Ah, now I see.
Well, your baby is still really, really, really young. When that moment clicks that you can spend 10 minutes not preventing them from destroying, but just relaxing as they play, well, that's a glorious moment. With my first, he was about 3 when we got that moment. He's got a lot of energy, that one.
Part of it is learning to make the most of moments you have. I find it stressful to get out of the house with everyone, so we don't do it everyday. During an average week, I do errands/grocery one day, see Grandma one day, and do a playgroup/kid centric outing one day. The other two days we generally stay home. Sometimes, if the moons align, we go out, but not often. We *always* spend at least one day a week at home. Usually Mondays, as we recover from the weekend. I don't like going out on this day, so I tackle a lot of laundry, do some cleaning, and have no expectations beyond that.
I'll tell you how my life works.
On weekdays, my dh is home at 6:00pm. He doesn't bring work home. (He does go to work at 6am to make that happen). My kids go to bed at 8. The time between there can be nutty, and lots of it is tag-team parenting instead of family time. Dh watches them as I finish supper, we eat together, dh plays with them as I clean up and make his lunch. I put them to bed, and dh has some quiet time as I do that (it takes about 30 minutes). After 8:30, when the boys are asleep, I am off. I will nurse the baby, but that is it. Everything else can wait. I sit and rest and don't do much. We go to bed about 9:30, so that gives me an hour of adult/couple time with dh every night.
On weekends, we do a few fun-ish errands together. Maybe the farmers' market. Maybe somewhere else. A festival. A park. Browsing Best Buy for something. Or sometimes going to a store for me to try on a bra before I buy it. LOL. With my dh along, these chores are fun. Yes, it's a lot more work than before kids, but it's still fun. We take our time, and we like it. We also generally go out to lunch on Saturday or Sunday, and it's our big eat out of the week (the only time we do). We consider this our family time. Sometimes, instead of errands, we do a project at home. Yard work, decluttering, etc. Yes, lots of time one parent is watching the baby primarily while the other is primarily working, but we're in the same 20 feet, so we are having family time, too.
My kids have been trained (over a few years) to watch TV while we read the paper and drink coffee on Sunday mornings. That's a glorious hour, but that's the only hour of the week that that really happens. LOL
I don't do chores beyond dishes and general pick up on weekends. I wash diapers every Friday afternoon to make that happen, and I orient the week to make that happen. But, it's nice to have some time off from housework (beyond cooking and general maintainence).