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post #161 of 455
Oh, I also forgot to mention that DS is finally sleeping 8-10 hours at a stretch! Just in time. I had begun to think he would forever wake up 2-3 times a night. I am zonked from pregnancy, so it is awesome that this sleeping thing started right when it did.
post #162 of 455
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I wake about 4x a night now- and it feels like a blissful vacation.
Wow, you are one super-mama if 4x a night is a vacation! My hats off to you. 4x a night is about our normal and that's doable for me, but not ideal after a year. God, how I fantasize about just sleeping all the way through the night with no one pinching me, rolling on me, sucking on me, kicking me. . .. But I do love snuggling my little nurser at night too , so I'm not quite ready to push him to night-wean yet. Although that may be something I have to do as I get closer to being ready to TTC #2--both to get my cycles to start again and also b/c I'm not sure I can handle two LOs nursing at night. I don't mind tandem nursing, but not sure I could do it at night. . ..ah well, we'll see. Who knows what it will all look like in another 6 months.

Luckily, N has come out the other side of teething hell. His mood has gone back to the smiley, happy guy I know and he has two new teeth to work with.

aleatha5--congrats on the pregnancy! We have a number of Sept 09 mamas expecting again. And sounds like your LO learned to sleep just in time. . .hope that happens for us too.
post #163 of 455
So Rowan's 2nd top tooth is coming in. He's starting to look like a kiddo now, with more teeth.

And I was poking around in his mouth... and He's cut a MOLAR! He doesn't have but 3.5 front teeth and there's something sharp and cut there in the back! Holy Cow! Well, that would explain all the sucking on my fingers (like he was a little infant) recently!

I have to say, my life is CHANGED by "PlayCare". Because I work from home and am in graduate school, I decided to put Rowan in care 3x week/3hrs. It is the most awesome thing! He seems to be doing great with the other babies, the teachers seem really wonderful. And Me... I'm getting so much done! So, while "daycare", I wasn't too happy about the idea (that'll happen when/if I go back to FT work, this is a Great solution!! Love love.

AND at his "playcare" they sit in chairs, feed themselves, with bowls and spoons.
Yeah, Rowan doesn't do this yet. He has to be fed separately because he steals everyone else's food (man, this kiddo LOVES food). But it's helping me force this more at home. We're trying.
post #164 of 455
Just a quick question.. how many words are all your LO's saying about now? Words? Signs? Just wondering if I am doing something (anything) wrong here!
post #165 of 455
i think i've heard stories alot of babes here talking quite alot but we're still pretty non-verbal. she has the "uh-oh" and maybe a "yeah" and a "mama" that probably doesn't mean "mama." but that's about it. a couple months ago it seemed like she was saying the dog's name alot but not so much anymore and lately she's been saying "torah" although it may be an accident (my pal laura thinks she's trying to say "laura".) but when she says these words she'll repeat after you so who knows.

she understands a scary amount though. i've started watching what i'm saying around her....especially when it involves her and my baby-wrangling strategies.
post #166 of 455
Just stopping by to wave to all the mommies&babies!
I can't believe my little baby girl turned 13 months already!
I read all the latest posts on this thread - congratulations again to all the expecting mamas

Our 1 year checkup was postponed, and we are going next week. Baby M was 100%-ile (and over) up to now, and I have hard time weighing her accurately, so that's going to be fun to find out.

She is not walking yet (my back is thankful!), and people around are asking every single day if she started walking -it's comical at this point. It does not help that I told most of them that I'm happy with her crawling and sitting and that my back is even happier.

She calls "mama" and "tata" (daddy), points to things and says"whatisthat" (in our language), and "that",dog is her favorite animal, next to cow (says" Moooo" whenever she sees a toy or a picture of one).

She has four top teeth and three bottom and is definitely teething atm, but it does not keep her cranky for long time - several minutes, the most.
Sleeps 12 hours through night + 3h naptime (between two naps) a day.

One area I want to read more on and hear from you ladies is BLW -
we started very slowly, never did purees - I just gave her pieces to hold and to chew on and that was great, but right now, she is not showing interest in eating anything (she nurses like a champ though), and even if she takes a piece of something - she either spits it or throws it up. Yesterday she gnawed on an apple piece and she swallowed it but after 5 min - threw it up, and it was not a chunk, more like applesauce due to her gnawing action. I am not too worried, just want to hear from experienced moms - anyone here with similar situation? I thought that teething might be behind this...

Take care everyone!
post #167 of 455
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Just a quick question.. how many words are all your LO's saying about now? Words? Signs? Just wondering if I am doing something (anything) wrong here!
I don't think you are doing anything wrong - it is such a wide range and there is no "deadline" at this point of their young toddler life to achieve this or that.

Baby M is saying "mama", "tata", "whatisthat?", "that", "moooo", "av av" (doggie), and she is using signs for "duck", "up/pick me up", "helicopter", and occasionally "book".

She can be silent and occupied by bits and pieces of puzzles etc. for hours, and later she can "talk" for long time, using above mentioned words but mostly babling in her own language

How is Sam communicating with you?
post #168 of 455
Strongfeather: My guy is definitely non-verbal (and yes, it does seem to have some relationship to gender). For spoken words he says "mama" and that's it. For awhile it seemed like he was saying "abba" (for daddy) and "nana" for nurse, but those haven't been totally consistent.

The things he does do though: babble a lot, recognize a huge amount of what I say, he makes the correct noises for about 6 animals, and he signs. I'd say he uses about 2 dozen signs (maybe even more), which has been great for us, but I know some LOs that haven't picked up signs even with parents using them. It's so individual. I think as long as they are responding to language, there is no real cause for alarm yet. I think typically the big language spurt is around 18m.

I'm not worried that my guy's behind. . .it's more that he seems frustrated lately and I think once he learns to walk and talk he'll be much happier. Just my guess on that one though.

Kikakika--we haven't done true BLW (although he never liked purees, so we skipped that), so I can't be of much help to you. But my guy is still not great about food--he definitely gets most of his calories through nursing still and he also has a tendency to gag easily. What he does love doing is trying to use utensils himself. . .it's way messy, but he has a ball with a bowl with something in it and a spoon. He's hit or miss with the self feeding and with food in general. I keep waiting for him to really discover eating and love it (like I do!), but so far it's still all about the boobie.
post #169 of 455
I'm happy to read all of this about words and language skills. DS is not so verbal, but like Kismet, I notice that he understands things that I say. And he does really cute stuff like when he sees one of my cats he says "mew mew" and then motions for the cat to come to him. But other than that he says wawa and mommom and daddad, and that's it.
post #170 of 455
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Got Viv measured and weighed last week: 30.5 inches and 22 lbs.

She has 11 teeth erupted and #12 is right there (I can feel the points thru the gum).

She's had a bit of a snotty nose the last few days - don't know how much of it is the tooth and how much is a cold she got from dd1. But, she will let us wipe her nose with a tissue.

She seems to run in streaks on eating really well and then just nursing more... We've been feeding her whatever we are having for dinner and she does fairly well.

Today we went to a potluck at the Y with my parents. She dropped her roll on the floor and dad told her to give it to him. She did. He told her to pick up another piece she had dropped and she took that to him too. All the older ladies were impressed by how well she listened and acted.
post #171 of 455
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Kikakika--we haven't done true BLW (although he never liked purees, so we skipped that), so I can't be of much help to you. But my guy is still not great about food--he definitely gets most of his calories through nursing still and he also has a tendency to gag easily. What he does love doing is trying to use utensils himself. . .it's way messy, but he has a ball with a bowl with something in it and a spoon. He's hit or miss with the self feeding and with food in general. I keep waiting for him to really discover eating and love it (like I do!), but so far it's still all about the boobie.
Thank you for this - I know this is normal, I guess I wanted to hear from moms with similar experience.
How is your guy in terms of weight gain?
post #172 of 455
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I'm not worried that my guy's behind. . .it's more that he seems frustrated lately and I think once he learns to walk and talk he'll be much happier. Just my guess on that one though.
That is a really good thing though- the frustration will act as a bit of encouragement to master new skills. The lack of frustration was my fist tip off with my 2 yo that something wasn't quite where it should be.
post #173 of 455
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Thank you for this - I know this is normal, I guess I wanted to hear from moms with similar experience.
How is your guy in terms of weight gain?
He was a monster early on , weighing in at 20lbs by his 6m well-baby visit! (He was 9lbs at birth.) But at his 12m was only 24lbs. So he's obviously slowed down a HUGE amount, but I think this is normal as he's so active now (seriously this guy never slows down for a second!). .. also he's just obviously healthy and still above the 50% for weight. He clearly still gets plenty of milk and his iron levels were good (they checked that at his 12m visit), so I feel fine about his disinterest in food. Every once in awhile he'll have a day where he eats a lot and surprises me, I expect those days to become more and more common over the course of this next year. I assume that by 2yo he'll be eating solids normally and not nursing that much (I'd like to be preg or TTC around his 2nd bday).
post #174 of 455
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That is a really good thing though- the frustration will act as a bit of encouragement to master new skills. The lack of frustration was my fist tip off with my 2 yo that something wasn't quite where it should be.
Thanks confustication that's good to hear, b/c somedays lately I just want to crawl into bed and never think about having another baby. He's always been a bit high-needs, but also generally very happy which makes it all doable. . .it's hard when he seems so cranky all day.

He's doing this thing lately where he pushes my hands off if I try to help him/steady him, but then gets mad when he can't do something by himself. He wants to be an adult too.

Along with this phase of his (please god, let it just be a phase!), I feel like I am having to suddenly reevaluate my parenting practices/feelings. . .not that I won't be doing AP of course, but its at that point where I can't always sooth him, I can't always give him what he wants. And I hate, hate listening to him cry, but I can't give him the knife and if he's going to have a meltdown about that what can I do? (And no he will not be distracted or redirected when he wants something! He is very strong-willed.) He had one of those yesterday and I just said "no you can't have that sorry" and then just went into the kitchen (he was just right in the living room) and started doing the dishes and within about 2min he had stopped crying and came in and started playing near me. I feel like if I give it a lot of attention and start offering other toys or talking to him about it then we both get really frustrated. But it's not always easy to be calm myself.

What do you mamas do with tantrums/meltdowns?
post #175 of 455
For frustrated moments, I tend to simply put words to what they are feeling, and try to redirect. If they don't want to redirect, I let them cry and be frustrated for a bit- checking in with them regularly.

While K is pretty high needs, he's not an excessively tantrum-ish kid. Relocating him to the Great Wall O Playtime seems to work much of the time, and anything I have to take care of as a potential danger is rapidly childproofed. (I gate off my kitchen, shamelessly- his pack and play is in there for naps, but it's not a kid-safe play zone. The rest of the house is.)
post #176 of 455
Hi gals!!!

I've been really busy recently, and just haven't been able to get on here I've missed you all!!

Here's a funny picture to share with you all:

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pi...1&id=634508169

Haha!! I had so much fun that night!

So that makes two races since Gavin was born, the Air Force Marathon was in September, and this race was Tuesday night. My training runs have been few and far between, which sucks I'm holding on to some weight that's really starting to get me down. I had lost all but a few pounds, then I've slowly re-gained some, now I'm up to 10lbs over pre-preg. Ugh. I hate it. And now with cold weather here, that's not going to help.

The good news is though, Gavin is sleeping much more consistently (waking on average once a night between 2-4am) the problem though is that Connor went through a horrible streak with sleep issues, and both Connor and Gavin wake around 6am while I'm up getting ready for work. Before Gavin, I used to go to the gym at 6am before work, that was the only way I could be sure to get a workout in. But now, with the boys getting up early in the mornings, there's no hope of me sneaking out of the house to get to the gym.

I'm having issues with hubby too. I just can't count on him to handle the kids in the morning, I feel pressured to not leave for work until they're all up, dressed, and eating, with the two big ones nearly ready for school. Hubby is struggling a lot with some personal stuff, so all the weight falls on me. Several times recently we've had issues in the mornings that have forced me to stay home until the two big boys are on the bus already, which means I go to work late. I'm really trying to be patient while he works through his issues, but every time I look in the mirror, I just hate what I see. Then I get angry at hubby for not allowing me to take care of myself.

Ugh. Okay, enough venting.

The boys are all doing great!!! Sleep issues (wtih Gavin and Connor) are resolving. Gavin is not walking independently yet, but he's really getting brave with push toys and cruising along furniture or walls. He's had a mini verbal explosion, he can now say consonant sounds "D" "B" and "M" (dada, baba [brother, not bottle!], mama), he meows like a cat, barks like a dog, and I think is trying to say Connor (usually right after one of us yells "CONNOR!!" when Connor is in trouble, because that's pretty often around here!) He's definitely nowhere near as verbal as Ian was, but he's way ahead of where Connor was. Which seems to be the same with all his development, not advanced, not delayed, apparently he's just...average! LOL!

Okay, I'm going to take this tired body to bed.
post #177 of 455
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I'm having issues with hubby too. I just can't count on him to handle the kids in the morning, I feel pressured to not leave for work until they're all up, dressed, and eating, with the two big ones nearly ready for school. Hubby is struggling a lot with some personal stuff, so all the weight falls on me. Several times recently we've had issues in the mornings that have forced me to stay home until the two big boys are on the bus already, which means I go to work late. I'm really trying to be patient while he works through his issues, but every time I look in the mirror, I just hate what I see. Then I get angry at hubby for not allowing me to take care of myself.
I can absolutely relate to this. Ultimately, I had to draw some boundaries and be explicit about my needs so he could help me meet those, and while I was willing to meet him halfway, I couldn't shoulder solo-parenting three little ones without support and working. It was the catalyst that launched a huge change in our lives. Now I shoulder all the kid stuff, but he shoulders the financial burden. In about 6 months we should be in a better groove.

It sounds like Gavin and Keagan are at about the same place in terms of willingness to actually walk independently. I'm impatient, but also kind of enjoying the slower pace for the moment.
post #178 of 455
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s. Now I shoulder all the kid stuff, but he shoulders the financial burden.
this is us too (but with only one kiddo) and i gotta say i can get pretty bitter still. the other day i asked him the night before (yeah...i procrastinate and forget things) if he could watch ada while i went to a dr. appt.
it was a huge drama b/c i hadn't given him enough advance notice (he is self-employed btw). meanwhile he has a dentist appointment the next day to which i made the point that it's a little unfair to come down so harsh on me when i ask him to spend an hour with his kid whereas he's free to come and go without checking in on me. i mean, if i want to run to walgreens by myself (which rarely happens btw) i feel like it's a huge ordeal. and then i get the fact that he pays the mortgage thrown at me.
and this is why i wanted to hold off on having another kid. i felt (and told him so) that he should try enjoying the one he already has a little more before he felt like we should be having another.
but i guess life had other plans.....ugh!
post #179 of 455
In our case, I've been alone with them since early Sept, so I've actually adapted pretty well. It will probably be this way through the holidays anyway. It's easier to not be resentful when it's just not an option for him to be any help- he's over 1000 miles away, so I can't be mad at him for not stepping up at night or something.

I've just learned to do *everything* with the kids.

Since your H is handy though- I'd definitely expect him to step up a bit more!
post #180 of 455
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He was a monster early on , weighing in at 20lbs by his 6m well-baby visit! (He was 9lbs at birth.) But at his 12m was only 24lbs. So he's obviously slowed down a HUGE amount, but I think this is normal as he's so active now (seriously this guy never slows down for a second!). .. also he's just obviously healthy and still above the 50% for weight. He clearly still gets plenty of milk and his iron levels were good (they checked that at his 12m visit), so I feel fine about his disinterest in food. Every once in awhile he'll have a day where he eats a lot and surprises me, I expect those days to become more and more common over the course of this next year. I assume that by 2yo he'll be eating solids normally and not nursing that much (I'd like to be preg or TTC around his 2nd bday).
kismetbaby - thank you! I agree - no worries, they'll eat in their own time as much as needed.
Same here - M was 8lb at birth and a little over 24lb at 10 month - we are going to find out how much she weighs now (13 months) next week. They did not mention checking her iron levels at our Peds office... Is this standard or did you have to ask for it? Was it drawn from the vein? How did your little guy handle this?

We wanted to TTC after her 2nd B-day as well.

I agree with 2boysmama, confustication and tzs, it is ok to make a plan for now (and change it as you go along and find neccessary) and to let partners know exactly what you need.
We were in balance and then it shifted to his "advantage" (going to the gym, playing basketball, etc.), so I noticed the start of that and just had a conversation (when we were both relaxed) about that and how upcoming weeks need to work for all of us.
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