pregnant and over 35 tribe - Page 14

[matyja]

Originally Posted by Snuggle

Another over-40 mama here! I will be 42 when this little boy makes his appearance earth-side. I was 36 with my first, and 38 with my second. If it was up to me, I would keep on having babies until the egg farm shuts down, but I have to admit, the increase of genetic issues has me kind of creeped out. I don't know if I can handle the stress again. My religion forbids artificial birth control, but allows natural family planning for grave reasons, and I do believe the higher odds of a child with chromosomal abnormalities probably qualifies as grave reason... I'm just not sure if I could actually actively decide to not get pregnant anymore. It's such a dilemma! I feel kind of gipped (sp?) because I don't feel 41. I don't feel any older than with my first, energy-level-wise, or with regards to general physical condition. Ah well, it is what it is!

Anyway, I would definitely join an over-40 tribe, I love talking to other expectant moms my age. Most preggo women I run into (online or real life) are in their late twenties.  

I totally agree with you saying "if it was up to you, you would keep having babies until the egg farm shuts down".  My question is.... if it's not up to you (and dh I assume) then who is it up to?   I'm of the mindset that if it's supposed to happen, it will.  Just welcomed ds last week (I'm 42 now) and already want another one!!!  (he makes baby #5).  Is that crazy??? 

[Snugglebugmom]

Originally Posted by matyja 

I totally agree with you saying "if it was up to you, you would keep having babies until the egg farm shuts down".  My question is.... if it's not up to you (and dh I assume) then who is it up to?  

Good point! First off, we need to use common sense in that we are on a very low income and if we are to have another baby, DH would really need either a different job or an extremely large, extremely unlikely raise. Not being able to pay for food and clothes for our children constitutes grave reason to not have another one right away. And I am afraid that my time is limited. How many more years can I realistically expect to be fertile?

I am already so fortunate, I have been blessed with two healthy girls and one healthy little boy-on-the-way, it feels greedy to keep expecting more... I don't know, it's hard to express my feelings on this adequately, especially in a language that is not my own. 

[lindab13]

Hi everyone, I was 50 when I had my twins, natural birth no problems at all. Very easy smooth pregnancy. I was suppose to be going trhough the change of life (menopause) and low and behold healthy babies. My other five children all grown were happy but afraid for all of us. Both my grandparents where older when they had their last babies also. One was 49 the other 51. life is a mystery no one knows what might happen. I feel (after the shock) have be blessed with seven healthy childrené

[samstress]

Originally Posted by matyja 

I totally agree with you saying "if it was up to you, you would keep having babies until the egg farm shuts down".  My question is.... if it's not up to you (and dh I assume) then who is it up to?   I'm of the mindset that if it's supposed to happen, it will.

i was wondering this as well and agree that if it's supposed to happen it will.

Originally Posted by Snugglebugmom 

I am already so fortunate, I have been blessed with two healthy girls and one healthy little boy-on-the-way, it feels greedy to keep expecting more... I don't know, it's hard to express my feelings on this adequately, especially in a language that is not my own. 

i think you said it quite well and i agree.  i feel quite fortunate to have two beautiful, healthy children and think that perhaps i should quit while i'm ahead.  why should i think that i should keep being so fortunate and why should i want for more when others have much less.  however, at the same time, i would love my family to grow.  my husband and children bring me more joy than anything else.
 

Originally Posted by lindab13 

Hi everyone, I was 50 when I had my twins, natural birth no problems at all. Very easy smooth pregnancy. I was suppose to be going trhough the change of life (menopause) and low and behold healthy babies. My other five children all grown were happy but afraid for all of us. Both my grandparents where older when they had their last babies also. One was 49 the other 51. life is a mystery no one knows what might happen. I feel (after the shock) have be blessed with seven healthy childrené

excellent!

my grandmother had her youngest at 42 (and that was 50 years ago), so why shouldn't i be able to as well?

[contactmaya]

Quote:

Originally Posted by lindab13 

Hi everyone, I was 50 when I had my twins, natural birth no problems at all. Very easy smooth pregnancy. I was suppose to be going trhough the change of life (menopause) and low and behold healthy babies. My other five children all grown were happy but afraid for all of us. Both my grandparents where older when they had their last babies also. One was 49 the other 51. life is a mystery no one knows what might happen. I feel (after the shock) have be blessed with seven healthy childrené

Wow, you make me feel so young at 44. Im 13 weeks now.

It is really amazing and wonderful that you were able to do this. It does sound like there is a genetic predisposition in your family to being able to have children at a later age. Its all such a mystery and seems so random that some women can have children later and others cant. Diet is supposed to make a difference. Were you particularly health conscious i wonder? 

AFM, i do watch what i eat, but dont do any special diets. There were a couple of older women on this board who were raw foodists.

There is a study that says women 44 or older who conceive naturally and bring the baby to term are more likely to live to 100.  Do people live to an older age in your family? I will dig up that link.

I wonder if you could contribute to  this thread  if you have the time

http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1314853/over-43-and-pregnant-are-you-taking-extra-precautions/  

All the best in your pregnancies and births to other over 35 mamas on this board!

[amycolefarrell]

Our son, Lennon August was born at 12:59 am on August 28. 8.09lbs, 24ins long and healthy! We had a wild ride of a labor experience. After laboring naturally for 16 hours at a birthing center, we were transfered to the attached hospital because our son's head was in the wrong position. We labored an additional 3 hours there with a walking epidural and oxytocin drip with no change. He was then born by c-section. There was green water in my amniotic fluid so they were happy to not have waited any longer. His little head had it's "cone" in the wrong place, evidence that he was trying with all his mite to come out, just in the wrong way. By the time of the c-section birth, I was fully dilated and he was as far down as he could go...we were ready for it to happen. Though it was such a surprise detour from our original plan, we feel like we took every step to stick to it and feel good about our birth experience. Also, at 38, I worried during the whole pregnancy that I should have gotten amnio to rule out genetic disorders but now feel proud that I didn't give into my fears and trusted that, based on the screening tests, my child was healthy. Thanks for letting me share! 

[samstress]

Originally Posted by contactmaya 

There is a study that says women 44 or older who conceive naturally and bring the baby to term are more likely to live to 100.  I will dig up that link.

i'd be interested to read that study.
 

Originally Posted by amycolefarrell 

Our son, Lennon August was born at 12:59 am on August 28. 8.09lbs, 24ins long and healthy! We had a wild ride of a labor experience. After laboring naturally for 16 hours at a birthing center, we were transfered to the attached hospital because our son's head was in the wrong position. We labored an additional 3 hours there with a walking epidural and oxytocin drip with no change. He was then born by c-section. There was green water in my amniotic fluid so they were happy to not have waited any longer. His little head had it's "cone" in the wrong place, evidence that he was trying with all his mite to come out, just in the wrong way. By the time of the c-section birth, I was fully dilated and he was as far down as he could go...we were ready for it to happen. Though it was such a surprise detour from our original plan, we feel like we took every step to stick to it and feel good about our birth experience. Also, at 38, I worried during the whole pregnancy that I should have gotten amnio to rule out genetic disorders but now feel proud that I didn't give into my fears and trusted that, based on the screening tests, my child was healthy. Thanks for letting me share! 

congrats to you amy and welcome to baby lennon.  so glad you have a healthy little boy. :)

[contactmaya]

Congratulations Amycolfarell!

Samstress, ill look up the link....

[samstress]

Originally Posted by contactmaya 

Samstress, ill look up the link....

[contactmaya]

Wow, so annoying. I cannot find that link anywhere. Not on my computer, not on google, and not where i thought i had posted it here. However,  this was another interesting article i found at the same time. 

http://www.immortalhumans.com/increase-your-lifespan-by-having-a-baby-in-your-40s-or-50s/

I know that research is out there somewhere. I remember distinctly the numbers '100' and '44' being mentioned. I will find it eventually!

[wigirlprb]

So wonderful to see everyone on here!  I'm 41 (42 when baby arrives) and pregnant with our 6th.  I'll admit to being a bit scared by the statistics but I figure this was an unexpected blessings and know all will work out fine!  I'm due on May 6th.  Looking forward to getting to know you all!

[Purple Piggie]

Hi everyone,

I'm new here too. I just got my BFP yesterday and am so excited! I'll be turning 38 in a couple of weeks. The first time I went through all this, I was 33. I'm so much more exhausted right now (and I'm only 4 weeks along) than I remember being 5 years ago. My due date is June 8/12.

My pregnancy was the result of a frozen embryo transfer. The embryo was frozen when I was 33 and DH was 46. He's now 51 and not looking forward to being a new dad again at that age.

It's nice to see other +35 ladies having healthy uncomplicated pregnancies. It is definitely reassuring. For those of you who have had other pregnancies and births, how does this compare to past ones at a younger age?

[UnassistedMomma]

I'm 41 now and due within a couple of days before my 42nd birthday.  This was very, VERY unplanned and I'm still processing.  I only skimmed this very  long thread, but it was nice to see so many stories of healthy, normal pregnancies and babies for us older moms!

[samstress]

welcome to our newest members.  i'm a little behind on updating the birth announcements in the original post (it's pretty common for ladies to check in here a few times while pregnant, but to never come back and let us know they had their babies, so i have to seek the info out myself).  i'm a wee bit busy, of course, with a 4-month-old, but would like to keep this thread going because i got a lot of support here while pregnant with my son (and who knows, i may be back again as a pregnant mama yet again).
 

Originally Posted by contactmaya 

Wow, so annoying. I cannot find that link anywhere. Not on my computer, not on google, and not where i thought i had posted it here. However,  this was another interesting article i found at the same time. 

http://www.immortalhumans.com/increase-your-lifespan-by-having-a-baby-in-your-40s-or-50s/

I know that research is out there somewhere. I remember distinctly the numbers '100' and '44' being mentioned. I will find it eventually!

this is great, thanks.  i just shared it with all my AMA friends as well.  if/when you find the other one, please share.
 

Originally Posted by wigirlprb 

So wonderful to see everyone on here!  I'm 41 (42 when baby arrives) and pregnant with our 6th.  I'll admit to being a bit scared by the statistics but I figure this was an unexpected blessings and know all will work out fine!  I'm due on May 6th.  Looking forward to getting to know you all!

congrats and welcome.  i see you're in redlands.  we're practically neighbors -- i'm in upland. :)
 

Originally Posted by Purple Piggie 

Hi everyone,

I'm new here too. I just got my BFP yesterday and am so excited! I'll be turning 38 in a couple of weeks. The first time I went through all this, I was 33. I'm so much more exhausted right now (and I'm only 4 weeks along) than I remember being 5 years ago. My due date is June 8/12.

It's nice to see other +35 ladies having healthy uncomplicated pregnancies. It is definitely reassuring. For those of you who have had other pregnancies and births, how does this compare to past ones at a younger age?

congrats and welcome.  i totally hear you on the exhausted front.  i had my first just shy of my 35th birthday and then my son (a little over four years later) just after i turned 39.  both pregnancies were uneventful and both babies and i were healthy throughout, but i did feel a lot more tired with the second.  luckily, since ds arrived, i seem to have my usual stamina back.  i'm tired, of course, what mom with a newborn isn't, but i don't feel any worse than i did after my first.  i actually probably feel better this time around.  i think i've just been a lot more at ease with baby #2.  being a new mom was a bit stressful for me, but i haven't had the same stresses this time.  heck, i may just do this again. :) 
 

Originally Posted by UnassistedMomma 

I'm 41 now and due within a couple of days before my 42nd birthday.  This was very, VERY unplanned and I'm still processing.  I only skimmed this very  long thread, but it was nice to see so many stories of healthy, normal pregnancies and babies for us older moms!

congrats and welcome.  i'm hoping to just keep adding to the birth announcement list (plan on adding ages -- not sure why i didn't to begin with) so other AMA mamas can see how many of us are having happy and healthy babies past 35.

[Purple Piggie]

Unfortunately, things aren't going so well for me right now. I got a beta HCG test on Sept 30th that was 42 and the nurse was cautiously optimistic. Retesting on October 2nd showed my hcg levels have dropped to 21, so basically the nurse said there's no hope for the pregnancy. I'll be checking again on Oct 7th. My DD was the result of IVF and we had 8 frozen embryos. I tried with single FET in June and it was negative. Then I tried again in September ( they had to thaw 2 to get one viable one) and was so happy to see the BFP on the stick. Too good to be true I guess.

[samstress]

oh, mama, i'm so sorry.  definitely thinking of you. 

[Purple Piggie]

Well, it's official - no baby joy for me. :(  My HCG level came back as 1.6 today. Now I just have to wait for AF. My second attempt at frozen embryo transfer is another failure, but at least I was pregnant for a week or two. It would have been easier not to have known, quite honestly, but at least I know my body is still ready and willing. Just need a healthy little embryo to call it home and then I'll hopefully be back here!

[Flor]

Just found you ladies. I'm 35, expecting baby number 2 sometime this month. My dh is 41. I was 28 when I had my first.  I also have a 16 year old dss and an 8 yo ds.

Edited by Flor - 10/8/11 at 10:31am

[DiannaK]

Hello mommas!

I'm Dianna, currently expecting Baby #5 -- when this baby comes, I will have a 17 yo daughter, a 6 year old daughter, and 4 year old identical twin sons. Woo Hoo! Busy house!

I'll be 39 when this baby comes ... my husband will be 46. So glad to meet you ladies!

[greenmama66]

Originally Posted by samstress 

welcome to our newest members.  i'm a little behind on updating the birth announcements in the original post (it's pretty common for ladies to check in here a few times while pregnant, but to never come back and let us know they had their babies, so i have to seek the info out myself).  i'm a wee bit busy, of course, with a 4-month-old, but would like to keep this thread going because i got a lot of support here while pregnant with my son (and who knows, i may be back again as a pregnant mama yet again). 

this is great, thanks.  i just shared it with all my AMA friends as well.  if/when you find the other one, please share. 

congrats and welcome.  i see you're in redlands.  we're practically neighbors -- i'm in upland. :) 

congrats and welcome.  i totally hear you on the exhausted front.  i had my first just shy of my 35th birthday and then my son (a little over four years later) just after i turned 39.  both pregnancies were uneventful and both babies and i were healthy throughout, but i did feel a lot more tired with the second.  luckily, since ds arrived, i seem to have my usual stamina back.  i'm tired, of course, what mom with a newborn isn't, but i don't feel any worse than i did after my first.  i actually probably feel better this time around.  i think i've just been a lot more at ease with baby #2.  being a new mom was a bit stressful for me, but i haven't had the same stresses this time.  heck, i may just do this again. :)  

congrats and welcome.  i'm hoping to just keep adding to the birth announcement list (plan on adding ages -- not sure why i didn't to begin with) so other AMA mamas can see how many of us are having happy and healthy babies past 35.

I had my baby at home after a 44 minute labor (so fast) on my 45th birthday(so cute to share a birthday with him). Everything went super well and he's a super healthy 2.5 month old now.