to our newest members:
m0xxie,
honeybee,
finnegansmom,
mclisa,
Cassaba,
jensb,
stormgirl,
JessieBird and
baby4at44.
if i've posted anyone's info incorrectly,
please let me know. i'm bound to make a mistake sooner or later. i've sorted our members alphabetically (i'm kinda obsessive about alphabetizing -- books, cds, the kitchen cupboards, the medicine cabinet, the linen closet -- yes it's possible). however, i'm realizing that it would make more sense to arrange by due date (so it will be easier to see whose due date is coming up). so, i'll be fixing that soon.
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Originally Posted by m0xxie  My husband and I will both be 43 when our first baby (a girl) is due (1/23/2011). After 2 years of trying, and a miscarriage, we are both ecstatic about achieving a natural, unassisted pregnancy.
Aside from severe morning sickness and exhaustion through the first trimester, the pregnancy has been going well for me, and I don't feel my age has been any impediment. In fact, I forget that we are somewhat exceptional, except for some strange comments from medical personnel like, "Is this your own egg?" or "Did you wake up one day and just decide to have a child?".
Is it so strange that I would want to wait until conditions in my life were optimal before trying to conceive? That I would want to be sure I had a great partner, a solid relationship, and a measure of financial and emotional stability before attempting to bring a new life into the world?
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how wonderful for you both. you must be thrilled!
it's shocking the things people say. i have a list full of them.
i know what you mean about waiting until everything was right. i feel exactly the same way. someone once asked me why i waited until i was 35 before i had my first child. my reply, "because i didn't meet the father of my children until i was 33". duh!
yes, i could have had children at 20 or 25 or 30, but i (speaking only for myself, of course) wouldn't have been the mom i wanted to be.
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Originally Posted by honeybee This is our 4th baby, will be our 3rd homebirth.
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oh, how wonderful. i'm hoping for a homebirth.
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Originally Posted by lillymonster I do believe medical personnel are more relaxed if you have had previous children than if your first is after the age of 35 (or 40). That is what I was told by the tech doing my sonogram anyway. If you have had previous children with no genetic issues than it's easier to deny those services as opposed to women who have never had a child. She told me she was had to do a u/s scan for a woman having her first age the age of 45, they would not have considered her as high of a risk if she had other children. We got into this discussion when she basically asked me if my age was on my only "risk" and I said yes, and she went into a long conversation about it, it was interesting how that practice treated it. I only went there for the sonograms.
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i think this is true. i had my first at (nearly) 35 with no genetic issues and i've been told that the likelihood of having another uneventful pregnancy and healthy child at 38 is very good because of this.
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Originally Posted by finnegansmom This is our third baby, my fourth pregnancy. I had a loss at about 13 weeks (a missed MC) in Feb. It took about a year to get pregnant with this one, including the loss. I'm thrilled to be here and can't wait to get to know you all better!
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so glad you're here.
i had a loss last year and it also took me a year to get pregnant again. i must say i'm thrilled, but nervous because it's early still.
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Originally Posted by mclisa I get to join in as well. I thought I would be done having kids by that dreaded age of 35, but I guess not.
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oh, it's not
so bad.
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Originally Posted by Cassaba DH and I are first time parents. I am glad this new tribe is forming!
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glad you found us.
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Originally Posted by jensb I'm 37, DH is 36, and this is our 3rd child. My first were born at ages 28 and 32. I am way more exhausted than I remember being before; don't know if that's because of age or having a boy!
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oh, let's say it's the boy thing!
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Originally Posted by stormgirl I'll be 40 in a couple weeks, DP is 39. My others were born when I was 30 and 36, and we had a 2nd trimester loss last year. His twins were born when he was 33.
This has been a rough ride, as with the last 2 pregnancies. Hyperemesis, which this time I am taking zofran for, which is helping. Im still often queasy, but the vomiting is almost gone. Totally exhausted, though! I could nap every day, but don't always get to with the boys.
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hope you're feeling better soon.
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Originally Posted by JessieBird The biggest life change I'm going through now is that as of last Friday, I'm officially a SAHM. I liked my job and having DS in daycare was working out well enough but the days were going by too quickly and I really don't want to miss a thing. I think my age has something to do with that - time is more precious than it was, yk?
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big change, but sounds like a positive one. enjoy!
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Originally Posted by Qbear'smama My DD's birthday is April 19 also! (2006) she's in good company!!  She and I are both Aries, makes for a spirited meeting of the minds! |
it sure does! dd and i are both aries and i was sort of hoping for a houseful of aries women (for my pisces husband to contend with).
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Originally Posted by baby4at44 baby4at44, 44, 54 , 05/02/2011, 
Also, I have an 18 year time span between births. I have 3 sons: 24, 20 & 17months old & 1 in the oven!
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wow, how cool. there are 20 years between my mom (she's the oldest) and her youngest brother. i always liked the idea of that (tough to do, however, when i didn't have my first until 35).
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Originally Posted by myk thanks  the amnio went well. it HURT, but i expected it to (i have a much lower pain threshold than average people). so far no amniotic leaks or anything, just mild cramping. i should get the FISH test results in 2-3 days and the karyotype in 2 weeks or so.
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thinking of you.
I told her I am not crazy about all the ultrasound exposure and want to talk more about it at my next appointment. In the meantime, I scheduled a consult with a CNM at another hospital who (I have heard) really believes in the spirit of midwifery and is not overly medicalized.
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