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post #281 of 323

Hello fine Mothering women-

 

I'll be 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and I'm so happy to find this forum. I'm still getting my mind around this pregnancy; I'm 47 years-old and have 2 daughters, ages 13 and 15 (great pregnancies, labors, and water births with both, I might add.)  My age doesn't really bother me.  I think age is so much in our heads.  I think I feel younger than I did when I was 20, and so much more present and in the moment. I just can't get caught up in other people's perceptions of it, or negative projections. (I can only imagine what my mother will say!) I hope to enjoy every moment of my pregnancy, and have a positive attitude.  I just told my partner today, and he was upbeat and happy, and even chuckled a little to himself.  He said he'll wait to get excited until after the danger of miscarriage has past. He has had significant fertility issues and was never able to conceive with his ex. He never thought he would be a dad.  It will be a new adventure for all of us!

 

I look forward to hearing about everyone's journey.

 

namaste.gif

post #282 of 323

I am 42, and I gave birth five days ago to my third child, a perfectly healthy, perfectly perfect little boy, after a completely normal, easy, textbook pregnancy.  love.gif  Yay for older mamas!

post #283 of 323

Congratulations!  I love hearing these stories.  I have to admit that the statistics on genetic issues and such for babies of older moms scares me quite a bit, so it comforts me to hear of all the healthy, beautiful babies born to older moms.

post #284 of 323

That's fantastic!  Enjoy and all the best.

post #285 of 323

Congratulations to snugglebugmom!

 

Congratulations 4evernow!! Wow !!! all the best with your pregnancy.

post #286 of 323

Hi Mamas! I am 41, expecting my 5th child around late April/early May. My other kids will be 18, 14, 11 and 5 when the new little one arrives.

I didn't read through all the previous 15 pages of posts, hope y'all don't mind me jumping in here. I am especially wondering if there are any other single mothers with older children going it alone like me?

 

 

 

Jess

 

 

 

 

REPlaySkateboard04HL.giffencing.gifguitar.gifnocirc.gif    House full of boys. Should I bother to hope for a girl??? lol.

post #287 of 323
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Originally Posted by Purple Piggie View Post

Well, it's official - no baby joy for me. :(  My HCG level came back as 1.6 today. Now I just have to wait for AF. My second attempt at frozen embryo transfer is another failure, but at least I was pregnant for a week or two. It would have been easier not to have known, quite honestly, but at least I know my body is still ready and willing. Just need a healthy little embryo to call it home and then I'll hopefully be back here!


sorry, again mama. hug.gif  hope to see you back here soon.

 

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Originally Posted by Flor View Post

Just found you ladies. I'm 35, expecting baby number 2 sometime this month. My dh is 41. I was 28 when I had my first.  I also have a 16 year old dss and an 8 yo ds.


congrats to you!  any day now. 

 

do you know if you're having a boy or a girl (or do you prefer surprises)?

 

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Originally Posted by DiannaK View Post

Hello mommas!

 

I'm Dianna, currently expecting Baby #5 -- when this baby comes, I will have a 17 yo daughter, a 6 year old daughter, and 4 year old identical twin sons. Woo Hoo! Busy house!

 

I'll be 39 when this baby comes ... my husband will be 46. So glad to meet you ladies!


welcome and congrats!  when are you due (if you don't mind sharing)?  and do you know the sex?

 

that is a busy house.  i always wanted a full house (my mom was one of seven and her mom one of 11), although that's a little difficult when you don't start until you're 35.  would like to have one more, but we may be stopping at two.

 

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Originally Posted by greenmama66 View Post

 

I had my baby at home after a 44 minute labor (so fast) on my 45th birthday(so cute to share a birthday with him). Everything went super well and he's a super healthy 2.5 month old now.


wow, that is fast.  both of my babies were due within two weeks of my birthday and i always thought it'd be fun to share a birthday with one of them.  maybe the next one. winky.gif 

 

congrats to you mama (and thanks for checking in).  smile.gif

 

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Originally Posted by 4evernow View Post

Hello fine Mothering women-

 

I'll be 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and I'm so happy to find this forum. I'm still getting my mind around this pregnancy; I'm 47 years-old and have 2 daughters, ages 13 and 15 (great pregnancies, labors, and water births with both, I might add.)  My age doesn't really bother me.  I think age is so much in our heads.  I think I feel younger than I did when I was 20, and so much more present and in the moment. I just can't get caught up in other people's perceptions of it, or negative projections. (I can only imagine what my mother will say!) I hope to enjoy every moment of my pregnancy, and have a positive attitude.  I just told my partner today, and he was upbeat and happy, and even chuckled a little to himself.  He said he'll wait to get excited until after the danger of miscarriage has past. He has had significant fertility issues and was never able to conceive with his ex. He never thought he would be a dad.  It will be a new adventure for all of us!

 

I look forward to hearing about everyone's journey.

 

namaste.gif


congrats to you and welcome.  i can imagine it's hard wrapping your mind around it (especially after such a long time since your last one).  sounds like you have the right attitude about the whole thing.  when will you tell your mother? 

 

how exciting for your partner.  he must be thrilled.  i can understand his being cautious.  i was the same with my second (not because of my age, but because i had a miscarriage between the two). 

 

so glad you found us.
 

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Originally Posted by Snugglebugmom View Post

I am 42, and I gave birth five days ago to my third child, a perfectly healthy, perfectly perfect little boy, after a completely normal, easy, textbook pregnancy.  love.gif  Yay for older mamas!


congrats to you mama!  sounds wonderful.

 

and thanks for letting us know.  i think it's good for all the new ladies joining us to hear all these great stories from other AMA mamas. 

 

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Originally Posted by jess in hawaii View Post

Hi Mamas! I am 41, expecting my 5th child around late April/early May. My other kids will be 18, 14, 11 and 5 when the new little one arrives.

I didn't read through all the previous 15 pages of posts, hope y'all don't mind me jumping in here. I am especially wondering if there are any other single mothers with older children going it alone like me?

 

 

 

Jess

 

 

 

 

REPlaySkateboard04HL.giffencing.gifguitar.gifnocirc.gif    House full of boys. Should I bother to hope for a girl??? lol.


welcome and congrats!  don't mind you jumping in at all (there's a lot to sift through).  also, ladies here tend to come and go, so it's common that a lot of the same discussions come up.  feel free to ask or share anything you'd like. 

 

you could hope for a girl, but you'll probably just end up with another boy winky.gif, but how wonderful, a house full of boys.  here's hoping you have a beautiful and healthy child. smile.gif

 

post #288 of 323



 

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do you know if you're having a boy or a girl (or do you prefer surprises)?

 

welcome and congrats!  when are you due (if you don't mind sharing)?  and do you know the sex?

 

that is a busy house.  i always wanted a full house (my mom was one of seven and her mom one of 11), although that's a little difficult when you don't start until you're 35.  would like to have one more, but we may be stopping at two.

 

I'm due in early June 2012 - hopefully before it gets too darn hot here in KY!

 

We won't find out the gender of this baby. I did with both girls, then when I got PG with the twins, I promised my husband I wouldn't find out. It was hard, but AMAZINGLY awesome when he was able to tell me, "You have a son!" when the first baby popped out! (I knew they were Identical, but didn't know gender)

 

I'm sort-of hoping for a girl .... just vaguely. I honestly don't care. I'm praying for a strong, healthy baby!

 

I'm the oldest of 5, and my husband is the youngest of 5. Neither of our parents are gung ho about this pregnancy -- no surpise-- they've never been over the moon. I'm just a tiny bit bitter.

 

Actually --- I had my first daughter at 21 - then all the rest of the littles are from my second marriage. I was 33 when Rachel was born, 35 when the boys were born, and I'll be 39 when this baby gets here. From a physical as well as an emotional standpoint, I'm MUCH healthier now than I was when my first daughter was born.

post #289 of 323

Hi Mamas,

 

Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm 36 and we are having baby #3, a huge surprise, in February.  I'm still adjusting to the idea that I'm pregnant as I just found out a couple weeks ago at 20 weeks.  (If you're interested, you can see that story here.)

 

At the moment, I'm still feeling really overwhelmed about what it means to be starting over in the newborn phase when I really thought that we were about to head out of the baby phase and into a whole new era in the next 6-9 months as our youngest turned 3 and left diapers, started preschool, etc.  Instead, I'm heading right back to square one.  I'm a full time WOHM with a big job.  We had actually considered a 3rd baby and decided to be grateful for the two we had and not complicate an already very full and complex life.  However, I guess the universe had other plans.

 

Intellectually, I know that it'll all be fine and I'll adjust but right now, after a very tough day with my two-year-old who is in full "terrible twos", it feels like a lot. 

 

Anyway, just wanted to say "hi". 

 

Thanks.

 

 

post #290 of 323

Hi Mamas,

 

I just found out that I'm pregnant with our second child, due somewhere in the mid-May to early June range. I'll be 36 when the new addition is born, my son will be just about exactly 2. It's a bit of a surprise, and I can't quite figure out the timing when I count back so I'm hoping to get a better sense of a due date when I see my midwife tomorrow. I took a pregnancy test when my period was three days late, but it came back negative. When I got (what I now realize was morning sickness), I figured it was some kind of stomach bug. I even went to my regular doc when it didn't go away after a week. As I sat there and listed my symptoms, she was like, well....are you sure you're not pregnant? No, I assured her, I took a test! She took a blood test, but since it wouldn't be back for a few days, convinced me to stop and get an OTC test "just to humor me", haha. Sure enough, big ol' plus sign popped up immediately.

 

I had a very easy pregnancy and birth last time around, hoping this one goes the same. I was hoping to do a home water birth this time (last time it was a medication-free hospital birth with a midwife), but realistically, I don't think we can justify the $5-8,000 it would cost! (Our insurance doesn't reimburse any kind of out-of-network costs, so as far as I can tell, a homebirth would be insanely expensive.)  I had a great birth experience last time and I really like my midwife, so I'm trying to keep it all in perspective (the birth is one day, the $8,000 would definitely be put to better use over time). My biggest concern is keeping up with my very high energy toddler over the coming months!

 

Here's to hoping we all have successful, happy pregnancies!

post #291 of 323
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Originally Posted by DiannaK View Post

 

I'm due in early June 2012 - hopefully before it gets too darn hot here in KY!

 

We won't find out the gender of this baby. I did with both girls, then when I got PG with the twins, I promised my husband I wouldn't find out. It was hard, but AMAZINGLY awesome when he was able to tell me, "You have a son!" when the first baby popped out! (I knew they were Identical, but didn't know gender)

 

I'm sort-of hoping for a girl .... just vaguely. I honestly don't care. I'm praying for a strong, healthy baby!

 

I'm the oldest of 5, and my husband is the youngest of 5. Neither of our parents are gung ho about this pregnancy -- no surpise-- they've never been over the moon. I'm just a tiny bit bitter.

 

Actually --- I had my first daughter at 21 - then all the rest of the littles are from my second marriage. I was 33 when Rachel was born, 35 when the boys were born, and I'll be 39 when this baby gets here. From a physical as well as an emotional standpoint, I'm MUCH healthier now than I was when my first daughter was born.


both of ours were surprises and it was so fun waiting.  dh also announced the sex when our son was born and it was so sweet hearing it from him.

 

sorry your family isn't more supportive.  that's gotta be tough -- an extra bit of negativity that you certainly don't need.

 

i hear you about being "healthier" now.  just had my son at 39 and had my daughter (my first) at 35.  i was so much better equipped (in every way) to become a mom at that age. 

 

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Originally Posted by JuniperMama View Post

Hi Mamas,

 

Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm 36 and we are having baby #3, a huge surprise, in February.  I'm still adjusting to the idea that I'm pregnant as I just found out a couple weeks ago at 20 weeks.  (If you're interested, you can see that story here.)

 

At the moment, I'm still feeling really overwhelmed about what it means to be starting over in the newborn phase when I really thought that we were about to head out of the baby phase and into a whole new era in the next 6-9 months as our youngest turned 3 and left diapers, started preschool, etc.  Instead, I'm heading right back to square one.  I'm a full time WOHM with a big job.  We had actually considered a 3rd baby and decided to be grateful for the two we had and not complicate an already very full and complex life.  However, I guess the universe had other plans.

 

Intellectually, I know that it'll all be fine and I'll adjust but right now, after a very tough day with my two-year-old who is in full "terrible twos", it feels like a lot. 

 

Anyway, just wanted to say "hi". 

 

Thanks.

 

 


wow, mama, that is overwhelming -- especially finding out halfway through your pregnancy (with even less time to get used to the whole idea).  you'll be great (but you already knew that). smile.gif

 

so glad you found us.  welcome and congrats!

 

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Hi Mamas,

 

I just found out that I'm pregnant with our second child, due somewhere in the mid-May to early June range. I'll be 36 when the new addition is born, my son will be just about exactly 2. It's a bit of a surprise, and I can't quite figure out the timing when I count back so I'm hoping to get a better sense of a due date when I see my midwife tomorrow. I took a pregnancy test when my period was three days late, but it came back negative. When I got (what I now realize was morning sickness), I figured it was some kind of stomach bug. I even went to my regular doc when it didn't go away after a week. As I sat there and listed my symptoms, she was like, well....are you sure you're not pregnant? No, I assured her, I took a test! She took a blood test, but since it wouldn't be back for a few days, convinced me to stop and get an OTC test "just to humor me", haha. Sure enough, big ol' plus sign popped up immediately.

 

I had a very easy pregnancy and birth last time around, hoping this one goes the same. I was hoping to do a home water birth this time (last time it was a medication-free hospital birth with a midwife), but realistically, I don't think we can justify the $5-8,000 it would cost! (Our insurance doesn't reimburse any kind of out-of-network costs, so as far as I can tell, a homebirth would be insanely expensive.)  I had a great birth experience last time and I really like my midwife, so I'm trying to keep it all in perspective (the birth is one day, the $8,000 would definitely be put to better use over time). My biggest concern is keeping up with my very high energy toddler over the coming months!

 

Here's to hoping we all have successful, happy pregnancies!


congrats to you and welcome to our little group.  i too was hoping for a homebirth, but got laid off when i was about 12 weeks pregnant and just couldn't swing it (our insurance also doesn't reimburse).  luckily, you had a positive hospital birth experience, so you can look forward to another one. 

 

post #292 of 323

Aloha Mamas! I hope everyone is feeling good today smile.gif  

I would like to comment on the subject of homebirth or not. I know how it is wanting it one way but choosing something that makes more sense at the time... I have had all my babies at home, three in the water; when I first found out I was preg this time, I didn't think for one second that I wouldn't do the same (I even have my own birthing tub!) but the reality is that I would have to pay a midwife entirely out of pocket (in North Carolina, where my middle two were born, Medicaid paid for CNMs) , I have no "extra" income and the father is not in a position to help out, and my oldest son has told me flat out that he will be moved out and not having anything to do with it (I know he is being dramatic, but he will be 18 and graduating at that point). SO... I went to the Women's Center here, which has a fabulous reputation, I talked to the midwife about what I do and don't want, and I feel comfortable with the idea. Sure it's a little more clinical than what I am used to, but they are very supportive, non-intervention, and no pressure. I like the idea of going somewhere that is totally set up, there are people whose job it is to take care of things, and for a couple days I can not worry about anything but giving birth (and it's paid for, thank you state insurance). I am at a point in my life where, with my age and experience, I have nothing to prove. Yes, I could do it at home, probably unattended, and be fine, but it would be hard on me and hard on my kids in so many other ways.... I want to make it easy on myself; that is what is most important right now.

 

On a completely different topic, for the first time in any of my pregnancies, my boobs are already much bigger (not that I'm complaining, I was barely an "A") I wonder if it's because I am older and my hormones had definitely begun to shift. Anyone else have similar experience? Maybe it's an indication that I will have a girl??? I haven't decided for sure if I want to find out the gender... I am a little superstitious because when I had two boys and became preg again, I affirmed that I would find out, but then I miscarried at 16 weeks, before I even had a chance. When I got preg again shortly after, it just didn't seem to matter at all what the gender was, as long as it was healthy. So I am trying not to think about finding out, but I am scheduled for an ultrasound on Nov. 15. I guess I will feel it out then.

 

 

Jess 1sttri.gif

post #293 of 323

May I join? I'm 37 will be 38 in Feb. I'm due April fools day!!!! This is a big suprise!!!! I want my sleep. Anyway, I'm lloking forward ro meeting you moms.

post #294 of 323

Hoping to join in here and even more so hoping I can stick around.

 

I am very tentatively here because of my history. I am 44 years old and if all goes will be 45 when our little one is born. EDD June 10/2012.

 

My history: I got pregnant at age 40, Feb 2008, very excited and all seemed to be going well, had an amnio done which revealed Triploidy (a 100% fatal chromosomal issue in which the baby has a full extra set of chromosomes, 69XXX), was induced and gave birth to our little girl at 19 weeks. Was heartbroken, but continued to try with no luck for over a year and half despite very regular cycles and clear ovulation on my charts. Finally got pregnant again Dec 2010 only to suffer a missed M/C at 11 weeks, miscarried naturally after the U/S but eventually had to use misoprostol for retained tissue. 6 months later pregnant again but M/C at 7 weeks while away on vacation. 3 months later pregnant again...so hoped this would finally be it....all seemed to be going well, but another missed M/C, found out at 11 weeks U/S, this time it was twins that had stopped developing weeks before, but my body had no clue and continued to hold on...hcg was still around 80,000...waited to M/C on my own but it wasn't happening so eventually induced with misoprostol.

 

Now here I am again. After the loss in Feb I had basic RPL testing done, but nothing out of the ordinary showed up. The specialist said if I got pregnant again they would get me in for early betas and U/S. Was 6 weeks 3 days and had U/S yesterday that showed a heartbeat and everything measured on track....still such early days and I know this may end like all the other times, but I am trying to be cautiously optimistic and enjoy this chance.

post #295 of 323

halifax40 hoping all goes well.

post #296 of 323

Please add me!  I'm excited to see so many "older" mamas here.  Thanks for putting this together! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

lovinled (jen), 38yo, 4/4/12 - a boy!

post #297 of 323

Hoping all goes well with you too !FYI I got pregnant again at age 44 (I already had 5 children) and had a very uncomplicated pregnancy and birth. My son was due 10 days before my 45th birthday but decided he would rather share a birthday with me and was born at home on my 45th birthday after a very fast and painless labor. He's now a very healthy 3 month old.
 

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Hoping to join in here and even more so hoping I can stick around.

 

I am very tentatively here because of my history. I am 44 years old and if all goes will be 45 when our little one is born. EDD June 10/2012.

 

My history: I got pregnant at age 40, Feb 2008, very excited and all seemed to be going well, had an amnio done which revealed Triploidy (a 100% fatal chromosomal issue in which the baby has a full extra set of chromosomes, 69XXX), was induced and gave birth to our little girl at 19 weeks. Was heartbroken, but continued to try with no luck for over a year and half despite very regular cycles and clear ovulation on my charts. Finally got pregnant again Dec 2010 only to suffer a missed M/C at 11 weeks, miscarried naturally after the U/S but eventually had to use misoprostol for retained tissue. 6 months later pregnant again but M/C at 7 weeks while away on vacation. 3 months later pregnant again...so hoped this would finally be it....all seemed to be going well, but another missed M/C, found out at 11 weeks U/S, this time it was twins that had stopped developing weeks before, but my body had no clue and continued to hold on...hcg was still around 80,000...waited to M/C on my own but it wasn't happening so eventually induced with misoprostol.

 

Now here I am again. After the loss in Feb I had basic RPL testing done, but nothing out of the ordinary showed up. The specialist said if I got pregnant again they would get me in for early betas and U/S. Was 6 weeks 3 days and had U/S yesterday that showed a heartbeat and everything measured on track....still such early days and I know this may end like all the other times, but I am trying to be cautiously optimistic and enjoy this chance.



 

post #298 of 323

Halifax, sending you plenty of sticky vibes, and congratulations again!

 

 

 

I mentioned an article up thread, which talked about how older women, particularly  44 or older, who conceived  with their own eggs and carried to term were more likely to live to 100. I couldnt find the article, but guess what, it looks like some of this research is entering mainstream websites. Here is the same argument, only they are saying it is women over 35, and over 40 who have babies,   may live to be 100, because they are aging more slowly in general.

 

http://health.yahoo.net/articles/aging/photos/10-surprising-clues-youll-live-100#5

post #299 of 323

 

Thanks for the positive and inspiring words. Your baby is beautiful.  I feel great at just 7 weeks, though I'm pondering screening, et cetera, which I did not bother with in my two earlier pregnancies.  Just taking things a day at a time at the moment.

 

 

 

post #300 of 323
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Thanks for the positive and inspiring words. Your baby is beautiful.  I feel great at just 7 weeks, though I'm pondering screening, et cetera, which I did not bother with in my two earlier pregnancies.  Just taking things a day at a time at the moment.

 

 

 



I went for the screening and an amnio but that's such a personal decision one has to make. I just wanted to know if all was healthy, not that I would abort but just to prepare in case.

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