pregnant and over 35 tribe - Page 8

[samstress]

Originally Posted by capretta 

Hello! I feel like I'm kind of cheating here. I'm only 34 right now, but I'll be 35 in a couple months and would love to join you! In the OP format:

capretta, 35, 33, 10/1/11, sex unknown obviously

This is my first pregnancy and it was our first cycle trying. So we're thrilled, but also kind of overwhelmed by the whole thing. Looking forward to getting past the initial nerves so that I can just relax and enjoy the pregnancy - that does happen, right?

welcome and congrats!  we'll allow it (since you will be 35 when baby arrives).  even though you're still only 34, i'm sure you'll be clumped into the dreaded "advanced maternal age" group.

when i was pregnant with my first i met with a genetic counselor and he told me all the over-35 statistics.  "but i'll still be 34 when i give birth"  i told him (turns out i had dd 11 days before my 35th).  he said, "well, it's not like something magical happens at age 35" and continued with his spiel.

it can be overwhelming, but try to enjoy it.  it can be nerve-wracking at first, but you will eventually relax. 

[HawaiianBlesing]

Becky 36, DH 31 EDD 7/28/11 sex unknown for a few more weeks at least. 

Saw this tribe awhile back but wanted to make sure babe was going to stick around.  Entered the 2nd trimester yesterday

[number3at43]

* Name: Dawn
* EDD: 8/19/2011

* Age: 42, and will be 44  at EDD
* Location: Northern Calif
* * What number child is this for you: This will be our 3rd.
* Family (partner, other children, and/or furbabies): My hubby (37) and my son (11) Daughter (8)

OVER 40 AND EXPECTING - VERY GLAD TO OF FOUND THIS GROUP

[samstress]

Originally Posted by HawaiianBlesing 

Becky 36, DH 31 EDD 7/28/11 sex unknown for a few more weeks at least. 

Saw this tribe awhile back but wanted to make sure babe was going to stick around.  Entered the 2nd trimester yesterday

so glad you're with us and congrats on reaching the second semester.  i know i took a big sigh of relief when i got there.
 

Originally Posted by number3at43 

* Name: Dawn
* EDD: 8/19/2011

* Age: 42, and will be 44  at EDD
* Location: Northern Calif
* * What number child is this for you: This will be our 3rd.
* Family (partner, other children, and/or furbabies): My hubby (37) and my son (11) Daughter (8)

OVER 40 AND EXPECTING - VERY GLAD TO OF FOUND THIS GROUP

congrats and welcome.  so glad you found us.

[capretta]

Originally Posted by samstress

welcome and congrats!  we'll allow it (since you will be 35 when baby arrives).  even though you're still only 34, i'm sure you'll be clumped into the dreaded "advanced maternal age" group.

when i was pregnant with my first i met with a genetic counselor and he told me all the over-35 statistics.  "but i'll still be 34 when i give birth"  i told him (turns out i had dd 11 days before my 35th).  he said, "well, it's not like something magical happens at age 35" and continued with his spiel.

it can be overwhelming, but try to enjoy it.  it can be nerve-wracking at first, but you will eventually relax. 

Ha! Thanks for letting me in! I meant to say that my mother had kids at 37 and 40, and that I'm not actually too concerned about the "geriatric" aspect of it all. Still, we will definitely do some sort screening and I'll be reading back through the thread and probably asking questions about that. And, in general, I'll just be happy to have some pregnant ladies about my age to chat with.

Oh and thanks for confirmation that I will eventually relax.

[Mamatoabunch]

Hey all! I'm 20 weeks now w/ baby 11. Baby is becoming more active. I am UP, as w/ my last 6 pregnancies so no tests or anything. Just chugging along enjoying feeling better now. 

[tzs]

when i was pregnant with my first i met with a genetic counselor and he told me all the over-35 statistics.  "but i'll still be 34 when i give birth"  i told him (turns out i had dd 11 days before my 35th).  he said, "well, it's not like something magical happens at age 35" and continued with his spiel.

ha ha. i had an argument with the receptionist at my 20 week u/s because they had the reason booked as "advanced maternal age" (in reality i only do it b/c i take a class c med) i swore up and down that i was only 34 so i didn't even make that cutoff. when i was on the table looking up at the big computer screen with all the data i did the math....i'm 36. 

[kawa kamuri]

Originally Posted by tzs 

i swore up and down that i was only 34 so i didn't even make that cutoff. when i was on the table looking up at the big computer screen with all the data i did the math....i'm 36. 

[JoyousJenny]

I just found out today that I am expecting  - kinda knew in my heart for the last few days but now confirmed!!!  I will be 37 when baby is born at the beginning of October!  We had been trying for over a year to have another baby - so excited!

[samstress]

Originally Posted by JoyousJenny 

I just found out today that I am expecting  - kinda knew in my heart for the last few days but now confirmed!!!  I will be 37 when baby is born at the beginning of October!  We had been trying for over a year to have another baby - so excited!

how wonderful for you!  congrats and welcome.

[Snugglebugmom]

I would love to join! Another old fogey... I am 41 and currently expecting our third child. DH is 42, and we have two girls aged 5 and almost 3. It's so wonderful to find more "mature mamas" who are expecting, but I have to be honest and say that I really don't feel that old. I don't feel any different from when I was expecting my first at 35. I still try to catch snowflakes on my tongue, run around the backyard with my girls, and sit on the floor with them to play with blocks. Age is largely a state of mind. I don't have any check ups planned yet, I think I will wait until twelve weeks or so and then schedule an appointment. I don't need a bunch of medical personnel fussing over me and scaring me unnecessarily. We are not having any genetic testing done, because it won't make a difference. Terminating the pregnancy is not an option for us.

I do want the 20 week ultrasound, mostly because I am dying to know whether I am right and this is another girl, and because if the baby does have some issues, we will be able to prepare for it and research. 

I had a missed miscarriage in June of last year, so I'm a bit hesitant about going all-out ballistic for joy, but both DH and I are thrilled that we are blessed like this again. 

[samstress]

Originally Posted by Snugglebugmom 

I would love to join! Another old fogey... I am 41 and currently expecting our third child. DH is 42, and we have two girls aged 5 and almost 3. It's so wonderful to find more "mature mamas" who are expecting, but I have to be honest and say that I really don't feel that old. I don't feel any different from when I was expecting my first at 35. I still try to catch snowflakes on my tongue, run around the backyard with my girls, and sit on the floor with them to play with blocks. Age is largely a state of mind. I don't have any check ups planned yet, I think I will wait until twelve weeks or so and then schedule an appointment. I don't need a bunch of medical personnel fussing over me and scaring me unnecessarily. We are not having any genetic testing done, because it won't make a difference. Terminating the pregnancy is not an option for us.

I do want the 20 week ultrasound, mostly because I am dying to know whether I am right and this is another girl, and because if the baby does have some issues, we will be able to prepare for it and research. 

I had a missed miscarriage in June of last year, so I'm a bit hesitant about going all-out ballistic for joy, but both DH and I are thrilled that we are blessed like this again. 

i'm with you mama.  i don't feel old either (oh, but don't other folks love to tell us we are, especially when we decide to reproduce).

congrats and welcome!

[Snugglebugmom]

Originally Posted by samstress 

oh, but don't other folks love to tell us we are, especially when we decide to reproduce

Don’t I know it! I was 34 when I got married and had just turned 35 when I quit my job to move to the US to be with my husband, and a twenty-something coworker asked me if we “were even going to bother trying to have children”.  I was momentarily stunned and then said:”Umm... we’re not THAT old, you know.”

Also, I get pregnant at the drop of a hat, none of my pregnancies were the result of “trying”. They just sort of happen. I figure if it happens that easily, I am obviously not too old.

I LOVE the story about the mama who gave birth to twins shortly before her 50^th birthday and had her picture taken nursing the twins while holding up her newly received AARP card. Too funny!

[samstress]

Originally Posted by Snugglebugmom 

Originally Posted by samstress 

oh, but don't other folks love to tell us we are, especially when we decide to reproduce

Don’t I know it! I was 34 when I got married and had just turned 35 when I quit my job to move to the US to be with my husband, and a twenty-something coworker asked me if we “were even going to bother trying to have children”.  I was momentarily stunned and then said:”Umm... we’re not THAT old, you know.”

Also, I get pregnant at the drop of a hat, none of my pregnancies were the result of “trying”. They just sort of happen. I figure if it happens that easily, I am obviously not too old.

I LOVE the story about the mama who gave birth to twins shortly before her 50^th birthday and had her picture taken nursing the twins while holding up her newly received AARP card. Too funny!

i also got married at 34 (and had dd a year later).  no one ever asked us if we would bother having children, but after our first at 35 someone asked if we were going to have more.  i said yes and she said, "you'd better hurry".  when i went in for my six week check after having dd, the doctor told me if we were going to have more children we should start trying within the next six months.  i never went back to him and we waited four years to have number two.

i also haven't had a problem getting pregnant which i tend to believe is a good thing and means i'm certainly not to old to have them.  not sure if we'll stop after this one, but the idea of having a third child in a few years (when i'm in my early 40s) doesn't bother me in the least.

love the story about the nursing mom and her AARP card.

[Mamatoabunch]

I have been pregnant from my first pregnancy, started at 19 and now 37 and I don't feel any different. Same feelings, same general pregnancy aches or grumps, but otherwise, easy.

[samstress]

Originally Posted by Mamatoabunch 

I have been pregnant from my first pregnancy, started at 19 and now 37 and I don't feel any different. Same feelings, same general pregnancy aches or grumps, but otherwise, easy.

that's what i like to hear!

[madcap150]

Just saw this thread and I'd like to join.

madcap 150, 35 (36 by baby's birth), 37, EDD in mid-June 2011, a second boy!

I am fortunate that no one has made a big deal about my age-- hasn't even mentioned it. I'm not sure they notice. To look at me, I could be anything from late 20's - early 40's-- maybe they just assume I'm on the lower end and don't check the chart?

DS was born at a FS birth center, and we're planning a home birth with this one. The only testing we have done is the 20 week scan (everything looked great!) We didn't do the scan with DS, but decided to with this one. However, my age wasn't really a consideration in whether to get the scan-- we decided to do it for two other reasons. 1. Since we're planning a home birth, we wanted to know if we saw anything (placenta issues or baby issues) that might change our plans; and 2. Sadly, my dad is dying, and I'm really not sure if he will be around for this baby's birth. He is such a wonderful grandpa and there is going to be such a hole in our lives-- I wanted him to at least get to see a healthy baby boy, as it turns out, on the u/s.

When I interviewed HB midwives, they seemed to lean against the 20 week scan or any kind of testing no matter what the reason-- which didn't really make sense to me as a blanket policy, rather than considering the individual situation. I went with the midwife who thought it was perfectly reasonable for me to make a decision based on my particular circumstances and didn't try to talk me out of it by saying my pregnancy is likely to be normal, so why worry? That is a good reason and decision for some moms, but not for me, this time around.

[samstress]

welcome madcap and congratulations.

so sorry about your father.  hopefully he'll be around to meet another grandson.

[capretta]

Originally Posted by samstress 

i also got married at 34 (and had dd a year later).  no one ever asked us if we would bother having children, but after our first at 35 someone asked if we were going to have more.  i said yes and she said, "you'd better hurry".  when i went in for my six week check after having dd, the doctor told me if we were going to have more children we should start trying within the next six months.  i never went back to him and we waited four years to have number two.

Glad you fired that doc.

Also, shout out to my Oct DDC buddies! Nice to see you here.

[Snugglebugmom]

Originally Posted by capretta 

 Also, shout out to my Oct DDC buddies! Nice to see you here. 

 Ditto, Capretta! Us old folks have to stick together hehe.