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SML - Im so sorry for your loss
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SML - I am so sorry for your loss
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Originally Posted by SML27 View Post
May I come back as Waiting to be Ready?

Unfortunately, I had a MC and lost my July BFP baby. I'm devastated..
So sorry.

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just a note, i have spent the last 4 months of TTC thinking that I HAVE TO DTD THE DAYS LEADING UP TO O TO GET PREG. well i researched how to naturally conceive a girl, and apparently DTD 12 hours AFTER o is prime! so maybe your subconsciously working on a girl.
In the spirit of gentleness and good baby-making for all... Where is this info from? I kinda think it's not great info, honestly. First of all, how on earth are you going to tell when you're 12 hours post O? As opposed to 6 or 18 or 24 or 30? Temping isn't that precise, neither are OPKs (I don't think?). Secondly, 12 hours is generally considered on the high side of average egg life (unless you're CTA). I think it would be fairly rare for sperm to reach the egg when you DTD after O. Thirdly, I don't think there is any evidence that DTD after O selects for girls, even if it were to get you pregnant.

So in conclusion, get BDing.

Edit: I just found a site with the instructions for the O+12 method, and ok, if you have sex the morning of the temp rise, pregnancy is more likely. It is still a lot less likely than if you DTD before O. So it might be fun to try, but probably not for someone who is having trouble conceiving or wants to conceive right away...if you're good with possibly wasting a cycle for the possibility, based solely on anecdotal evidence, of conceiving a girl, then cool (and I mean that sincerely, we all know I love experimenting), more power to ya, and please keep us posted on the results of this method!
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Sorry for your loss SML.

I am 2 DPO today. Any cycle buddies?
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So sorry, SML.
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SML I'm sorry
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I'm so sorry SML.
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SML27... I am so sorry. Big, tight hugs!
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SML, so sorry! ((hugs))
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Can I be moved to waiting to know? I'm assuming another day of high temps tomorrow to confirm, but the temp jump was big, and all the other signs are lining up nicely so far. I'm 2dpo, and I'm so, so ready for some good news this month....
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lydiah Hm. We seem to be cycling together. I may be 1 dpo today. I should know tomorrow..

SML How awful. I'm so sorry.
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Cycle buddies

Tara2 1 DPO
Meander 2 DPO
Lydia 2 DPO.
Kyamo 1 DPO
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SML so sorry


well I actually have internet now so am looking forward to being here on a regular basis...DP was okay with a CD 11 contribution this month. It is not even a secret that I want an oops. He knows full well! SO, since I am not charting or checking anything and only going off of EWCM that was there and O pains...I can only kind of say I am 6 dpo. We will see....
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So sorry.



In the spirit of gentleness and good baby-making for all... Where is this info from? I kinda think it's not great info, honestly. First of all, how on earth are you going to tell when you're 12 hours post O? As opposed to 6 or 18 or 24 or 30? Temping isn't that precise, neither are OPKs (I don't think?). Secondly, 12 hours is generally considered on the high side of average egg life (unless you're CTA). I think it would be fairly rare for sperm to reach the egg when you DTD after O. Thirdly, I don't think there is any evidence that DTD after O selects for girls, even if it were to get you pregnant.

So in conclusion, get BDing.

Edit: I just found a site with the instructions for the O+12 method, and ok, if you have sex the morning of the temp rise, pregnancy is more likely. It is still a lot less likely than if you DTD before O. So it might be fun to try, but probably not for someone who is having trouble conceiving or wants to conceive right away...if you're good with possibly wasting a cycle for the possibility, based solely on anecdotal evidence, of conceiving a girl, then cool (and I mean that sincerely, we all know I love experimenting), more power to ya, and please keep us posted on the results of this method!
well I might as well be the experiment as I dtd at 7pm on the day of O obv after I got a temp rise in the morning... so 12 hours plus onwards.. Thanks for trying to cheer me up about my crappy timing


SML - so sorry
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based solely on anecdotal evidence, of conceiving a girl
Hmm, not only that, but it seems to go against the idea (that I believe is experimentally tested) that Y sperm are faster and less resilient, X sperm are slower and more resilient. It should be the opposite, BD very close to or after O would favour a boy, a la Shettles method.
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well I might as well be the experiment as I dtd at 7pm on the day of O obv after I got a temp rise in the morning... so 12 hours plus onwards.. Thanks for trying to cheer me up about my crappy timing
I'm sorry. I really wasn't trying to be a downer. I just think it's important to have accurate info out there. I wouldn't want a whole bunch of women aiming for DTD after O on purpose, intending to conceive a girl, and then wonder why they weren't getting pregnant, yk? I just think people should have the correct info - O typically happens before a temp rise, so if you're going to aim for after the temp rise, you should know that, while it may increase your relative chance of a girl, who knows, it will decrease your overall chance of getting pregnant.

Somebody had to say it.


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Originally Posted by Kyamo View Post
Hmm, not only that, but it seems to go against the idea (that I believe is experimentally tested) that Y sperm are faster and less resilient, X sperm are slower and more resilient. It should be the opposite, BD very close to or after O would favour a boy, a la Shettles method.
IIRC, the Shettles method was tested, but there have been other tests done more recently that discredit/contradict it. So who knows.
post #77 of 212
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Small temp jump for me this morning http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/MyFFChart - it was kind of a kooky morning though, bc DS woke me up at 5:30 (1/2 hour before normal temp time), then went back to sleep, so I went back to sleep (kinda) for another 1/2 hour. I temped at 5:30 (97.65) and 6:00 (97.77) so I just threw the temp in at 97.7. We'll see how tomorrow's temp looks. I got a -opk last night when I tested, so am guessing I caught the beginning and end of a surge.

Mentioned BDing to DH last night but he kind of laughed it off...then said something to me this morning about DTD tonight. I think he might have the EOD "rule" stuck in his head, and I didn't want to put any pressure on him. So, hopefully either Monday was good enough, or I O today and we can catch the eggie tonight
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SML -- I'm so sorry.


AFM: I *think* I might be 1DPO but am not sure since I didn't get the normal signs I get EVERY.SINGLE.MONTH for O... There has been little to no EWCM, very mild O pains but my cervix is closing and getting more firm, although still high. We have been BDing like monkeys around here and I'm worried that if I didn't O, DH is getting a little tired of BDing every night and might want to skip a night tonight... so I'm really hoping I am 1DPO. I'm kicking myself all over the place for not temping or at least using OPKs. I have a no-temp chart here - http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/ee041 It also has my pregnancy chart from my DD in case anyone is curious on that one. It was a negative before positive, triphasic chart so it's kind of a nice chart to obsess over, lol. Anyway, I'm going to wait another 2-3 days before I officially move to the 2WW just to make sure I did O. Ugh, I didn't think my obsession would kick in on the first month ... I was wrong.
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For the past 6 months when AF comes, there is brown for 3-5 days before the red comes. So when do I start? The beginning of the brown or red?

I think my O times has come and gone. We BD at least every second day so I am sure we did it at O time. Just not sure if it worked.

I have been having cramping for a couple of days now and my CM has been the same for at least a wk. Not tonnes and watery. I had a bit of creamy for a day or two and that was it.

Next month (if there is one ) I am going to check more. I might even get an OPK (is that what it is called? ) just so I can join in more with DPO and stuff like that. I could have O'd a while ago or I may still. I sure wish I knew!
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