Ok, I know there were lots of mamas with toddlers in this ddc. And lots of mamas of older children who presumably have been here done this before. Please help!
I have a 28 month old who has done just beautifully adapting to the new baby. But now 8 weeks in...not so much. She's become aggressive and agitated and extremely whinny all the time. Wakes up at night and needs, begs, for mama milk even though she was nightweaned around 20 months.
Her new mantra is: I need you mama. Pretty clear message eh?
This breaks my heart. I feel like we prepared as well as anyone could for the birth. She was there for the birth and appeared to have a genuine good time and tells her baby sister how much she loves her all the time. I think she is ok with the baby being part of our family. She's just mad at me. Which is probably the better scenario, since the baby is innocent in all this.
Both of her parents are home with her 24/7. We give her alot of attention and do fun stuff all the time. She's clearly testing me to see if I still love her, or something of the sort.
She told us yesterday that her dog and grampa make her happy but that we, her parents, do not. Sad, but also very funny in some ways. And I am happy that she is expressing herself. We talk openly about feelings all the time, are very much AP, we're very affectionate with her, we co-sleep and she still nurses. Her schedule has stayed the same as before. We both get to spend one on one time with her both in and out of the house.
How can I help her? How can I stay sane in all this? What can I do? And how long does this last?!!
She's already been through the regression for diapers since she was very much potty learned for months before baby arrived, but then went back to wanting diapers. She blows bubbles on her lips like the baby does and has taken up babbling and screaming like the baby.
I know it's normal, but I am exhausted.
Help me!
I have a 28 month old who has done just beautifully adapting to the new baby. But now 8 weeks in...not so much. She's become aggressive and agitated and extremely whinny all the time. Wakes up at night and needs, begs, for mama milk even though she was nightweaned around 20 months.
Her new mantra is: I need you mama. Pretty clear message eh?
This breaks my heart. I feel like we prepared as well as anyone could for the birth. She was there for the birth and appeared to have a genuine good time and tells her baby sister how much she loves her all the time. I think she is ok with the baby being part of our family. She's just mad at me. Which is probably the better scenario, since the baby is innocent in all this.
Both of her parents are home with her 24/7. We give her alot of attention and do fun stuff all the time. She's clearly testing me to see if I still love her, or something of the sort.
She told us yesterday that her dog and grampa make her happy but that we, her parents, do not. Sad, but also very funny in some ways. And I am happy that she is expressing herself. We talk openly about feelings all the time, are very much AP, we're very affectionate with her, we co-sleep and she still nurses. Her schedule has stayed the same as before. We both get to spend one on one time with her both in and out of the house.
How can I help her? How can I stay sane in all this? What can I do? And how long does this last?!!
She's already been through the regression for diapers since she was very much potty learned for months before baby arrived, but then went back to wanting diapers. She blows bubbles on her lips like the baby does and has taken up babbling and screaming like the baby.
I know it's normal, but I am exhausted.
Help me!
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