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post #81 of 455
Cristeen - I'm thinking the same thing on night-weening. I've switched to warm water instead of any milk/water mix, and that's fine, but removing the bottle as a whole... just as you said, it's his main sleep trigger. He can't get back to sleep on his own.
I also think he's going through some teething or growing, as nights have become increasingly hard. He was STTN for two months and then all of a sudden, he's up, 2-3-6 times. So maybe we'll wait for this "phase" to end before removing the bottle as a whole.
post #82 of 455
I know im one of the last for our group, but...

My little man is 1!!! WAHHH! How the heck did that happen?!?!

Today we're going to try to start swim class and then go to Fairyland w a friend, since DH couldnt get the day off (3 other people are off, so he can't be). Party is Saturday. Where oh where has the time gone?
post #83 of 455
Rowan has finally cut his 3rd tooth! The 2nd top tooth is just under the surface, but not cut yet. Teething, or something, is making night-life Hell recently. He's up 2-3-7 times. Last night was Every.Single.Hour. OMG. Both DP and I were totally haggered when Rowan was ready to get up at 7:30, bright-eyed and ready to play. what is going on!

8 steps! his longest stretch, so far. he's taking off from all the furniture, but doesn't make it too far. He's definitely taking his time with the walking thing, but I'm totally OK with that. It's just fun to watch his excitement when he actually makes it a few steps!

One-nap - it's official (I think), 5 days straight. last week he couldn't make it til noon... now, he can. One nap, 1-2hrs, normally after lunch. I'm still getting used to the change in our schedule. He's going down a little later, back to 7-7:30, and waking up 7-7:30. But, as I mentioned, NOT sleeping At All during the night.

Babbling like bonkers. Talking to his toys, to me, just to animate his day. The babbles are crazy and super fun. All consonants and vowels. He still doesn't have "words", but at least it's So Much More than mamamamama.
post #84 of 455
Jordan - when a night is shaping up like that, I give him Motrin. I know many moms around here are completely anti, but fact is nothing else has worked, and I just cannot go days on end with no sleep. One night without sleep leaves me a very impatient and yelling mommy, 2 makes me an absolute bear, so I give him Motrin so we both can get some sleep.

And A seems to have been waiting for his bday. Today he repeated his little friend when she asked for water - he looked at me and said wa-er. And then as DH and I were trading off at bedtime (DH does stories, I do bottle), I said "say night-night, Daddy" - and he said "nigh-nigh". Color me flabbergasted!! He said something else today, don' remember what though. And he did a fair bit of walking today, too. He's barely walked at all in the last week, but today he decided he was going to. Repeatedly. He can't possibly understand what today is, but for some reason it was a milestone day for him.
post #85 of 455
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Cristeen - I really want to "like" your post, a la facebook. LOL

I will admit that I am not a fan of motrin or tylenol, I do see their usefullness. Especially during the teething stage. Biggest issue I have with it is the constant dosing that some parents seem to engage in (saw a patient who was going thru a bottle a week of baby tylenol! for her 5 month old who wasn't sick). As with most parenting decisions, we have to do what works best for our families. Sometimes, that means a dose of a pain-relieving medication.

I saw an article that really hit home for me yesterday. It talked about JMs (judgy moms) and BWs (breastfeeding warriors). Judgy moms make other moms feel like dog doo when the don't bf for at least (insert time frame). Breastfeeding warriors are supportive of other moms and recognized that we aren't all the same. BWs are the ones that say, "I may not agree with exactly what you are doing, but I will defend your right to do what is best for your family in a heartbeat. And I will support you in any way that I can." Just thought it was a really interesting take on things.

In my class on Wednesday, I got up on my bf soapbox - we were talking about world hunger. I really like the text I'm teaching from as it talks about some of the diseases of malnutrition and hunger being exacerbated by moms stopping bf early (especially in developing nations). Hoping that some of my students will think about the material we covered when it is their time to be parents.
post #86 of 455
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Cristeen - I really want to "like" your post, a la facebook. LOL

I will admit that I am not a fan of motrin or tylenol, I do see their usefullness. Especially during the teething stage. Biggest issue I have with it is the constant dosing that some parents seem to engage in (saw a patient who was going thru a bottle a week of baby tylenol! for her 5 month old who wasn't sick). As with most parenting decisions, we have to do what works best for our families. Sometimes, that means a dose of a pain-relieving medication.

I saw an article that really hit home for me yesterday. It talked about JMs (judgy moms) and BWs (breastfeeding warriors). Judgy moms make other moms feel like dog doo when the don't bf for at least (insert time frame). Breastfeeding warriors are supportive of other moms and recognized that we aren't all the same. BWs are the ones that say, "I may not agree with exactly what you are doing, but I will defend your right to do what is best for your family in a heartbeat. And I will support you in any way that I can." Just thought it was a really interesting take on things.

In my class on Wednesday, I got up on my bf soapbox - we were talking about world hunger. I really like the text I'm teaching from as it talks about some of the diseases of malnutrition and hunger being exacerbated by moms stopping bf early (especially in developing nations). Hoping that some of my students will think about the material we covered when it is their time to be parents.

ITA... someone emailed me this . It made me laugh and also take a second look at myself. I really try hard not to judge, but it's hard to be careful about what you say. Also, I see men doing this just as much as women so I really do feel that it's a parenting thing.

I hope the nights start going better for everyone. DS has two teeth coming in at the same time, and if the whole day goes like this morning, I know I'll be dosing out the Tylenol tonight.
post #87 of 455
ds usually sleeps in just a diaper, but he gets super cranky when he is even slightly too warm. (like his mama, lol)
post #88 of 455
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marathon
congrats mama!

update on us as succinctly as possible. we're still living with mil and fil, the big kids are in school now instead of being homeschooled, i still am pumping 4x a day, we're still insanelty broke, i'm looking for a job but really have no marketable skills right now, but we are getting further and further in the hole now that dh is only working 40 hrs a week. he is pulling his retirement money out, but we'll still not have enough to fix our roof and make our home livable in with the amount he is gonna get after the penalty for getting it so early. my big ds has strep throat, and i have a headache and a sore throat. ds and dd both are doing okay in public school, some problems here and htere but they're adjusting.

baby is still not walking and does a lot of babbling but only a few words still. he loves climbing on stuff though. he is not a big eater ever, and lately has been even worse again, i still offer him about 20 oz of (pumped) milk a day, but he doesn't drink much. the bottle from early this am he only drank 1.5 oz. the bottle from 10ish he drank all 5, and i'm pumping him the next one now. i am taking zoloft and it seems to be mostly doing the trick, as i don't cry all the time anymore, though i am still noticing that i get angry tons easier than i used to.
post #89 of 455
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Happy birthday to my baby girl!!! This year has gone too fast.
post #90 of 455
um.....just figured out today i'm preggos again. soooooo not ready. i was pretty much doing everything short of birth control to avoid it. i mean, i'm 35 too so i figured it would take months of actual trying once i was "ready." ugh!
and then i feel so bad talking like that too...i don't want my first memories of some new kiddo being "oh f*ck!"
post #91 of 455
Congrats!!
post #92 of 455
Thread Starter 
tzs - congrats! And I think it is normal to have some of those feelings.
post #93 of 455
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um.....just figured out today i'm preggos again. soooooo not ready. i was pretty much doing everything short of birth control to avoid it. i mean, i'm 35 too so i figured it would take months of actual trying once i was "ready." ugh!
and then i feel so bad talking like that too...i don't want my first memories of some new kiddo being "oh f*ck!"
congratulations--- don't worry, I think there are quite a few of us whose mom's started out with the same reaction.

I'm surprised how many of us are already started on round II though!
post #94 of 455
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um.....just figured out today i'm preggos again. soooooo not ready. i was pretty much doing everything short of birth control to avoid it. i mean, i'm 35 too so i figured it would take months of actual trying once i was "ready." ugh!
and then i feel so bad talking like that too...i don't want my first memories of some new kiddo being "oh f*ck!"
Congrats to you! Even if an ...oops! A new life is always YAY!
And I hear you on the 35... I'm right there with you. I want to know more! :-) Have an ultrasound... you'll find your love. the ick will go away.

I have the ick of a not so stable relationship, financial... well, all those normal complaints. Which is fine for us and Rowan, but another...
But I think about Rowan, the necessity for a sibling. Despite being 35 and weird relationship and finances... siblings are SO important.

I suppose it's why i've not yet fit myself for a diaphragm. It just means we're not having sex. Bummer. But since my blood-clot, I can't take BC, so diaphragm it is... yet, I'm not ready to make that real decision.
post #95 of 455
Gavin won't be one until Sunday, but there's no denying it anymore--he's toddling Not independent, but behind push toys. He also is getting brave with reaching between things.

I was so eager to see Ian hit milestones, which he happily did early, and then Connor was delayed with everything and it was all such a struggle. So with Gavin, I just want to enjoy him, baby him, snuggle him constantly!! I'm not ready for him to walk!!!

Mom2tig99androo03, I'm so sorry you're having a rough time!! Glad your kids are doing well in public school, even if it's not ideal for your family, I"m glad it's working.

Congrats to all the pregnant mamas!! I spent the weekend at a LLL camping trip, and there were 4 pregnant mamas there. Sometimes I felt the twinge of longing, but mostly I felt the relief of knowing I won't have to do that again. Whew!
post #96 of 455
I am also surprised at how many mamas are pregnant already- but excited for you all as well. I really like the close spacing with the boys. I have a weird passing moment here and there of aww- how sweet- regarding pregnancy, but then I also have reality of 'we have three and I would simply have to keel over dead!!!' I did decide against anything permanent just yet, but I really don't see another in the cards for us.

We are doing well here- dealing with a lingering virus that actually resulted in me developing croup last night. The boys woke up for a middle of the night play session at 3am and I finally got them back to sleep just before 6. At 7am my dad walked in the door to 'make sure we were ok' as I hadn't answered the phone. And.. now it is 7:27 and the boys are up and playing again. I love my parents, but I need a cloaking device for the house at times. No, I didn't answer the phone because I left it out in the other room so it wouldn't wake the boys.


















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post #97 of 455
I'm in a bit of an argh this week... I say I SAH, but I also Work from home (limited work), and I'm in graduate school. So, I stay busy with my own stuff.

But I have a two-week break from school and frankly, don't know what to do with myself. And DP has started a swing-shift schedule so he is literally never here. Ever. I didn't think before that I had a "break", but now, I really don't. I didn't realize how wonderful that 20 minutes or that hour was, where I could just... shower, or run an errand or two.

Plus, Rowan has now switched to only one nap, so that time to myself is more limited.

Man, this sounds SO selfish. I know! It's awful!

We do have such a blast together. We are great playmates. But, after 3 days of not seeing another soul, and not doing Anything but playing with the baby...
My mom says it's totally normal to feel a little stir-crazy. But I feel so guilty about it!

And I have to admit, I've broken yet another rule... and bought him a DVD of "singing babies", where the babies sing nursery rhymes. he LOVES it. And it gives me 20 minutes to do laundry, or call a friend. I can see why people use TV as a babysitter now... and certainly why i'd always had the No TV rule. but.... it's been a savior for me the past few days.

Ick. I know this time will pass... and then I'll regret not taking advantage of this time with no deadlines or pressing projects.
post #98 of 455
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I'm in a bit of an argh this week... I say I SAH, but I also Work from home (limited work), and I'm in graduate school. So, I stay busy with my own stuff.

But I have a two-week break from school and frankly, don't know what to do with myself. And DP has started a swing-shift schedule so he is literally never here. Ever. I didn't think before that I had a "break", but now, I really don't. I didn't realize how wonderful that 20 minutes or that hour was, where I could just... shower, or run an errand or two.

Plus, Rowan has now switched to only one nap, so that time to myself is more limited.

Man, this sounds SO selfish. I know! It's awful!

We do have such a blast together. We are great playmates. But, after 3 days of not seeing another soul, and not doing Anything but playing with the baby...
My mom says it's totally normal to feel a little stir-crazy. But I feel so guilty about it!

And I have to admit, I've broken yet another rule... and bought him a DVD of "singing babies", where the babies sing nursery rhymes. he LOVES it. And it gives me 20 minutes to do laundry, or call a friend. I can see why people use TV as a babysitter now... and certainly why i'd always had the No TV rule. but.... it's been a savior for me the past few days.

Ick. I know this time will pass... and then I'll regret not taking advantage of this time with no deadlines or pressing projects.

It's hard. I'm having sitter issues again so I'm home today. I was waaay to happy to put him down for a nap early. DH swears mothering just takes practice like everything else, but sometimes I just don't know how people do this day in and day out.

I havent turned on baby tv yet, but I'll admit, the last two days I've turned on my tv show, and just let DS destroy the living room, instead of being engaged. And sometimes I look the other way when he eats crap off the floor (but only if I can tell that it used to be food!)
post #99 of 455
Congrats Tzs! I admit I'm a little jealous I spent most of DS's first year worried I'd get preg again too soon, and now I am worried that it will take too long (esp since my cycle hasn't returned yet). On the other hand, I love my time with DS and don't want to change it just yet.

I must also admit, I let DS watch Baby Signing Time. Other than that I have a no TV rule for him (and consequently I have broken my own TV watching habits which is a good thing), but he LOVES this DVD and has actually learned sign from it (with me also using sign of course!). But we only watch once a day max (which is 20min), so I try not to feel too guilty. . .like you said Jordan, he is down to one nap a day, and sometimes that DVD is the ONLY way I am going to get to cook, or use the bathroom, or just have a moments peace.

My DH has been really busy at work and the days are long with just DS and I. On the other hand, he's so so much fun these days and we go to the park or to a play date almost every day. He's happiest if he's outside and either wet or covered in dirt--preferably both! I hate to be gender stereotyping, but man what a little boy I've got on my hands! Two more days left till he's 1. . .I feel nostalgic, but at the same time, I much prefer this stage to the early days.
post #100 of 455
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On the other hand, he's so so much fun these days and we go to the park or to a play date almost every day. He's happiest if he's outside and either wet or covered in dirt--preferably both! I hate to be gender stereotyping, but man what a little boy I've got on my hands! Two more days left till he's 1. . .I feel nostalgic, but at the same time, I much prefer this stage to the early days.
Rowan LOVES being outside... I didn't really realize this until he started pointing at the windows, pointing at the doors... and then realized he could bang on the door and be let out. He doesn't go crazy at the park yet, but he loves the swings and yelling and grabbing for all the kids who walk by. but at home, he is in heaven in the backyard, just exploring all the mess he can get in to.
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