricky to keep her in during the reception.
post #47 of 69
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I would have no problem with it for a wedding.
Me either... Doesn't seem at all immodest to me...
post #48 of 69
Looks like a fancy, shimmery sundress to me, personally. I don't think that the criss cross shirring is supposed to mean boobs. It's just shirring, folding of fabric, like pleating. Looking at it on the little girl, the crisscross area is right at her armpits, there's nothing showing at all inappropriately. It does seem weird to have a spaghetti strap dress in winter, but whatevs. Brides can be weird.

FWIW, DH is not a fan of uncovered shoulders on *anyone*, girls, boys, women, men. He is not a fan of tank tops on any person, and even less so of spaghetti straps.
post #49 of 69
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Originally Posted by beanma View Post
Hey! I found a picture of it on an actual little girl. That might help you in your decision some. Take a look:

http://www.getmarried.com/members/br...unior_main.jpg

Oh, thank you!! That does help. It really doesn't look so bad once I can see it on an actual little girl. It does come up pretty high and is not as mature looking as I thougt. I'm more comfortable with the idea of her wearing it now.

The ceremony and reception are in the same place, so she won't really need a jacket once inside. I actually found a cape like jacket from the same bridal place that I was going to suggest but dd doesn't want to wear it. So that would be a waste, unfortunately. She's still unhappy about the color but says she's fine with the dress.

Thank you all so much for all your help!!
post #50 of 69
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Originally Posted by The4OfUs View Post
Looks like a fancy, shimmery sundress to me, personally. I don't think that the criss cross shirring is supposed to mean boobs. It's just shirring, folding of fabric, like pleating. Looking at it on the little girl, the crisscross area is right at her armpits, there's nothing showing at all inappropriately.
Yes, that's how it looks to me. I was most concerned about how the criss cross shirring was going to look. I think the regular bridesmaid dress looks nicer in that pic with the little girl too. You'd think the dress website would have the better pictures since it's their merchandise but what can you do?
post #51 of 69
Maybe you could have them order some extra fabric when they order the dress, and have a seamstress redo the criss cross so it goes across her shoulders completely in a wide strap? That way it has the same effect as the grownup bridesmaids, but is more modest (and season appropriate?). I've had seamstresses work MAGIC on wedding dresses, so I would imagine you could find someone. It looks like that bodice could be detached and a new sleeve added on.


Like this, but obviously up on her shoulders. KWIM?
http://is10.eporia.com/company_1001/617526.jpg?cvt=jpeg

Or heck, just ask for the fabric to be ordered from the same dye lot and get the dress made. Or ask if the company will make it a cap sleeve instead of a spaghetti strap.

What is the 3-yo wearing? I would imagine an 8-yo being a Jr. Bridesmaid would want to look more like the grownups than the 3 yo, but maybe there could be a kind of hybrid/compromise between the two?
post #52 of 69
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Originally Posted by The4OfUs View Post
Or heck, just ask for the fabric to be ordered from the same dye lot and get the dress made. Or ask if the company will make it a cap sleeve instead of a spaghetti strap.


What is the 3-yo wearing? I would imagine an 8-yo being a Jr. Bridesmaid would want to look more like the grownups than the 3 yo, but maybe there could be a kind of hybrid/compromise between the two?

STB SIL said she is having extra material ordered both for the sashes on the flower girl dresses and in case extra material is needed for the straps. (I know some bridesmaids prefer straps to strapless too). So I think it will be all right.

Here's the flower girl dress. DD was a flower girl a few years ago at my own brother's wedding, so she's not really fussed about little sis being one this time.
post #53 of 69
For a wedding, I'd be fine with it.
post #54 of 69
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Originally Posted by loon13 View Post
Junior bridesmaids are considered ages 8-14. But I think there's a big difference in what I'd let my 14 year old wear vs. my 8 year old. That's really the crux of me asking whether this dress is appropriate.

For me personally, I'd have a younger junior bridesmaid wear something similar to the flower girls dress. And I'd have the "older" junior bridesmaids wear something like what was shown here.'
i absolutely totally agree with you there.

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Originally Posted by loon13 View Post
There are other dresses by the same company that come in the same color, that I'm considering asking if dd could wear those instead.
i think that's the perfect compromise.

except i dont get it. why that colour?

i hope your girls have a BLAST!!!!
post #55 of 69
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Originally Posted by beanma View Post
Hey! I found a picture of it on an actual little girl. That might help you in your decision some. Take a look:

http://www.getmarried.com/members/br...unior_main.jpg
I it! And the bridesmaids dress as well! I sure wish my little sister had gone with this style last year. It looks so comfy and classy.
post #56 of 69
Glad the picture helped. Hope it all works out without too much drama! I know how weddings can be...
post #57 of 69
I don't particularly like the dress, but I think I would be ok with an 8yo wearing it for a wedding. But I recognize everyone has different ideas regarding age appropriate dress.

For instance....

Today a little girl in my home daycare showed up wearing a Jonas Brothers t-shirt, a short black lace skirt and a black leather jacket. She was also wearing make-up and perfume. This is not uncommon.

She's 3.

I just tried not to let my eyes bug out of my head.

She keeps telling my DD (who's 2) that she will be able to wear makeup too once she is bigger. I am like "Yup, when she is much, MUCH bigger."

So, you know... to each their own. I guess.
post #58 of 69
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Originally Posted by just_lily View Post
I don't particularly like the dress, but I think I would be ok with an 8yo wearing it for a wedding. But I recognize everyone has different ideas regarding age appropriate dress.

For instance....

Today a little girl in my home daycare showed up wearing a Jonas Brothers t-shirt, a short black lace skirt and a black leather jacket. She was also wearing make-up and perfume. This is not uncommon.

She's 3.

I just tried not to let my eyes bug out of my head.

She keeps telling my DD (who's 2) that she will be able to wear makeup too once she is bigger. I am like "Yup, when she is much, MUCH bigger."

So, you know... to each their own. I guess.
Was she going to an audition for Grease later today?

My dd was wearing make up and perfume today. Thankfully she only has to feel the make up brush to think she's wearing make up and the perfume is coconut lime from Bath and Body. She's totally fixated on being beautiful right now. Thankfully she's a dirt lover, but she does it in a princess dress.
post #59 of 69
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Originally Posted by midstreammama View Post
I don't really see anything wrong with it. It mostly looks like something my kids would wear during the summer... Except more fancy. Kwim? The style of dress I mean.. Is similar. I don't see a problem though. Like everyone said it's a subjective thing.
I agree - my daughter often wears sundresses during the summer. Could you buy the younger girl a wrap or a jacket?
post #60 of 69
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Was she going to an audition for Grease later today?
That's funny because the other day she was wearing the jacket with a frilly pink skirt and I said she looked like she was one of the Pink Ladies, but her mom didn't get the reference.
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