anyone else ever feel like their life just got...replaced? - Page 2

[Bearsmom]

Originally Posted by JonahRoo

Oh yes yes yes I totally relate!

So while you are not who you were and you are still working on who you are becoming, you can still bring pieces of you with you and use them to help create the new you.

Great advice! Thanks!

[Harmony08]

I have been feeling like this lately too. For me I have found myself sort of coming out of the crazy wonderful blur of the first two years of motherhood. I have found myself hungry for the "old" me in a way I didn't realize I was missing it. I have done little things like paint my toe nails and buy clothes I actually love. I'm going to buy a new bra next. Radical. I am trying to find a dance class, something I used to love. I am trying to organize a little reunion with my college roomates. I find myself craving the company of the women who loved me then. The other thing I have done is create a huge playlist of the soundtrack of my early twenties. It totally takes me back to that other girl, that girl who is still me and has turned out to be an awesome mama but who still has needs. Ya know?

[tangledblue]

And if I did get a break for a coffee, the entire time I would be thinking about what I should be doing....

Oh, YES. That is totally me. I like what somebody said about taking the things that you used to do/enjoy with you to your new life, and finding time to do little things for yourself...but yes, it's so hard to find the time. I still read a lot, but otherwise I do feel overwhelmed, often. And I do find things to do/enjoy here in my new city--there's definitely no shortage of things to do and there are lots of things that I can enjoy with the kiddo, but it does feel so totally different from my old life. I guess it's the new normal and I just haven't gotten used to it yet.

[Cprem]

Originally Posted by momtoS

I am not the person I was before children. Nope. And I never will be that person again.......

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I still need to finish reading the rest of this thread, but that line stuck out at me! I am in a major identity crisis being a first time, full time SAHM to my now toddler. I feel I have nothing interesting to say anymore and that nobody is in fact interested in what I have to say!

I know I'm not that person (pre baby, career path, high heels) anymore but I know I can be a better person and so am trying to find my way to that point...but boy it is hard