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Leaving a nursing 2 yr old for several days?

post #1 of 5
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Hi,
I just wanted to see what people's experiences or knowledge was with this. My DD is 29 months. She still nurses several times a day, but she is night-weaned. If she wakes up in the night, and I'm nearby, she'll take the opportunity tho. She nurses some for comfort, and sometimes for boredom I think, and just general connection, as well as some hunger.

Anyway, I've been offered a work position (I don't work out of the home at all right now, and have not since she was born) that would involve my going across the country for a few days in November. I've never left her for even an over-night, but I'm quite sure she could handle that. She has woken up in the morning once or twice when I was gone and she did ok (DH was there).

Anyway, I assume I'd have to do a little pumping on the trip to keep my milk going, but I thought I'd see how others have done with this, if anyone has done it. I'm most worried about how she'll do emotionally, and I know everyone is individual with that, but I wanted to see what the experiences were out there. I would be ok with it if she decided to wean during that time, but I doubt she would.

I can so 'no' to the opportunity pretty easily also. But would hate to pass it up if everything is likely going to be fine.

Thanks!
post #2 of 5
I have left ds for weekends a couple of times & just pump for comfort - no problems for either of us.

Earlier this summer (ds was 20 months) I left him for 2 weeks. I planned to pump but after a couple days I stopped getting anything by pump & so stopped pumping & tried to accept that he was going to be weaned. I got home & he picked up where he left off with no problems. I'm sure my supply was pretty low but it picked up pretty quickly once he was nursing regularly again.

I'd do it.
post #3 of 5
i did that when DD was close to 2 years old. i had to pump on my trip, but the girl did great! she was at my parents' house, and had been staying overnight there semi-regularly for some time at that point. she was still nursing day and night, at least 6 times a day, but she knew that when the boobs weren't in the building, she wasn't getting fresh mama milk, and she didn't mind i'm not sure she noticed i was gone the first day, actually. she totally went back to bfing the minute i got back, which made me happy, and we continued for a couple more years.
post #4 of 5
I'm wondering about this too. My 30 month old nurses a few times in the night plus in the evening (I work FT so no daytime nursing). My dh will probably be taking her on a 5 night trip (long story) and I am very conflicted about it. I want her to go see her far away relatives (I can't go bc of work) but I am sick at the thought of her feeling abandoned overnight or losing her trust in me. I am not ready to wean her.
Any advice? Do you think a 5 night trip away from me would destroy her and kill nursing? Or would she be ok, and still trust me and still nurse? how can I encourage this to be ok? I am considering not letting her go w dh but I know she would enjoy the trip and he really wants to take her.
post #5 of 5
I left my 2nd dd for a week to go on my honeymoon with her step dad...she was 29 months old and still nursing at least 3 times a day at that point (first thing in the morning, naptime, and bedtime). I wasn't sure if I'd need to pump while gone, but it turned out other than maybe hand expressing a few times, I didn't need to pump. I wasn't sure if she'd just give up on nursing while I was gone, and while the thought was a little sad to me, and I struggled with the thought of me taking a honeymoon "forcing" the issue of weaning, I was ultimately ok with it if it happened. As it turns out...we got home, and once we were at the house, my 2 yr old climbed into my lap and asked to nurse. She went on to nurse for another 5 months after that, at which time she weaned when I was about 4 months pregnant.
So I'd say, it can work out fine and she may keep nursing and the separation may be no big deal, but do be prepared for the chance that your little one may just quit and not go back to it after the trip.

Robynne
Mom to my SIX kids! (DD11, DD8, DS5, DD3, DS2, and DS brand new 8/3/10)
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