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post #1 of 16
8/26/10 at 11:05pm
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I have this silly worry this baby won't come on it's own. It just started yesterday or today. My midwife won't homebirth me past 42 weeks so I'd have to go in to be induced.

I've never gone beyond 2 days overdue (my last). My others were 1 day early and 10 days early.

I'm 39 weeks today. I think it's just the unknown, not knowing when the day will come. I always tell myself that I'll be patient at the end. But it never fails. I start feeling like the baby will never come!!

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post #2 of 16
8/26/10 at 11:26pm
Just remember... there is no historical evidence of a woman carrying her child FOREVER..
post #3 of 16
8/27/10 at 1:39am
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Originally Posted by Baby~Braatens~Mama View Post
Just remember... there is no historical evidence of a woman carrying her child FOREVER..
lol every one KNOWS this... but.. it still doesn't leave you all warm and fuzzy.. lol or at least it doesnt do that for me lol.

I have been having similar concerns.. not really of going 2 weeks overdue and not being able to have a home birth.. but worried about my placenta aging early.. my 3rd was born at 38weeks even (which is tomorrow for me.. sigh..) and my placenta was really calcified... it freaks me out in the sense that what if my placentas age early and she doesnt want to come early and she dies or something... i know... drastic concern there.. but.. still.. thats how i feel!
post #4 of 16
8/27/10 at 8:15am
I feel the same...

DD came at 39 weeks without much warning... I had been prodromal so long (similar to now) that I didnt pay attention to every ache or pain anymore.

So I KNOW I can have this baby even yet still today with feeling totally fine this morning...

...but try telling my brain that!
post #5 of 16
8/27/10 at 8:51am
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Originally Posted by Momtotwo2004 View Post
I have this silly worry this baby won't come on it's own. It just started yesterday or today. My midwife won't homebirth me past 42 weeks so I'd have to go in to be induced.

I've never gone beyond 2 days overdue (my last). My others were 1 day early and 10 days early.

I'm 39 weeks today. I think it's just the unknown, not knowing when the day will come. I always tell myself that I'll be patient at the end. But it never fails. I start feeling like the baby will never come!!
I'm so with you.

Just trying to stay positive and distract myself by keeping busy as I can...

Here's hoping that you will be in labor like, tonight
post #6 of 16
8/27/10 at 9:17am
I'm feeling discouraged too. Just yesterday a friend from high school also due with her 3rd had her baby--and she was only due 2 days before me. Then Laurski's water broke, and she was due a day after me. I'm having labor envy! Which is entirely ridiculous, considering I've been pregnant twice and seen my due date twice... But I am going to continue to get insanely grumpy every time someone in the DDC who is due after me goes into labor
post #7 of 16
8/27/10 at 9:55am
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Originally Posted by Momtotwo2004 View Post
I have this silly worry this baby won't come on it's own. It just started yesterday or today. My midwife won't homebirth me past 42 weeks so I'd have to go in to be induced.

I've never gone beyond 2 days overdue (my last). My others were 1 day early and 10 days early.

I'm 39 weeks today. I think it's just the unknown, not knowing when the day will come. I always tell myself that I'll be patient at the end. But it never fails. I start feeling like the baby will never come!!
I've been having this fear, too. In the past, my labors have always started with my water breaking (40wks, 38.5 weeks). This time, I was worried about having a preemie because my mother's labors were similar...and my sister, the last to be born, was born at 34 weeks. She was very small--almost lost her.

So THIS time, I took vitamin C throughout the pregnancy in the hopes of strengthening my amniotic sac. Sounds reasonable, right?

The problem is now, I'm term. And now I have this fear that I've created some kind of super-amniotic-sac that will NEVER rupture. What if my body can only go into labor that one way? What if my water doesn't break, and contractions never start on their own? Can my body START with contractions? Is that even possible? Or is going to be 41wks 5 days, 6 days, 7 days...and no baby?

I guess that's one reason I'm definitely getting the VE at next week's 39-week appointment. I just want some reassurance my body is doing SOMETHING. Right now the BH aren't enough to convince me things are going as they should.
post #8 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:04am
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But I am going to continue to get insanely grumpy every time someone in the DDC who is due after me goes into labor
I'm hoping I'll be the next one to make you grumpy

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Originally Posted by RedOakMomma View Post
The problem is now, I'm term. And now I have this fear that I've created some kind of super-amniotic-sac that will NEVER rupture. What if my body can only go into labor that one way? What if my water doesn't break, and contractions never start on their own? Can my body START with contractions? Is that even possible? Or is going to be 41wks 5 days, 6 days, 7 days...and no baby?

I guess that's one reason I'm definitely getting the VE at next week's 39-week appointment. I just want some reassurance my body is doing SOMETHING. Right now the BH aren't enough to convince me things are going as they should.
I've only had one previous birth but also started with water breaking, and I have exactly the same feelings. That's one of the reasons I did get the VE-- just to know that, you know, it's working at least somewhat. Could have backfired if NOTHING was going on, but luckily the BH really are doing something.

So, now I just have the fear that I'm going to keep progressing a cm a week until I'm 40 weeks and 7 cm and still not in labor, ROTFL!
post #9 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:14am
If placental degradation is a true concern for you and given your history, have you spoken to your HCP's regarding doing an ultrasound to check its status?

Well, baby will come at 41+4 and my life will be miserable until then. But of course, that is 5 weeks away. Joy. 41+4 is about as long as I feel comfortable going.

Liz
post #10 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:18am
Kelly: :P


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Originally Posted by dachshundqueen View Post
41+4 is about as long as I feel comfortable going.
This me, too, and I find *some* solace in the fact that it's 3 weeks from today. Of course, for me making that long is likely signing up for an RCS...but it's still only 3 more weeks. ONLY?!??!?
post #11 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:29am
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Originally Posted by Kelly1101 View Post
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I've only had one previous birth but also started with water breaking, and I have exactly the same feelings. That's one of the reasons I did get the VE-- just to know that, you know, it's working at least somewhat. Could have backfired if NOTHING was going on, but luckily the BH really are doing something.
So how 'bout this arrangement. If YOU go into labor first, then I'll be convinced that it's possible for it to happen. If I go into labor first, you be convinced. Think it'll work?
post #12 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:31am
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Originally Posted by RedOakMomma View Post
So how 'bout this arrangement. If YOU go into labor first, then I'll be convinced that it's possible for it to happen. If I go into labor first, you be convinced. Think it'll work?
Sounds like a deal.

Now one of us needs to hurry up
post #13 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:38am
You can go first! I need at least another week, preferably 1.5, to get some stuff done.... But yeah, if I did go into labor in the next few days, it would be a relief to get these "can my body do it?" worries out of my head.
post #14 of 16
8/27/10 at 10:40am
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Originally Posted by dachshundqueen View Post
If placental degradation is a true concern for you and given your history, have you spoken to your HCP's regarding doing an ultrasound to check its status?
Liz
can an u/s show anything?! i mentioned my concern about this around 30 weeks and she kind of blew it off.. saying something along the lines of calcified spots are completely normal.. blah blah blah.. you had a lot of stress last time with your husband in iraq... blah blah blah... she wasnt concerned at all... it's not her baby though... i can/will request an u/s if it can tell us anything and i dont have baby by my due date!
post #15 of 16
8/27/10 at 12:29pm
they do check placental degradation through US... however, some degradation/calcification is completely normal.

If you already had a large amount of calcification at your 2nd trimester ultrasound it would be worth worrying over and being checked for, but this late in the game, pretty much anyone's placenta will show at least some calcification. So getting an ultrasound probably will not ease your worries any, even if the amount is still within a normal range.
post #16 of 16
8/27/10 at 1:29pm
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I feel so much better knowing I'm not alone!

It's just so funny, all of it. I really want my homebirth but even if I have to go in to get induced, I don't mind my hospital that much and an induction would definitely go pretty smoothly since I'm already dilated some and nearly 100% effaced. It wouldn't be the "end of the world."

It's just something that's hanging on me, you know? Like...I do love the excitement of not knowing if today is the day but I also hate it at the EXACT SAME TIME. It's almost too much.

Plus it doesn't help that today I feel pretty good and don't feel like I'll give birth ANY time soon. Some days are awful but today I feel like I could totally go another 3 weeks. *sigh*

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