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[haydn'smommy]

I'm Jaime. I've been married 7.5 yrs and have 2 kids, and almost 3 wks ago my STBX told me that he didn't have any feelings for me anymore. He said he wasn't attracted to me (that he's not sexually attracted to anything or anyone actually). He hates being around me.
After being devastated and hurt and trying to get him to work on things, we've decided to get divorced. My attorney is filing on Monday. I'm hoping we can be amicable so that it is over as fast as possible.

[Theia]

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've not been there, so I can only imagine the hurt.

But, there is thread here, "What do you wish you had put in the parenting agreement" or something very similar. It's been around for a while and is full of lots of advice and others experiences. If your divorce is amicable or not, you will probably find helpful words on this thread.

Best wishes to you as you navigate this new chapter in your life.

[hillymum]

Hugs! You are joining a wonderful group of women, not just on MDC but IRL too. Seek them out and let them help and support you through this time.
I hope your sbx behaves and you can get through the process quickly but don't be too surprised if he suddenly turns into an alien monster from Mars!
Hugs!

[haydn'smommy]

He's already turned into a monster from somewhere. He's like a totally different man than the one I married.
He is so unemotional except anger, which is mostly directed at me. It's been since he started on Zoloft 8 mos ago. Now, he can hardly be in the room with me without yelling and cussing at me and calling me names.
We are living in the same house right now, but he's already made an offer on another home and is in the process of purchasing it right now. Hopefully he'll be out of here in another month or so. So far, we seem to be in agreement about everything but the child support issue, and he seems to think that he can dictate how I spend that money. LOL.
My attorney is wonderful but I hope that I don't have to see her in action in court cause I really don't have the money to do that. I just want this over as fast as possible. I'm ready to have my life back. I'm ready to not have to walk on eggshells, worrying that I'm going to piss him off all the time. I'm ready to have my house back and not have to clean up after a third (adult) child.

[Everrgreen]

Oh I'm so sorry s I went through something similar. It is so unbelievable painful, I know. I hope that he moves out soon so that you can have some peace. Maybe once you have some space from each other things will go smoother with your custody agreement. Take care of yourself! And come back to vent when you need to, it really helps!

[bu's mama]

Welcome - this is really a fantastic forum. Don't hesitate to ask questions or just to vent.

Originally Posted by haydn'smommy

...So far, we seem to be in agreement about everything but the child support issue, and he seems to think that he can dictate how I spend that money. LOL.
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Honestly - don't even discuss it with him. In NYS there is a set formula for the amount of support - and you can use it on whatever you need to provide for your child.

[LoveOhm]

(((hugs)))