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* Name: Keely
* EDD: 21/12/2011

* Age: 38, and will be 39  at EDD
* Location: Tacoma, WA (for now), but baby will be born in Adelaide, South Australia.
* What number child is this for you: This will be our 2nd.
* Family: My guy (Cecil) is 44 and my son (Tiberius) is 19 months. We are also owned by 5 cats.

 

Add me....add me!!

post #202 of 323
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my OB recommended twice-a-week NSTs because of an increased amount of amniotic fluid.  i started last tuesday and am going tuesday and friday until baby arrives.  they tell me everything is great when i go. 

 

my gut also tells me it's nonsense and it's getting frustrating because every time i go for an appt, they tell me something else that's "wrong" with me.  i think i've heard it so much that i'm starting to believe it.  i tend to avoid ultrasounds during pregnancy (or any other type of monitoring), but i think i'm just starting to worry about baby (even though s/he is moving all the time and there is no indication that there is a problem).  i guess i agreed to the NSTs just to set my mind at ease. 

 

sorry you're having to deal with this.


hug.gif sorry to you, too. how did you find out you have an increased amount of amniotic fluid? you can always decide to stop having the NSTs if that's not working for you. but if it is easing your mind, that's worth something for sure.

 

i've decided that since i am not exhibiting any of the reasons to have a NST, i am going to say no thank you.

 

post #203 of 323
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welcome keely (and congrats)!


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hug.gif sorry to you, too. how did you find out you have an increased amount of amniotic fluid? you can always decide to stop having the NSTs if that's not working for you. but if it is easing your mind, that's worth something for sure.

 

i've decided that since i am not exhibiting any of the reasons to have a NST, i am going to say no thank you.

 

 

i had a low lying placenta, so they did an u/s to make sure that was no longer an issue (it isn't), but then they discovered an increased amount of fluid.  like i said, it seems like they find something wrong every time i go.  i've actually canceled two appointments in the last month because i just hate going.  they also find some reason to bring up my possibly needing a c-section (i can't remember the last time i had an appt when someone didn't mention the dreaded "c" word). 

 

i was so confident at the beginning at this pregnancy.  committed to having my vbac and sure that i could, but the closer i get to my due date (just two weeks away now), the less sure i am.  and i know that's such a bad place for my head to be right now.  i just haven't been feeling very good lately (physically or emotionally).  i usually feel very healthy and vibrant, but just haven't lately.  i'm having pelvic pain and have just been down right lazy.  dh has been great.  being very supportive.  i know he sees that i'm not doing well, so he's doing all he can to stay positive and to convince me that i can do this, but it just seems like my care providers aren't in my corner.  we're planning on staying at home and laboring as long as we can, but i fear what will happen when we get to the hospital.  what if i'm just not tough enough?

 

sorry, i'm just having a pity party. gloomy.gif
 

 


Edited by samstress - 4/20/11 at 6:19pm
post #204 of 323
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Originally Posted by samstress View Post

welcome keely (and congrats)!


 

i had a low lying placenta, so they did an u/s to make sure that was no longer an issue (it isn't), but then they discovered an increased amount of fluid.  like i said, it seems like they find something wrong every time i go.  i've actually canceled two appointments in the last month because i just hate going.  they also find some reason to bring up my possibly needing a c-section (i can't remember the last time i had an appt when someone didn't mention the dreaded "c" word). 

 

i was so confident at the beginning at this pregnancy.  committed to having my vbac and sure that i could, but the closer i get to my due date (just two weeks away now), the less sure i am.  and i know that's such a bad place for my head to be right now.  i just haven't been feeling very good lately (physically or emotionally).  i usually feel very healthy and vibrant, but just haven't lately.  i'm having pelvic pain and have just been down right lazy.  dh has been great.  being very supportive.  i know he sees that i'm not doing well, so he's doing all he can to stay positive and to convince me that i can do this, but it just seems like my care providers aren't in my corner.  we're planning on staying at home and laboring as long as we can, but i fear what will happen when we get to the hospital.  what if i'm just not tough enough?

 

sorry, i'm just having a pity party. gloomy.gif
 

 


hug2.gif

 

try to embrace where you are right now. its ok to feel down. and probably better to face your fears rather than stuff them away somewhere, only to have them surface later (like in labor).

 

i recently received a tip from a nice intuitive woman who said that when you have a wish or intention you want to manifest, write down your wish (such as the birth you want to have), light a candle, and speak your wish 7 times per day for 7 days.

 

you can totally do this, and you will!

 

xo

 

post #205 of 323

I am 32 weeks today, still doing UP. I gained a pound since last month and surprisingly I am only measuring 1cm. I have almost measured 4-5 ahead. I feel very well, we have house buying stress, but that can't be avoided. Otherwise I feel good physically. I walk 3-4 times a week. It is getting much harder and I am slowing down a lot and enjoying these last few weeks. 

post #206 of 323
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Originally Posted by BHappy View Post

(cross posted in May & June DDCs)

 

 

My OB today is recommending weekly NSTs. shrug.gif

 

From the little research I've done, I've found the following:

 

"A NST may be performed if:

  • You sense that the baby is not moving as frequently as usual
  • You are overdue
  • There is any reason to suspect that the placenta is not functioning adequately

 

"If your baby's heart beats faster (at least 15 beats per minute over his resting rate) while he's moving for at least 15 seconds on two separate occasions during a 20-minute span, the result is normal, or "reactive." A normal result means that your baby is probably doing fine for now. Your practitioner may want to repeat the test every week (or more often) until your baby's born.

"If your baby's heart doesn't beat faster while he's moving or your baby doesn't move after about 90 minutes, the result is "nonreactive." A nonreactive result doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong. It just means that the test didn't provide enough information and you may need to take it again in an hour or take other tests such as a biophysical profile or contraction stress test.

"However, a nonreactive result could indicate that your baby isn't getting enough oxygen or that there are problems with the placenta."

 

And then, the path can lead to [as I suspected...]:

 

"If your practitioner thinks that your baby's no longer doing well in the womb, she'll probably decide to induce labor."

 

Aside from the exposure to ultrasound, which I do not want (as DH put it: you don't even want to be monitored during labor, why would you want this now??), I have none of the "risk factors" indicated. But since I am over 40, the OB recommends. My gut feeling is: NONSENSE.

 

Anyone else faced with this decision? What did you decide, and why?

 

 


I'm 38. I see a midwife and think it's rubbish that just because I'm over 35, I'm at a higher risk of complications. I'm healthy. I eat mostly whole foods in healthy and well balanced amounts. I have taken great care of my body and my system and will likely continue to... I had ONE u/s and do not plan on having another. I have had ZERO vaginal exams since becoming pregnant and have had my blood drawn four times. Once for the usual battery of tests and three times very early on in the pregnancy for hcg level doubling times in order to rule out a repeat ectopic. I will likely have a glucose test to make sure I don't also need to keep a better eye on my blood sugar levels. That will the full extent of the testing I'll have during my pregnancy.

 

The only thing I'm at a higher risk of is unnecessary interventions by idiot OBs who automatically think I'm at a higher risk just because of my age. This will be my first child, and the single biggest lesson I am learning about being a mother is to trust my intuition. If you think it's nonsense, after doing the requisite research to explore ALL sides of the issue, than it likely is... but you know, I'm not a doctor or anything.

 

eyesroll.gif

 

In any case, I know what it feels like to have people second-guess your gut and try to convince you to ignore it. I'm sorry you're going through that, 'cause it sucks. 

 

post #207 of 323

Hi Ladies!  May I join in the fun?

 

My name is Jennifer and I'm expecting my second child in November (11/27).  I'll be 39 when I deliver and DH will be 42.  We have a 4 year old DD and honestly thought we were done, but when the infamous 'clock' started ticking a few months ago, I realized how sorry I'd be if we didn't at least try for one more.  So voila!  It happened our first month of trying, so I figure that it was meant to be.  Knowing for sure that this will be my last pregnancy, I'm trying to appreciate and enjoy each moment and experience (even the not-so-fun ones!)

 

I'm a labor and delivery nurse as well as a student nurse-midwife (I'll be graduating shortly after the baby is born).  My experience makes this pregnancy super scary because I know WAY more than I wish I did!  I work in a large tertiary care center with tons and tons of intervention.  I have no choice but to deliver there myself (we have no birth centers within a driveable distance and I'm just not comfortable with a homebirth for myself), so I'm going to try very hard to have as little intervention as possible without micromanaging my own delivery experience.  We'll see how that goes!

 

It's great to see all of you "more mature" mommas out there--you inspire me that I can do this too!

 

 

post #208 of 323

congrats ! and welcome, jennifer love.gif

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I'm 38. I see a midwife and think it's rubbish that just because I'm over 35, I'm at a higher risk of complications. I'm healthy. I eat mostly whole foods in healthy and well balanced amounts. I have taken great care of my body and my system and will likely continue to... I had ONE u/s and do not plan on having another. I have had ZERO vaginal exams since becoming pregnant and have had my blood drawn four times. Once for the usual battery of tests and three times very early on in the pregnancy for hcg level doubling times in order to rule out a repeat ectopic. I will likely have a glucose test to make sure I don't also need to keep a better eye on my blood sugar levels. That will the full extent of the testing I'll have during my pregnancy.

 

The only thing I'm at a higher risk of is unnecessary interventions by idiot OBs who automatically think I'm at a higher risk just because of my age. This will be my first child, and the single biggest lesson I am learning about being a mother is to trust my intuition. If you think it's nonsense, after doing the requisite research to explore ALL sides of the issue, than it likely is... but you know, I'm not a doctor or anything.

 

eyesroll.gif

 

In any case, I know what it feels like to have people second-guess your gut and try to convince you to ignore it. I'm sorry you're going through that, 'cause it sucks. 

 

 

yep. statistics are useful. but we have to remember that *we* are not statistics ! thumb.gif
 

 

post #210 of 323
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welcome jennifer and congrats! 

 

i too will deliver at 39 (just had a birthday last week) and have a 4-year-old dd.  and this will (most likely) be our last.  so glad you found us. smile.gif

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I'm a labor and delivery nurse as well as a student nurse-midwife  I'm just not comfortable with a homebirth for myself),

 

 


I must admit tht freaked me out a little bit!   lol

I am hoping for a homebirth this time...you experience with l&d, is that what has you not comfortable? I am sure my lack of experience is a big part of my desire for a homebirth...besides the fact that I am just to lasy to go to the hospital...lol
 

 

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I must admit tht freaked me out a little bit!   lol

I am hoping for a homebirth this time...you experience with l&d, is that what has you not comfortable? I am sure my lack of experience is a big part of my desire for a homebirth...besides the fact that I am just to lasy to go to the hospital...lol
 

 


I'm sorry-- don't let that freak you out.  I think homebirth, under the right circumstances with the right experienced midwives, is perfectly safe and a great choice.  For me, I had a rough pregnancy last time (pre-eclampsia and then my daughter had neonatal sepsis, despite being treated with Penicillin during labor) that spooked me just enough that I want to stay within the confines of the hospital for delivery.  I think nurses are cursed sometimes--we have the weirdest things happen to us! 

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A little late getting around to posting here, but our little girl Lily Anh was born April 27, happy and healthy at home in the birth pool!  Only 9 hours of labor from start to finish, six of which were me trying to get some sleep right next to my slumbering DH, who was completely oblivious to it all until I woke him at 5 AM telling him my water had just broken.  Everything went perfectly, no complications.  She was 8 lbs 4 oz, 19 inches long, and cute as a button!

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A little late getting around to posting here, but our little girl Lily Anh was born April 27, happy and healthy at home in the birth pool!  Only 9 hours of labor from start to finish, six of which were me trying to get some sleep right next to my slumbering DH, who was completely oblivious to it all until I woke him at 5 AM telling him my water had just broken.  Everything went perfectly, no complications.  She was 8 lbs 4 oz, 19 inches long, and cute as a button!



Congratulations!

 

I will be 35 weeks on Thursday. My kids blew up the birth pool and I have most everything ready! Can't wait.

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Ooh! Add me please!!!! 

 

 

Shenjall (Laura) 

38, Dh 45

EDD January 14, 2012

 

 

This will be our 7th child in our blended family.  The 3rd for us together.  We're quite surprised and excited.  Dh had a vasectomy 9 years ago and just had it reversed this past March.  We were given a 50% *at best* chance and didn't think it would happen for some time, if at all.  So, to get a BFP in our second cycle post-vr, is quite shocking to us! Lol!  But, we couldn't be more excited.  Its been a 4 year journey to get here.  

 

I'm currently waiting to hear back from the midwives to see if I got in.  (they are in huge demand here) We had a home birth with our last and want to do another homebirth.  I'd like to avoid hospitals at all cost this time, with my "advanced maternal age" and all.  ;)

 

Let the games begin.  :) 

 

 

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I've been quietly watching this thread for a few weeks.  I'm currently 28w5d with #2.  I had a miscarriage last summer, so I didn't want to join this tribe until I knew I would still be pregnant when I turned 35.  It was my birthday last week, and lo and behold...I'm still pregnant (yay!). 

 

Sooo...Now I'm officially 35 and pregnant.  Let's hear it for AMA thumb.gif

 

So here's me:

 

Erica: 35 yrs old

 

DH is 38 yrs old

 

DS: 23mo

 

EDD August 6th 2011

We're having another boy! joy.gif

post #217 of 323

I will be 35 when the baby is born.  EDD 12/7/11.  DH will be 38.  This is our first.  I had an early m/c in January.  I am 12 weeks today.  We're keeping the sex a surprise!  I have been married 6 years, but felt strongly I wanted to wait to have a child until important other things were in place: what city to live in, to finish school, etc.  Because of my miscarriage and because of my age, I do feel anxiety!  I wish it wasn't so!  

post #218 of 323

Hello! I'd like to be added to the roll call, please. 

 

my age at baby's birth 37

partner's age at baby's birth 31

EDD October 11

sex of the baby it's a girl! 

 

I've read some of the comments that have been posted about being categorized "high risk." I asked one of the midwives about it, and she said it's not an issue. She said they see many moms who are over 35, and that it's quite normal. She even downplayed the risk of Down's syndrome and encouraged me not to get screened if I knew I wouldn't be willing to do an amnio.

 

I think this area I live in has a lot of older moms and is very kid-friendly, and it's quite normal to see pregnant women who look to be in their late 30s or early 40s. I think the only thing she asked related to my age was whether the baby was naturally conceived, which she was (but we had tried two IUIs prior that were unsuccessful).

 

eleithyia, I hope you'll be able to enjoy the pregnancy as it goes on. I find that limiting my research on the internet or in books helped lessen my anxiety. But I know how nerve-wracking it is during the first trimester. 

post #219 of 323
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congrats snguyen and welcome to lily!  no worries about posting late.  most folks never come back to announce their births (i usually have to go around fishing).  so glad you did. :)
 

welcome laura (and congrats).  so glad you found us.

 

welcome and congrats erica.  i understand you need to wait to join.  i had a miscarriage after our first and was quite anxious when i got pregnant for the third time.  imagine you're breathing a lot easier now.
 

welcome Eileithyia.  the anxiety is normal (especially after a loss), but try to enjoy it.  i had our first (a healthy baby girl) at nearly 35 and just had our second (a healthy baby boy) at 39.  congrats to you!


welcome and congrats beautifulmoon.

 

as for me - jude michael was born may 16th at 7:45am.  he was a healthy 9 lbs 1 oz and 20 3/4 inches long.  our stubborn boy (and appropriately, a taurus) arrived 13 days past his due date.  in spite of several doctors telling me i was putting my baby at risk for brain damage or of being stillborn and insisting i schedule a c-section, jude was born via a drug-free VBAC at nearly 42 weeks. love.gif

 

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as for me - jude michael was born may 16th at 7:45am. he was a healthy 9 lbs 1 oz and 20 3/4 inches long. our stubborn boy (and appropriately, a taurus) arrived 13 days past his due date. in spite of several doctors telling me i was putting my baby at risk for brain damage or of being stillborn and insisting i schedule a c-section, jude was born via a drug-free VBAC at nearly 42 weeks. love.gif

Wow! Congrats mom and welcome to Jude! Good for you, going with your gut and sticking with your plan. I'm sure you are really glad you didn't let those Dr.s bully you. smile.gif
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