Originally Posted by Kelmendi
I think it really depends on where the car is parked.
That's a good point. Even though I live in an urban area, it's not so crowded that we have to park several blocks away when we go out to eat. We usually just park in the parking lot. So I wasn't quite envisioning a long walk.
As far as them being dropped off and the car not even being accessible -- it seems unlikely that an 8yo would be so irrational as to try to go get the doll if she knew it was miles and miles away. Even my 5yo would understand that sort of situation.
It seems possible that, as nextcommercial mentioned, the daughter might have had the option of staying home with Dad but just begged and begged to go, even after Mom explained that it was going to be boring adult conversation at a boring adult restaurant.
At that point maybe Mom just felt like giving her dd a super-strong dose of experiencing an adult lunch date, so as to maybe get her to be more agreeable to staying home with Dad the next time Mom wanted to have some adult time.
If this is the case, it certainly doesn't make her a bad mom or anything, but it just doesn't seem like the best way of handling it. But then, I'm not sure if my way has always been the "right" way either, LOL -- it's just the easy way.
When I've occasionally wanted to go out and do something adult, dh has often done something super fun with the girls ... i.e. they have dropped me off at a talk at a coffee shop while they've gone right up the street to eat and play at a McDonald's Playplace.
Maybe it's not "teaching" them anything -- but it's reinforcing the idea for me that when things are hard, it's not necessarily because they "have" to be hard. We can often find an easy solution with a little ingenuity.