Urgent Potty training advice needed!

[redvlagrl]

We are on day 2 of the potty training in 3 days system. Day 1 was awesome, some catches.

Today has been really good - she's told us every time even if we have missed a bit, there haven't been any total misses (even poos!).

She wouldn't nap either day, and now (2pm) she suddenly refuses to use the toilet or tell us.

What should we do? We have tried chilling out a bit, but she is really fighting and resistant. I don't know if we should 'make' her use the toilet or just let her pee on the floor?

[carmel23]

Is she 2.5, almost 3 years?

Does she have a little potty that she can access, or are you using the big potty?

Some kids like a motivator, like putting a penny in a jar, etc. to keep it fun and to emphasize the "gaining" aspect of potty training, and not the losing (losing babyhood, freedom, etc.)

But I would just be consistent. Don't go back to diapers, because that could make it seem like "yes there is something scary about using the potty."

Just continue to not freak out about accidents, have her help you clean them up (if possible). And say, "next time we'll make it to the potty." Do not make her pee in the toilet.

But it may take longer then 3 days. Sometimes it takes weeks. Do you have some trainers like these: http://www.zoombabygear.com/category...ning-Pants.htm

It is better to have a flood of pee (I think) and let them get all wet for training purposes, but sometimes it is nice to have a break (for mama and the child). These are really helpful.

good luck!

[PatchChild]

Kids do weird things when there are changes in their lives. One thing gets better and another slips. That seems to be their way of balancing.

Keep going with the praise and lots of extra snuggles.

[redvlagrl]

Thanks for the advice. We are doing a 3 day method which apparently works. It's supposed to be trainer free and is totally full on.

I will try the reward thing.

[EdnaMarie]

I don't see how you could make her use the toilet. At most, if you were determined, you could force her to sit on the toilet while she flailed about (if she's the flailing type), but she could hold her pee. I'd just let her pee on the floor if she wants to. Let her know that it will ALWAYS be her choice to use the toilet or not, but that she's out of diapers so the consequence is getting wet. And yes, no freaking out, LOL.

[redvlagrl]

Since my last post things have been going better. She was overtired so I nursed her to sleep for her nap. Right as she woke up I took her to the toilet and she peed and the rest afternoon was dry pretty much! All catches!

I think the problem earlier was overtiredness.

Thanks for the advice about not forcing (not that we were really going to force it) you are totally right about the consequences.

[carmel23]

Originally Posted by PatchChild

Kids do weird things when there are changes in their lives. One thing gets better and another slips. That seems to be their way of balancing.

Keep going with the praise and lots of extra snuggles.

this is so true and golden!