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post #41 of 47
My boys are 10 and 7. Like some others have posted, the last few months, I've been dealing with pregnancy nausea and general low-energy, so they had free reign on screen time. In the last month I've been feeling better and we've gone back to our normal routine...

which is - they can each watch two episodes or one movie a day on the computer. Like most of you, we also don't have any reception on our TV, it's just a tiny one with the DVD player built in, so that's all it's used for is playing our skimpy collection of DVD's (which they are allowed to watch whenever, but neither child is a big fan of watching the same thing over and over, so they rarely pull those out - they do get netflix, one new movie about once a week, so they watch that whenever they feel like it, too).

The boys are watching episodes mostly on netflix, sometimes hulu, sometimes they'll find full episodes on youtube of things they want to watch, which for my older son is usually anime, my younger son watches mostly pokemon via the cartoon network website. On all the websites besides netflix there are one or two commercials, which annoy the hell out of me, but I get nice reminders when we stay at hotels how many terrible commercials *actual* TV has, and don't think online is so bad

My kids usually watch their episodes in the morning, because they wake up so early and I prefer to laze around in bed for a bit and not be bothered

They also have Nintendo DS's (little portable nintendo's for those with kids too little to have been subjected to this silliness yet They can play those 2 days a week, and pick the days they play. They have their own calendar with all their activities, including any trips we take, etc. So, usually they'll schedule DS days on a day we'll be doing a lot of driving or a day they have nothing else planned, etc. That's interesting that one mama PP said they only do screen time and video games on the weekends - that's when we're out and about hiking and stuff - my kids would be ticked off to have that be their screen day and then not get to have much screen time

Our experiments with unlimited screen time have been mixed. They don't go overboard on watching shows, so no problems there (that's basically limited because I work online, so it was getting old to have arguments that they wanted to watch shows vs. I need to make money!).

Playing the DS is another story! They were getting really cranky and rude and generally lost all imaginitive play - it was really sad! Since we went back to limited video game days, there's been actual playing REAL games, pretending things, building forts & lego sculptures, it's nice to see my kids act like kids again
post #42 of 47

notes2.gif We have a lot of the same issues here -- if I don't limit screen time, ds will spend nearly all his waking hours in front of tv and/or computer and will be nasty to me when I try to talk to him. And if I want to take him somewhere he is always anxious to get back to his shows. Ugh. I find that when I do limit him, he's a lot more fun to be around but it's a huge battle to get there.

post #43 of 47

Looking back here through old resources. For us, my challenge is, trying to heal from adrenal fatigue, not feeling well enough to do the kind of engaging I want to with my children (7 and 2.5) at all times or feeling like I need to spend so much time in the kitchen but haven't been motivated to find fun ways to integrate them into the cooking unless they ask/show interest. I know, though, they need to participate to value it and to say away from TV!

I'm also interested in any updates now that screens are so much more prevalent. My husband lets my son look at his smartphone, etc. We don't do tablets but he does want to play educational games on the computer, and his attitude is really affected by doing it.

post #44 of 47

We don't limit per se but we kind of make it not that attractive most of the time. Basically-and this isn't deliberate-the tv is in the far reaches of the house, away from the action. My kids are fundamentally social and so don't like being in a room on their own really. In order to watch tv they have to climb a lot of stairs, find all the remote controls, find the multisocket that will have been used for something else, plug them all in, go through half a dozen screens and passwords and even then, because we are streaming through the bbc/ c4 sites or netflix, half the time the connection is pretty awful anyway. So watching tv is just not that easy or attractive and no one really cares enough to sort it out. I think that that is the key, tbh, its not a family habit, we ourselves certainly don't model tv use at all-dp and I hardly watch it-and its not easy to watch so no one does really.


Oh and I just want to add something else.  When mine were little they had basically no TV. Sometimes at friends houses or on special occasions but very, very little and we quite blatantly limited it. Probably until ds was around 7 or so. And now we don't. And it has been fine, it is not forbidden fruit, they don't watch compulsively, its no big deal at all. I truly think that saying "no tv" for young kids is fine, if that is what they seem to need. 

Edited by Fillyjonk - 5/29/13 at 11:27am
post #45 of 47

I stick to the rules that tablets are for reading, recipes, etc. and when my son is older and can handle it very carefully, he is welcome to read on one. Not for games. Same with my smartphone. I use it for music when driving, directions, email, phonecalls. 

The computer we sometimes use for looking up videos and identifying things on our property, explaining things that need more than words that I am having trouble with, etc. But again, not a toy. 

Television we turn on occasionally when my son wants to watch the news, like this morning, and then a cooking show came on and he was fascinated by it so we watched that too and talked about it. The kid loves to cook. But otherwise, television is saved for after he is asleep, for the adults, or for Friday nights when we watch a BBC series together, and the occasional documentary or educational show together. 

I forgot to add, he is almost four. 

post #46 of 47

Basically, they are tools. We use screens as tools. 

post #47 of 47

I have to update my response now that it has been a couple of years and I have another child.


So DD is now 5 and just started "school" officially (meaning that she is registered as a kindergartener but we unschool at home) and our screen time has changed.


With the birth of my son (who is now 17 months), screen time has had to change. I do limit it, but my daughter now gets quite a lot IMO. I *have* to nap with my son in the afternoon or I just cannot stay awake the whole day or function at all. So now her screen time is limited to nap time which can last between one and two hours. I have an iPhone now which is a used phone left over from my husband's last job. I have lots of educational stuff on there plus a picture hunt game and Minecraft which I pretend is good for my daughter because it's creative. Like Legos. Right? :) Anywho, she's allowed to play on my phone during nap time as long as she sits very quietly and doesn't wake us up. It works for us. Not sure how I'm going to work it once she's a bit older and the baby doesn't take naps anymore.


Oh, and Saturday is movie night. My daughter is allowed to watch one movie on Saturdays. Two, one for each, once the toddler is old enough to watch movies. 

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