The thing that really jumped out at me is how little sleep your LO is getting. 10 hrs a day is not enough at his age. My 12 mo is sleeping 7-7 and 11-1 right now. Hes much calmer than even a week ago, when his schedule was 8-6 and 11-1. Thats just a 2 hr difference, and the only thing i did was move hid bedtime back an hour. I also agree about the food. My little guy eats whatever im eating for the most part. He also still gets a bottle, and will continue to do so until probably 18 mos.
As for streamlining - i do groceries once a week, early sat morning, leaving the baby w DH. W/o the baby, i can do the po, farmers mkt, bakery and 2 grocery stores in 2 hrs. Part of that is knowing what i need and where its located. I dont stroll, i dont go down every aisle, etc.
Our evening routine goes like this: dh gets home between 6&630. Bedtime routine starts at 630, and its all DH. He gets a bath once a week during bedtime. Then he and dh lay on the bed and dh reads to him until 7. 630-7 is when i get the nighttime dipe ready, make bottles for the night, prep dinner and occassionally sit down for 5 min of me time. At 7 i go into the bedroom, change dipe, and put him to bed while dh gets "me" time. When hes down, dh is on baby duty (while hes on the computer - if he brought work home, this is when he does it) while i make dinner, we tend to eat about 8 or so.
After dinner, we relax until 9, and from 9-930 we both clean (this includes organizing & decluttering). This week's project is the kitchen, next week will be something else. We devote 30 minutes each to it and then we're done. He starts his bedtime routine while i pack his lunch, then i do my bedtime routine. We're both in bed by 1030.
During the day, my responsibilities are cleaning up any immediate mess (i.e. Vomit), feeding me and DS 2-3 meals plus snacks, changing dipes and running the dishwasher (loaded the night before). I might have to put dipes in the dryer from the night before. I might vacuum the floor if its feeling gross to my bare feet. We get out of the house once a week usually, and we might take a walk around the block if we need to the rest of the week.
For other shopping needs, we buy staples in bulk 2-3 times a year, and i try to limit target trips to 3/yr. Although im discovering that the things ive been buying at target are often cheaper at the local CVS, which saves on gas, too. I can make the shopping trip our weekly outing and go during a dead time, or i can leave the baby w dh and go during a more busy time. Its probably 50/50. Anything else is purchased online.
