Woo hoo! Let's play along. On that note, I recalled that we used to have a Queer TTC stories thread that was stickied to the top of the forum. I PMed the forum moderator, and hopefully she can make that happen again!
QOTD- (Please feel free to share whatever you are comfortable with) How long did you TTC? What methods did you use and which was the successful one? Meds? How long have you been with your DP/DW? How old are you? How many children do you have? How many more children would you like? Also, post a picture if you're comfortable. With all the new/returning faces, I would love to get a sense of who everyone is
I married my dear wife in 2005 and we started dating in 2003. This March, we'll have been a couple for 8 years. I'm currently 32 and she's currently 30. We have two children, now ages 13 and 15, that we adopted in 2007. This is our first pregnancy and baby. We always wanted a baby and our initial plan was to adopt a boy between the ages of 5 and 8, and then later conceive a baby girl.
Adoption was our first choice and always part of our family plan. Having a baby was actually much more complicated for us. I don't actually really enjoy kids between the ages of 0-5, but I always had wanted to experience pregnancy. My DW knew that she'd never birth a child (she's made it very clear she's not interested), but she really liked the idea of a baby. We were divided, or rather polarized, for many years on the unknown versus known donor issue. We also weren't really sure about adding a third to the mix. There were times leading up to the conception of the maybe-baby where I was pretty sure we were at our max number of kids. We both flip-flopped back and forth. I had set a deadline of March 2010 to decide whether or not we were going to try to have a baby as I'm getting up there in age and had no idea at the time whether or not I'd have fertility issues to address. Having had adopted kids where we've had to share more than we ever thought possible (we didn't sign up for an open adoption, which wasn't even an option because the kids were crown wards, but their birth parents are in their lives now), my DW was no longer so opposed to a known donor.
In March 2010 we decided to move forward with our maybe-baby project and we asked a friend of ours to be a known donor. We spent the spring drafting up our donor contract and charting in more detail. We did our first insemination in July (at home with a syringe and artichoke jar while our two kids were at summer camp) and got pregnant right away. Obviously, this was MUCH faster than we anticipated.
On the number of kids? I think we're done. Well, if money were no object I'd like to get pregnant again with DW eggs. But, I'm not sure I want to be parenting that long. She's also really interested in adopting another kid, a teenager, once our two kids have moved out of the house and are self-sufficient. I'm not quite sure I'm up for another adoption and a teenager at that. I've discovered that as much as I love working with teens, they're not always my favourite people to parent ;)