Ack, Karen! That sounds very rough for a pregnant pelvis! I hope you're feeling better quickly!
It's still Saturday night here but officially it's Sunday morning and my DS2 is 6!!
Can hardly believe it. He was my first home birth, HBAC. Some of my strongest memories are of how amazingly GOOD I felt after his birth. Lots of birth high even days later.
And that was even with a pretty bad tear and apparently breaking my tailbone.
And enter pregnancy hormones for me... Friday I went to Whole Foods and ordered a small cake with a dino on it for our family get-together Sunday afternoon. I've always gone in and been able to order anything, just give them a picture and they do it. I didn't have one but figured they can make a dino, no biggie. I was actually happy to see that they now have a "book" you can order from and sure enough, there was a dino. It's supposed to be a t-rex but in the pic it has 3 claws (t-rex only has 2). My DS is very into allosaurus which looks a lot like t-rex but smaller and has 3 claws, so that was perfect. Just told him to make sure it had 3 claws and all was good. He pointed out that the picture, of the dino on a sheet cake, said it was $12 extra for the design.
I said that surely they wouldn't charge that much on an 8" cake that only cost $12 to begin with, so I was confident it wouldn't be a problem. We just needed a cake with a dino on it.
So, I wake up today to calls from WF. They're calling to tell me it's $12 to make the dino. I told them that's crazy 'cause the cake itself is $12. Yes, it's on the pic, but the pic shows a BIG dino on a sheet cake, and I only need a tiny cake (we're going to the zoo and can't take leftovers!). Check with manager. No, it's $12. I said, fine, make a different dino. I don't really care what it looks like or how detailed it is, I just need a dino. Check with manager. No, sorry, we don't do custom orders. (Remember, I've done FULLY custom cakes here for YEARS.) Um, I'm not paying that much, that's crazy, do you have a solution? Nope. So, trying to hold back tears but voice breaking and all, I canceled the order and said to tell the manager that I was VERY disappointed.
I spent the next several hours either in tears or trying not to be in tears (while I did things like registered DS1 for Chinese school - they were very nice and showed excellent customer service even when they didn't need to - imagine that!). I'm really not a very emotional person in general, so this is waaay out of whack for me. But I had also told DS2 that I had ordered a cake and he was so excited! How can I not have a cake for him? And DH was right that I didn't have time or energy to make one, let alone make one with a dino. My mom offered to help decorate one if we could just get a plain cake. Surely we can get a plain cake somewhere. But I won't eat cake from other store bakeries and the natural icings I make don't decorate well. So we finally came up with the idea that I'd go back to WF, get a PLAIN cake with writing on it in his favorite color, and he'd use some little dino toys to decorate it. He LOVED the idea so we were all set...
With great anxiety I went back to WF. Looked over their cakes and there was nothing interesting. A lady finally asked if she could help me and I said I needed a cake with just writing on it. She asked which one. I said, no, a plain one. Just green trim and green writing. She said, we don't do custom cakes. It has to be in the book. And we need 3-4 business days notice.
Um, no, I HAD an order that they took with no problem and now I just want my cake PLAIN. Just do the writing that you do for anyone for FREE. That's it. Nothing else. No, she says, we don't do custom cakes and you'd need 3 days. You can have one of these, she says. Um, sure, which one are you going to scrape off to give me a plain cake? She doesn't get it. I asked to talk to the manager and am haughtily told that she IS the manager. Fine, I said, about to burst into tears again, I'll talk to the STORE manager.
I barely made it to somewhere I could turn away from the Saturday afternoon crowds before I started sobbing again. This lady flat out said I can't have a cake for my son's birthday!!
I just cannot believe it. I abandoned my cart with milk to go up to customer service and grabbed tissues there, totally unable to stop crying. An employee there sees me and is very concerned, even assuring me she'll get me a cake for no charge. They get the team leader and I talk to her through tears, telling her I just want a CAKE I can feed to my family. PLAIN CAKE. Not custom. Just a piece of cake. She is flabbergasted and has no idea what I was being told what I was. She says, yes, they are using the "book" now in this region but that THAT store was doing so well with CUSTOM cakes that they still do them! (Besides the signs that say "custom cakes for any occasion!" all over the display.) She offers to have the dino done for free but I just ask for the simple, plain, any-monkey-can-do-it plain cake with the message on it in green. She didn't get the memo about the whole thing being free - rats.
She promises she'll have it ready tomorrow and is profusely apologetic. I told her, I LOVE their store and their people and have NEVER had a problem before. And I'm not usually so upset about things, but it's my little guy's birthday AND I'm very pregnant.
So I suppose the one good thing about being overly emotional is getting very quick help.
It was all I had not to break down AGAIN checking out with my milk. And I'm pretty sure I was in tears over it a few times after and while I was entirely drained, could barely sleep. Ugh.
I seriously have no idea WHY that all hit me so hard. I might normally be upset but I do NOT normally sit around crying!!
I am just really, really hoping we DO get the cake tomorrow. DS turned down tabletop smores from the restaurant in favor of a cake with dinos on it.
Anyway, I thought of the recent discussions on random crying jags and realized it probably is all related to hormones and stress and pregnancy and all of that. Throw in a special day for the little one and it just all gets messy!
I am now going to go de-hair myself after giving both big boys hair cuts/trims tonight. I'm not sure why I torture myself by doing that, but, I did get through it.
I insist on only cutting with scissors (even on the short-haired boy, I just don't like clippers and I don't like super-short hair) which means you actually need some SKILL. I'm not sure I have any.
And DS2, who has long curly hair, decided he DID want me to trim his (he really needed it). So I tried the curly hair approach I had finally read about. It actually worked pretty well but it's SO nerve-wracking, especially with his gorgeous finger curls, all fresh and bouncy after a bath.
I'm pretty sure his came out better than DS1's, though.
I REALLY need to trim DS3s - SUPER curly. I just don't trust anyone else to know how to do it and feel less likely to totally ruin it by doing the cut-each-curl-individually method. If I can just get him to SIT long enough.
75 days till my EDD!
Baby has been moving a TON today (actually, not so much for a bit.. sleeping time?). Or was it yesterday. Anyway, I am realizing we're really in that stage of frequent movement. I think I read they go to a cycle of 20-30 minute sleep/wake sessions. That definitely jives with what I was feeling!
Sorry for babbling. And not even being caught up.
Must sleep. I didn't even finish wrapping gifts of getting things ready for the zoo!
And oh drat. I was supposed to move laundry. EEK! So much for bed!