Okay, the second half of this got longer than I planned - so I'm going to ask something up here:
How many of you get "personal time?" I keep seeing au pairs, mother's helpers, nannies and the like at playgroups for a local group I joined. Niall will be one this Sunday and he's never been out of our sight - ever. I haven't gone to the bathroom alone without my husband home in a year. I shower with a baby on the floor in the bathroom (because he's terrified of the shower/bath and I bathe him when my husband is home). I do housework with a little guy trailing me or worn. Don't get me started on "alone time" with my husband. Is the the norm and I'm seeing lots of privileged folks with help or I am the one that's on the fringe? There's no way that I could afford to hire someone to come in to watch Niall or help with the housework - we can't afford it. I'm home partially because we can't afford reasonable childcare on what I make in a year (not to mention that the childcare center hours here would make getting a job for me very... interesting. My husband's out too early and works too late to do the drop off or the pickup - so I'd have to do both within center hours, and then travel to a job and presumably work at least 8 hours and then travel back to the daycare center to pick him up.)
I need to exercise - it's becoming a serious health problem - and my neighborhood is not safe for us to walk alone (dogs/cars/poor sidewalks) and Niall does not allow me to do videos; he spends the whole time pulling on me, screaming, knocking things over and I can't afford a membership to a Y here ($75/month, don't have that sitting around) or other gym that has (questionable, staffed by teens) daycare. I certainly can't afford the $100 - $125/month for the mom-and-baby stuff I've seen. I had some luck walking with kismetbaby with our stroller, so I thought I'd attempt to repeat that adventure - drove somewhere safe to walk with the stroller, loaded him in clean, dry, recently fed, recently napped, appropriately dressed, with a toy tethered to the stroller. He screamed the ENTIRE time he was in the stroller. I don't know what I'm going to do about getting some exercise - I do know my doctor is getting kind of pushy about it. I think I'm going to tell him to hire me a nanny.
Originally Posted by cristeen
Ladymeag - thats a LOT of food!! Is that the same every day, or was that a 1-off? The average formula intake at this age is about 30 oz IIRC, and that should be decreased a bit by food intake. Unless that was a fluke (growth spurt), id probably discuss it with your ped (assuming they know anything about nutrition).
The best pediatrician I've found, so far, that takes our insurance, has been pushing me to switch him to diluted juice or cow's milk for about two months. He wanted formula intake around 24 ounces at the 9 month appointment.
That food listing for that day was a one-off (well, an occasional thing) because he all but stops eating, as I said in that post, right before some teeth come in and then the day after the erupt, he suddenly wants everything in sight. His average day looks more like yesterday: a banana and 1/8 a cup of multigrain os for breakfast, about two ounces of cheese and half a pear for lunch, about 2 tablespoons each of peas, summer squash, carrot and potato for dinner with a snack of about 1/8 cup of Annie's Cheddar Bunnies somewhere in there; somewhere between 32 and 40 ounces of formula.
We do offer him water regularly instead of the formula - he'll push it away if that's not what he wants. We provide as much fruit, vegetables, whole-milk organic cheeses, black and red beans and other finger food as he wants to eat - he usually gets a mix of these things (base ingredients from our meals without any butter, salt or cooking other than simple saute, baking or steaming) and is allowed to pick out what he wants and request more (before by banging on the tray, now with pointing or a sign and a "Mamama, NOM NOM NOM"). He's not very interested in meats. The push to limit his formula intake based on an average (for a kid that's not average size - he's tall, with a large head size and heavy but not for his height and not fat - he doesn't have rolls of fat or anything), switch him now to juice (empty calories), cow's milk (not age-appropriate) or only offer water while he's screaming about being hungry seems... counter-intuitive to me.
People who haven't seen him often don't believe me that he's not a Michelin-man-like stack of rolls and spare tires. Here's a picture of him from late August, eating some watermelon he "liberated" from another kid at a park playdate. The clothing he is wearing in this picture is Children's Place and Old Navy 18-24 month size; this clothing is too short (his belly sticks out the bottom a bit) now. http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-..._2995041_n.jpg
Sorry if I seem to have over-provided information - part of my thing is this: My parents schedule-fed me, then limited based on averages/"recommended intake"/calorie counts, refused me food/seconds so I "wouldn't get fat," kept all eating limited to meal-times only, had a "clear-your-plate" rule about all foods (not even just a two-bite rule) for me only (so, I wasn't allowed to over OR under eat, based on their menu and schedule) and I am the ONLY one of my parent's children that is fat. All four of my siblings were not limited in such a way - my older siblings because they grew up in a different home that didn't have these rules and my younger siblings because they were demand-fed for a variety of reasons including "boys don't get fat like girls." I have health conditions that doctors have attributed to being underfed as a child, I have metabolic problems, I'm shorter than the rest of my family by a foot or more, I have severe security issues around food (related to this and homelessness as a teen) - it just doesn't seem like coincidence to me. If you're interested, I can point you to some resources online about family feeding dynamics, nutritionist information, information from counselors and psychologists on the "food battle" and how it affects children/teens/adults and other things.