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post #421 of 455

Rowan finally started mimicking this weekend. Maybe that last ped's visit where he was concerned about his "lack of words" gave a little oomph. yesterday we were playing with his colored blocks... purple "pooplllllle", red "wed", yellow "elloooo"....

He also says "here you go" Eer(g)o when he hands me stuff.

So all of the sudden he has words he didn't. And he mimics anything you make a point of him saying. Yay!

 

I need to catch up on some Teeth education. Cause he is just finishing his bottom front fourth tooth. Four HUGE molars in his back, but they've always been there. Maybe there's a second round coming? I feel like an idiot asking. He can now bite/chew into anything. We're both trying to find a healthier diet. My lack of gallbladder has been acting up on me, so I'm going vegetarian for a few months to try to get rid of the red meat fats; limited dairy as well. Rowan is still eating meats, but I'm making it just healthier all around. He's such a big kiddo! And not just the belly :-) The whole person that is him seems to be bigger/taller than 2yrs old I see. I'm not concerned about his weight, nor is his ped. But me being healthier just makes for a healthier household. And I'm a heavy girl, so that's not a bad thing.

 

I'm wondering about sleeping arrangements. He lunges out of his crib. Granted, he still LOVES his crib. And he's great about it going down. I'm not opposed to him crawling out in the mornings or post-nap, but it's dangerous. He face dives... and that's a good 3 feet. He could really hurt himself. I've considered giving him steps, but I don't think he'd stay in it going down, if the steps were so easily accessible. So I took apart the toddler bed and put the mattress on the floor. Just to see what he thought. How does anyone do this? Cause... Why Would he Stay in it? When does that discipline happen? He'd just play for an hour and, if fell asleep out of exhaustion, I'm doubting it'd be on the bed. I just don't get the transition to a big boy bed at this age. Doesn't seem old enough?!

 

For those of you using a crib, do they crawl out yet? What are you thinking for the next step? btw, co-sleeping is OUT. One thing about selfish separation, too many times of bringing the baby in to sleep with me. Yeah, NOT happening. He wakes up and then just hits me with toys for an hour. No successful sleeping.

post #422 of 455

We transitioned dd to her own bed on the floor around 17 months.  It was labor intensive.  Bedtime was an awful ordeal with her anyway, so the move to her own bed was part of the solution and an investment in future sleep.  I stayed with her in the room and laid her down on the bed over and over again, I mean like 100 times in 20 minutes.  She got mad, but within a couple days she was a lot better, and eventually I was able to leave the room, and we would gently walk her back every time she got up.  By the time she was 2.5 or 3 she was great at bedtime.

post #423 of 455
Hi ladies! I'm still here! I had ds2 on april 19. My labor lasted about 2.5 hours and recovery was great. The last month of pregnancy was awful though, just incredibly uncomfortable and exhausting. I feel so much better although I am a lot busier now. I am starting to get into a groove with the boys so I hope I can post here a little more often. Anyway, just checking in right now, maybe I'll have time for a longer update later today.
post #424 of 455

congrats to newmomroxi! i'm in that horrible last month now too so looking forward to being a *different* type of tired.

 

we did the bed on the floor thing but we got really lucky and ada just stayed in it. she was a little scared the first couple nights so i had to slowly sneak out of the room but that's it. and here i had been putting it off because i thought it would be so hard. finallyu we just tyook the plunge realizing that we could always go back and then i felt dumb for not doing it earlier. i guess, the point is, the worst might not happen and he could surprise you.....maybe.

post #425 of 455
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We're still bed-sharing - sort of.  Viv's crib is sidecared to mine.  she rolls to me to nurse, then back into the crib to sleep.love.gif  No plans, at this point, to transition to her own separate bed... Ds was about this age when we switched him to a toddler bed and he loved it from the word go.  Dd1 took a little longer and she still likes to snuggle to sleep with me.

 

Is anybody else still nursing the little one a lot?  Viv is bf 6-8 times a day - and I'm enjoying the quiet time with her (and since she's likely to be my last, I'm trying to save up the memories).  She eats solids well too - currently she's enjoying fruit and fresh whipped cream.  She does pretty well with everything we eat and loves eating toast w/ jam with grandma.  I'm glad that Viv is still bf.  My little sister (ok, she's 28, but she'll always be my little sister) has a 6 month old little boy and is having major supply issues - so I'm pumping for her.  Working on getting a gallon frozen for them so I can ship it to her.

 

Viv had a few words early, then they disappeared... she figured out that she could point and smile to ask for things.  If you ask her for confirmation, she laughs. If she doesn't want something she shakes her head no.  She does know and say shoes and go - she loves to be out and about.  Along those lines, I finally got a new stroller - it is a jogging stroller with a front wheel that can be fixed or pivot.  I love it.  So much easier to push than my old stroller that I got before I had ds (over 10 years ago!).

 

Congrats to Roxi! and tzs - hope you have a fabulous birth and speedy recovery.  Jordan - that's fast progress.  I guess we just have to wait for them to decide. :)

post #426 of 455

D breast feeds a lot most days.  He is in daycare a couple days a week and does fine, so I know he can go without it, but he still loves to nurse.  He also is a great eater.

 

He is talking up a storm -- he just goes on and on and on (we can understand almost none of it).  It is so hilarious -- I've got to get it on video before he starts talking for real.  He actually uses quite a few words and signs.  He sure says "no" a lot.  I try not to say it to him too much, but his 4yo sister says it to him and the dog quite a bit, and I say it to the dog too.

 

He signs (some of these more consistently than others):  eat, more, water, milk, please, sorry, outside, play, mama, dad, apple, up, down, done, dog, cat, uncle, grandma, grandpa, aunt, waves hello and goodbye

 

He says:  names of family members and pets, eat, water, mama, dad, grandma, grandpa, uncle, auntie, apple, bath, poop, outside, dog, kitty, play, up, down, all done, hi, bye, please

 

That's all I can think of right now, but I'm sure there are a few more.  It's kind of cool to type them all out, he's talking quite a bit!

post #427 of 455
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He says:  names of family members and pets, eat, water, mama, dad, grandma, grandpa, uncle, auntie, apple, bath, poop, outside, dog, kitty, play, up, down, all done, hi, bye, please



I love this because the one thing Rowan doesn't say is A Person. he only says mama when I really ask him to. He's never really said mama or dada. Certainly not gpa or gma. His words are Up and Here and Go. Actions and Things. Not persons at all. He'll hug you and kiss you and he Loves his grandma. But Never says the word grandma.

post #428 of 455

News-and-stuff, while I'm pinned under a sleeping, feverish toddler:

 

We're moving home to Seattle!  I'm sad to be losing kismetbaby and N, though. I need a teleporter asap so we can keep having regular playdates (and mama-time)!  For those familiar with Seattle, we'll be on Beacon Hill.  Now I just need to find the awesome kid-stuff, as I was pregnant when we moved to California.  Anyone here nearby?

 

Feeling the new-baby itch. I want to wait a bit to get settled back in at home but my husband's less inclined to wait.  We'll see where we end up.

 

Niall eats pretty well, still doesn't like any kind of meat. His soy allergy seems to have gotten worse - we had to cut out soy oil and lecithin as well. We're considering going gluten-free for me. Restaurants are already pretty much impossible, so why not?

 

Kid talks up a storm, signs even more at home.  Calls me My-me, husband is Addy. Knows the (spoken) names of all of the pets, most of the common foods he eats, bird, dog, outside, tree, butterfly, spider, horse, cow, train, truck, train, train, cat, chair, up, down, milk, phone, table, no, stop, flower, grass, tiger, ball, truck, train, truck, car, bike, bus, rain, moon, star, sun, blanket, shirt, diaper, pants, shorts, bath, shower, and on and on. Knows the signs for all of his spoken words and more.  He uses short sentences: My-me, car go outside park.  My-me chair up. etc  He can also say: demn, shet, sonofa. Yeah, didn't mean to teach him those but I'm a bit of a pottymouth at home.

 

Measured up at the doctor a few weeks ago - 19 months almost to the day, 35.5 inches tall, 40 pounds. Size 7.5 double wide shoe. He's hard to dress (and keep in appropriately sized clothing I can afford.

 

Still asking for diaper changes but not interested in the potty beyond going in with me when I go.  Still hates baths but we recently discovered he loves running in the creek.

 

We're getting some epic flat-on-the-floor tantrums - anyone else?  Just fragile as rice paper about everything lately.

 

Suggestions for a bedtime flight? I'm hoping he'll sleep and fearing he'll scream the whole time.

 

Hope to update more soon. Congrats to the expecting and new-again mamas.

post #429 of 455

Meaghan, Wow, 40 pounds!  I thought my guy was heavy to be carrying around!

 

We flew to Arizona in March.  It was naptime, not bedtime.  We were in the back row by the toilets, which was actually kind of awesome because we could hang out in the aisle rocking him to sleep, etc.  The trip out was good, but the way home he cried and cried, wanted to run all around the airplane, and the *&#%*#& airline seated dh in a different row from us, and we were seated near the front of the coach cabin.  I hope your flight goes well.

 

Tantrums, oh yeah.  D's aren't usually too loud or violent, but he freaks out if I try to touch him, so I just sit near him and try not to look at him or talk to him too much because it pisses him off.  Yep, total meltdown -- apparently nothing to do but wait it out.  He also sometimes bangs his head on the floor or other objects -- kind of disturbing.

post #430 of 455

Found us on pg2 today. :-( Chasing toddlers leaves little time to babble!!

 

Rowan has been imitating everything. He doesn't know how to count, obviously, but just started pointing at and uses vowels only, Un, Oo, Ee, Fah, Iiiiiiiiiee....  So cute! And has learned Melmo. Which surprises me because the videos we do watch are the Curious Buddies, and just last week bought a Sesame street video. Guess Elmo, in his mind, surpassed all the other videos :-)

 

Daycare teachers are making a point of telling me that he's their "organizational police". He HAS to have everything in its right place and grabs toys from other kids when they're not putting things in the right place. When I asked if he's being bullying, they laugh and say No, not at all. He just has to have things in the right place. Hmmm... maybe grandma's OCD statement the other day (that thoroughly infuriated me) was somewhat correct. The kiddo definitely likes things to be regimented.

 

Sometimes I don't know if it's daycare or me, or just Him in his personality. When he finishes eating, he piles bowl on plate, spoon on top. And then HAS to carry all into the kitchen. Gets very infuriated if he's unable to help in this step. I didn't teach him that - I know they do at daycare. It's like that with everything - he Has to put his diaper in the pail; Has to put his shoes in their designated spot when he takes them off.  So funny the little rules he's imposing on himself. I'm all for it, whether it's his personality or daycare. But sometimes it catches me off guard. He actually keeps Me in check! :-)

 

He is cutting ALL FOUR canines. Those holes in his mouth... yeah, all coming in at the same time. So funny to see him smile with these HUGE molars in the back, big gap to his front teeth... and all these spikey canines coming in. Kinda vampire-ish :-) So far the only drawback has been a shortened nap, but I wonder if it's time for that anyway. And I've had to give him some tylenol to sleep. Bummer, I really don't like meds. But FOUR teeth - yowsah. Ok buddy, you can have some tylenol!!

 

Hope you and your monkeys are doing well!!!

post #431 of 455

Long time no see!  I've been waaaaay too busy with Grey to keep up with mothering.com over the past several months.  He is in daycare for this month and is loving it... he is such a little social butterfly.  But we started him in daycare because I received a job offer, and it fell through at the last minute, so now we're going to have to pull him out at the end of the month.  I'm sad for him and (gotta admit) a little sad for me too.  

 

He is going through this thing right now where he wants to get up and talk to me in the middle of the night.  We're still co-sleeping, so you can imagine how disruptive this is.  He will basically sit right up, shake me awake, and start babbling away to me.  "Mama!  Mama!  Horsies!  Horsies outside!  Go outside, play horsies!  Ride horsie!" and on and on and on.  And on. It's sweet and funny and yet... exhausting.  Which I guess sums up having a toddler overall.  :)

 

He is still a chunk, but amazingly, he hasn't gained any weight in... four or five months?  He has been hanging tough at 31.5 lbs.  He's on the growth chart, finally!!  He's been wearing 18 month and 2T stuff since he was 9 months old, so it's really funny to look back at pictures of him and see him wearing the same stuff as a little baby.  

post #432 of 455
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He is going through this thing right now where he wants to get up and talk to me in the middle of the night.  We're still co-sleeping, so you can imagine how disruptive this is.  He will basically sit right up, shake me awake, and start babbling away to me.  "Mama!  Mama!  Horsies!  Horsies outside!  Go outside, play horsies!  Ride horsie!" and on and on and on.  And on. It's sweet and funny and yet... exhausting.  Which I guess sums up having a toddler overall.  :)

 


We've had a super rough several weeks in the sleep department, up for 3 hours most nights for 3 weeks.  Anyway, the other night we were lying in bed wishing he was sleeping, and he started feeling my face in the dark and then leaning over and kissing me on the mouth.  He did it over and over again, and even though we'd already been up over two hours, I couldn't help but love it.  It was super cute.  We don't really kiss on the mouth, so it was funny that he was feeling for my mouth and then giving me 10 smootches in a row on the lips.  It's a really good thing they are so stinkin' cute -- especially in the wee hours.

 

"Cold and Sleepy" that's how I felt all winter!  I'm so glad it's warm now so that I don't freeze my butt off when I have to get out of my warm bed to hang out with my not-sleeping toddler!

 

post #433 of 455

Love hearing the stories of the tots!  Totally skipped Lake's 18m WBV but he's 25# and 34 in tall right now.  He is doing so well with Jordy (baby#2).  Lake was sick with an ear infection when Jordy was born so he was NOT HAPPY. Now that's he's all better he gives Jordy kisses and asks to "carry him".  Lake straight up talks now.  I gave up counting his words.  If he's heard the word, it's in his vocabulary.  One day, Lake grabbed Jordy's hand while he was in the bassinet and said "Hi baby, how you doing?"  It was so cute.  Lake is not doing so great with sleeping in his own room.  He cries for a minute at bedtime and then he'll wake up in the middle of the night crying.  So we moved his toddler bed into our room last night.  He kept trying to climb in the big bed but he did really well once he settled down.  There are a couple other little things that he does now that I can tell has to do with Jordy's arrival but I am so surprised at how well he's doing.  Anyway, gotta cut it short b/c Jordy's ready to eat again! :)

post #434 of 455

! newmomroxie! I'm so excited that another one of us now has two! My second is now 4 months old... and I'm blow away by their relationship most days.

 

 

 I hate to ask... .but has anyone else have/had an issue with hitting? he doesn't do his sister, but it seems like everyone else is fair game for the last few days. I'm at the end of my wits, and dh has been putting him in 'time out'. I sat down and cried after bed time.... I thought we were doing so well with him, but he got in big trouble at grandma's for hitting the dog. anyone else?

post #435 of 455

We haven't had much hitting here, but plenty of dog and cat abuse.  Just like the dangerous climbing, I feel like the only real solution is to follow him around and repeatedly make him stop and try to redirect him.  I'm really not liking it.  (

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! newmomroxie! I'm so excited that another one of us now has two! My second is now 4 months old... and I'm blow away by their relationship most days.

 

 

 I hate to ask... .but has anyone else have/had an issue with hitting? he doesn't do his sister, but it seems like everyone else is fair game for the last few days. I'm at the end of my wits, and dh has been putting him in 'time out'. I sat down and cried after bed time.... I thought we were doing so well with him, but he got in big trouble at grandma's for hitting the dog. anyone else?


Rowan has become increasingly aggressive with me, me only. Not at daycare, not dad (I've asked. Daycare teachers are like, what? Rowan? Aggressive? No!). And yes, he'd probably like to hit the cat, but I stop that before he even tries. Me, he bites and headbutts. Yesterday morning, oh it was so sad.. we're having our perfect morning ritual in my big bed, all snuggly and cute and he head-butted me SO Hard right to the temple, I cried out and couldn't even react, I literally had to go into the bathroom and cry for a few minutes. It hurt SO BADly! 

 

I am all for GD, but when POW, you're in pain... I mean, of course they see the reaction. They hit you. You screamed. What are you supposed to do? It's a natural reaction to scream out when you're pounded in the temple without any prompting (I'm learning to be a parent, but I'm still an alive human, and that Hurts!). I didn't do anything, of course. That one was too in the moment to do anything but run to the other room and cry. 

When he bites or hits me, normal like, I try to explain, NO, be nice to mommy and grab his hand in "be nice" movements. But when he does bite me... he'll grab my arm and chomp.... I'll say NO, all stern and authoritative (I feel like such a schmooze on the inside just saying that), and then he hugs me. He Knows it was wrong. He knows it before I even say anything... he'll be at 1/2 hug before I even start.

 

Are you getting any responses from Time-Out?

I was raised with time-outs. I have no problem with that. I'm just still curious at what age they actually understand and respond to "punishment" in that way. Cause honestly, GD when you're hit in the face, or being bitten, to me, isn't making a lot of impact. I've been doing that for months, "nice mommy" pats, and putting him down. Well, most of the time, I'm not holding him, so putting him down or walking out of the room or ignoring him... that has no affect. He needs know This Is Wrong. Do Not Head-butt me, even with a hug afterwards, still not cool!

 

I think just by him hugging me, he knows. Which means, he would understand a time-out. I've just not done it yet. Tell me more about what you're doing? Do you have a "naughty-spot" or otherwise regimen? am I going to ban this thread just on the mention of super-nanny? sorry ladies.

 

post #437 of 455

I don't use time outs with ds, but if he hurts me I will put him down and/or walk away from him.  When he wants to come back up, I ask him if he is ready to be gentle.  I think it is a process, and he will grow out of it.  I don't think time outs will make him learn it faster (although it might feel more satisfying as a response ; )  I am having a really hard time with him kicking me when I'm changing his diaper.  I mean, he wants me to put him down, which is my usual response when he hits me, but I just want to finish changing his diaper.  I end up holding him down to get his diaper changed and often getting kicked several times -- it sucks.

post #438 of 455

Nope don't use time-outs here and don't really plan to.  If ds is doing something he shouldn't I merely say "oh let's not ___" or "we have to be gentle or you have to go down" or whatever. And I will physically remove him from a situation.  Although I must say he is pretty good about the important thing. Of course he tests limits, but things like hitting or running into the street or whatever, he is generally good about and if there is an issue it's usually b/c he is tired or bored. Those two states definitely cause his mood/ability to cooperate to change. . .so I try to respond to that instead of the behavior. 

 

Haven't been keeping up very well here, but wanted to finally come over and share my news. . .we're expecting #2 in January! joy.gif  I'm 7wk3days today and just had my first appt and u/s and saw a little (just one--phew) bean in there with a good heartbeat of 150.  So my nerves about the early weeks are relieved and I finally feel ready to get excite about this pg!   I'm not "out" IRL yet or on FB, so if you know me in those places, mums the word.  We'll probably not tell the larger world till I am 12wks, although I am finding it harder to wait tat long to tell this time around.  Anyway, I'm excited, but of course there is a little trepidation about how ds will handle becoming a big brother at 27mo. . .and he still isn't night weaned, which is starting to wear me out!  I plan to keep BFing him, but I do need to nightwean for my own sanity.  Any tips?

post #439 of 455

Congrats Kismet!!!

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Congrats Kismet!!!  Hope you have a healthy, happy, uneventful 9 months!  :)

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