would this be way too weird? need imput.

[rachieface]

X-posted in working/student moms.

So, I have been applying for part-time work (mostly childcare jobs where I can bring my son), and I recently received an email back from one of the potential employers. She has a 5 month old daughter, and said she would be fine with me bringing my 4 month old son--except that her daughter does not take a bottle (they have tried and tried) and thus she has to be cared for at this woman's job. Her boss does not want two kids there.

Anyway, I am thinking about offering to nurse this baby (tandem nurse with my son) for the 4 or 5 hours 3x a week that this woman is at work. Would that be totally, completely weird? I feel like this job would be a good low-key fit for me.

Would you be waayyyyy weirded out if a potential nanny essentially volunteered herself as your wet-nurse? Is this even possible? I still have more than my baby can eat although I may be starting to even out.

Just wanted some other mama advice! BTW, I have not yet met this woman....this is all through emailing due to an online job posting at my former college. So maybe I don't have anything to lose by offering? I'm just not sure....

[ewe+lamb]

Personally, I wouldn't mind this being offered, however, that certainly isn't everyone's cup of tea so if you want this job you may have to tread carefully, maybe set up a meeting before offering to wet nurse for her, it's not something that LLL would totally agree with either, it would have some effect on the mother's supply which may be detrimental for her, then there is the bonding thing as well hmmm, i would recommend that you think this through very carefully before offering, you'll also have to judge the parents and child before making the decision just to offer this to her, she may be thinking the same maybe not ..... , tricky situation but at the same time something that is given with your heart is a very special thing indeed.

[KSDoulaMama]

Well, you really don't have anything to lose, that's true.

However, if I were in her position, I'd decline and continue looking for someone who could care for my child at work. It just makes more sense. She can still be close to her baby and breastfeed as needed, which is ideal.

[trimestersdoula]

I definitely don't think you have anything to lose. I too would want my baby with me at work so I could nurse when needed but maybe she will be totally open to the option you give her as well.
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[sharr610]

nak

I would be weirded out, personally, even though I totally support shared nursing. Maybe tell her how you understand, but provide some links to help her out in her situation, one being about shared nursing and see if she gets the hint.

And you do have the potential of her referring you to others to lose, right?

good luck!