pregnant and over 35 tribe - Page 5

[snguyen]

Just bumpin'.

[sagewinna]

Kim 42 (Now and when EDD
DH- Scott 43 (44)
Baby #4
EDD- Jun 14, 2011
Will discover gender at birth

Hi!

We had finished our homestudy and were in the process of searching for our child through adoption when I found out I was pregnant. Total surprise. It was difficult to conceive our youngest, and 7 years after her we just figured we were done making babies. We go the low intervention/testing route, and this baby is planned to be a homebirth like her sister.

[finnegansmom]

I'm just checking in!
I'm 25 weeks today, can't believe how the time is flying.
I'm starting to get creaky and am having trouble bending over. I've never been this pregnant in the fall/winter before and have realized that putting socks on my feet isn't as easy as putting on flip flops. Ugh.

Other than that, everything is great... sailing through the weeks and getting excited for the upcoming holidays. I think the time will fy now.

Hope everyone is doing well!

[Buddhamom]

Introducing myself! I am 40, DH 41 with a 21 and 19 yr. old bio daughters and 5.5 yr. old adopted pricess that we got at 3 days old after being told 7.5 years ago we had secondary infertility and doing 2 years of unsucessful infertility treatments. AND, now BAM, surprise......PREGNANT! Totally unexpected but we are completely thrilled and excited We are due 6/8/11

[Mamatoabunch]

Annabelle 37
Jeff 41
Baby expected middle June
Baby #11
Surprise


Hello! I am 36, will be 37 next month. Dh is 40, 41 when our baby arrives. We have 10 children, in my sig, and are expecting a baby next June. This will be our 7th UP and 8th UC, and baby will be a surprise.

[Hope4six]

Hi, there, ladies!
I'd like to join the tribe.
I'll be 36 when this little one's born, DH will be 35, EDD is 4/02/11, and gender a surprise.
I have had no tests, and plan on having none unless my midwife suspects something is wrong and recommends one. I plan to have my second home birth. I absolutely loved having my last baby at home.
Glad to be here!

[mclisa]

Annabelle: love your kids' names!

[tracymom1]

Tracy, 36 when baby arrives
DH Dave will be 42
EDD 7/2/11 We will find out the gender at the birth!


Hi everyone! I am Tracy and I am officially AMA!! I had a c-section with my first, a home birth with my second and am planning a home birth with this one as well. The only testing I plan on doing is the 20 week ultrasound. I thought about skipping is, but I have had placenta previa and vasa previa with my first and just want to be sure all is well this time around.

[Mamatoabunch]

Originally Posted by mclisa

Annabelle: love your kids' names!

Thank you!

[Caryliz]

Hi Mamas! Count me in!

Caryliz, 44, DH 54, expecting DS2 somewhere around January 31, 2011.


Wondering if any other mamas have funny stories about being older and pg?

My favorite came from the u/s tech at the hospital, when I went for the initial screening and to determine date of conception. (And can I say, it always cracks me up when, right after you discover you are pg, a member of the medical profession asks the date of conception. I'm always like, "You tell me! We were trying our best, which means we have NO IDEA which episode was the one that produced results!!!" - of course only belatedly did I realize that they assumed we would know because we were using assistive reproductive technology...but I digress.) Anyway, there I am lying on the table with that giant napkin over my lap and the u/s tech, who I have to say looked about 19 (ok, I AM getting old!) looks up from her paperwork and says, "So, how did you get pregnant?"

This one kind of threw me - I mean, honestly, I guess I wasn't thinking about the larger medical picture, because the first thought that popped into my head was, "Are you kidding me? You really need me to explain this to you?!" But my better self prevailed so I just said, "Excuse me?" and she patiently tried again with "How was this child conceived?" I paused for a moment and then said, "Um, I had sex with my husband?" to which she responded brightly "Oh, that's great! It's so unusual among women your age!" This left me dumbfounded for a moment, until I blurted out, "No, actually, there's still sex after 40!"

I can never, ever come up with a good comeback on the spot, so I was particularly tickled about this one. Also gave me something to feel good about after an hour of listening to everyone describe me as (I kid you not) "geriatric". Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Buddhamom]

Good one! Yesterday we had a different Dr. doing our ultrasound who hadn't heard our story. So when we talked a little and DH said you know it has been 19 years since we last were preg. and she looked at him and asked "wait, the older two are yours as well?" And he said yes. She said she had just assumed that with our adoption 5 yrs. ago and then this surprise after the big gap of the first two that it was a second marriage *LOL*

[roslyn]

I still get the giggles when they ask me "Was this a spontaneous pregnancy?" Uh, I might be old, but the only woman I know of who had a spontaneous pregnancy was in the Bible. I don't know why they don't just ask if you used reproductive technology.

[Hope4six]

Caryliz, that was a good comeback! I'm still young enough to get asked if this was a surprise. I don't know what I'd do if someone asked how I got pregnant.LOL

[Caryliz]

Oh, people ask us all the time if this was a surprise, too (as if no woman in her right mind would do this on purpose at my age). My own mother, when I told her I was pg, blurted out, "Did you do this on purpose?!" (Um, yeah.) And a minute later came back with, "Do you know how old you'll be when this baby is born?!" (Yeah, did the math on that one, too, believe it or not... )

[tine1973]

Hi - I'd like to join too. I'm 37 and this is our second, due 6/11/2011. I don't FEEL OLD

DS was 11 weeks early, then I had a very very very early miscarriage in August. Now apparently I will have a cercage in a couple of weeks because my cervix is "incompetent." But otherwise I am very healthy and happy to be here!

[Steshi]

Sign me up for this tribe. I'll be 38 on the due date (7/7/2011), DH will be 36. I was 34 when my other child was born. Initially I wasn't planning on the genetic screeenings, but am waffling a bit. I am also high risk by being hypothyroid and a type 1 diabetic and I have to have so many appointments and tests because of those conditions, doing more tests seems like overkill. I think having those other conditions is helpful in a way, because no one has said anything about my age!

[samstress]

hello all! want to apologize (as thread starter) for being MIA as of late. guess i've been spending all my time in my ddc. didn't want to neglect this thread though because, as i've said before, this thread has brought me a lot of comfort and support in the past.

a great big CONGRATULATIONS to...

gradstudentmommy, JessieBird and honeybee who have all given birth to beautiful baby boys!

hoping42 - thinking of you and wondering if you've had your little one yet. any news?

next up for november are batlvr, jensb, juliebird and cassaba - how are you ladies feeling?

welcome to all our new members. looking forward to getting to know you.

would like to remind everyone to post any updates they have on baby's sex. we have a lot of yellow storks on our member list and would love to change some to pink or blue (especially since mine will be remaining yellow for the duration).

snguyen - thanks so much for giving our little thread some much needed bumps. i've been horribly neglectful.

how's the midwife search going? found someone yet? hope so.

Originally Posted by pregnant@40

I now have peace of mind that my son has no chromosomal abnormalities!

how wonderful! peace of mind is such a relief.

Originally Posted by audeesmom

I have the gender envelope at home and waiting for a calm moment to celebrate whether we are having a boy or girl. Is there ever a calm moment with 2 very active, high energy kids?!?

well?

Originally Posted by TXmom2

We have our "miracle" daughter, who is 14 months (after 5 years of TTC) and now are expecting another little miracle...EDD May 12, 2011 (we decided to not prevent since we thought it would take a long time again )

wow! congrats!

Originally Posted by ballmom

I had the NT done on Friday and by Monday afternoon we knew the full results. They had the blood work back that quickly! And my risk of DS or Trisomy went down to less than that of a 20 yr old!

that's great! congrats.

Originally Posted by Monkey pants

I have chosen NOT to do extra tests that some say you should do if 35+. I just think it would add to the stress level thinking something is 'wrong' or whatever before one knows for sure and not just enjoying the process of growing and giving birth. We did do the US and everything looked fine so Im not going to trouble with worrying.
Im really did not plan on having any more children so this is a fun twist in my life at this point. Enjoying each stage.

good for you. best to avoid the worry and just relax.

Originally Posted by sagewinna

We had finished our homestudy and were in the process of searching for our child through adoption when I found out I was pregnant. Total surprise. It was difficult to conceive our youngest, and 7 years after her we just figured we were done making babies.

hooray! that's wonderful. congrats!

Originally Posted by Buddhamom

Introducing myself! I am 40, DH 41 with a 21 and 19 yr. old bio daughters and 5.5 yr. old adopted pricess that we got at 3 days old after being told 7.5 years ago we had secondary infertility and doing 2 years of unsucessful infertility treatments. AND, now BAM, surprise......PREGNANT! Totally unexpected but we are completely thrilled and excited We are due 6/8/11

congrats! loving all these great stories.

Originally Posted by Caryliz

Wondering if any other mamas have funny stories about being older and pg?

My favorite came from the u/s tech at the hospital, when I went for the initial screening and to determine date of conception. (And can I say, it always cracks me up when, right after you discover you are pg, a member of the medical profession asks the date of conception. I'm always like, "You tell me! We were trying our best, which means we have NO IDEA which episode was the one that produced results!!!" - of course only belatedly did I realize that they assumed we would know because we were using assistive reproductive technology...but I digress.) Anyway, there I am lying on the table with that giant napkin over my lap and the u/s tech, who I have to say looked about 19 (ok, I AM getting old!) looks up from her paperwork and says, "So, how did you get pregnant?"

This one kind of threw me - I mean, honestly, I guess I wasn't thinking about the larger medical picture, because the first thought that popped into my head was, "Are you kidding me? You really need me to explain this to you?!" But my better self prevailed so I just said, "Excuse me?" and she patiently tried again with "How was this child conceived?" I paused for a moment and then said, "Um, I had sex with my husband?" to which she responded brightly "Oh, that's great! It's so unusual among women your age!" This left me dumbfounded for a moment, until I blurted out, "No, actually, there's still sex after 40!"

this is great! sadly, i have no funny stories, just annoying ones.

Originally Posted by roslyn

I still get the giggles when they ask me "Was this a spontaneous pregnancy?" Uh, I might be old, but the only woman I know of who had a spontaneous pregnancy was in the Bible.

now for my update...

i'm 14 weeks this week. am finally able to exhale (we had a loss last year) now that i've reached the second trimester. i'm also feeling a lot better physically (just still very tired) which is great!

had my nt scan last week and got the results from my first trimester screening. risk for trisomy 18 went down to 1/31,000 and for ds went from 1/75 to 1/360, so i feel pretty good about that. will get the second blood draw next week and then wait for second trimester results.

hope everyone is doing well.

[Caryliz]

Originally Posted by samstress

i'm 14 weeks this week. am finally able to exhale (we had a loss last year) now that i've reached the second trimester. i'm also feeling a lot better physically (just still very tired) which is great!

had my nt scan last week and got the results from my first trimester screening. risk for trisomy 18 went down to 1/31,000 and for ds went from 1/75 to 1/360, so i feel pretty good about that. will get the second blood draw next week and then wait for second trimester results.

hope everyone is doing well.

Wow!!! Congrats on such fabulous results! You must be so relieved. I remember when I got my first trimester screening results, and risk for D/S went from 1/24 to 1/180, and DH and I just danced around the kitchen!

Congrats, too, on reaching the point where you feel like you can exhale a little bit. For this very reason, we didn't tell people (aside from a very select few) about the pg until we got to the 2nd trimester - are you feeling like you can go public now? Or were you there already?

[samstress]

Originally Posted by Caryliz

Wow!!! Congrats on such fabulous results! You must be so relieved. I remember when I got my first trimester screening results, and risk for D/S went from 1/24 to 1/180, and DH and I just danced around the kitchen!

Congrats, too, on reaching the point where you feel like you can exhale a little bit. For this very reason, we didn't tell people (aside from a very select few) about the pg until we got to the 2nd trimester - are you feeling like you can go public now? Or were you there already?

yes, i am relieved. thanks. even though my risk is still higher than many, 1/360 sounded absolutely wonderful to me.

we've already gone public with most everyone (hard not to -- i look about five months pregnant). it does feel great to be able to relax and not worry so much.

thanks again.

[WhiteHorse]

I belong here too!

Heather, 40 next month, DH 39
Expecting #5 end of Apr

I have no funny stories either - but am annoyed that at this age I cannot hide pregnancy even at 11 wks (a few weeks back), my hairdresser says "so are you about 6-7 months now?" I about fell out of my chair. She is a size 0 at 44 yrs old and mom of 3, hard to find ground with her. So I said nothing. Ugh. But she did a great job on my hair so it made up for it.

And we are actually hoping for a 5th boy so JL will have a buddy (and less stuff to buy). But we'll make do with a girl if that's what we're blessed with!