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Hooray and welcome, AmandaHope!

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Hey ladies~

 

I'm bad about posting here, so I wanted to come catch up.

 

DP and I have been together seven years this week. We met when I lived in London, and went out on Thanksgiving feeling pitiful because I had no one to celebrate with (and had had to work that day since it's not a holiday there, etc).  I was actually out on a date with another gal who said that her friend was going to join us at the bar, and as soon as the 'friend' came up to our table, I knew she was the one I'd been waiting for.   I asked for her number at the end of the night, and she said "I never can remember my cell number, just give me yours and I'll call you". I totally thought she was giving me the brush-off, but she called the next day and we've been together ever since.  She's been living with me in the US for about 5 1/2 years, working on an MA and now a PhD, and then we'll most likely move back to London.  It took us about 14 months, and six actual tries, to actually conceive our little'un using ID release donor sperms from Fairfax Cryobank.  It's our first, which I'm carrying since I'm of Advanced Maternal Age, and then she'll have the next one five years or so.   We found out today that we're having a girl! I'm so shocked! I've felt from the outset that it was a aboy, but have been dreaming it's a girl, so Wehrli, it looks like my dreams were right, rather than my gut. I look forward to finding out what your 'results' are!

 

 

Erthe-Mama~ I'm so sorry you've had such crap with your midwives, and that you'll have to go to the hospital now. I hope your speedy labor comes soon and you have your new babe to enjoy through the holidays xo

 

 

Welcome AmandaHope!!! 

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Congrats on your girl, Library!! 

 

I have to rant and rave, today has been rough! I woke up at 3am with a fever, chills, aches, and pains. I stayed home from work which I really did not want to do, trying to save all my time for the baby. This afternoon I got a call from my doctor that I have gestational diabetes. greensad.gif I am now worried about how this will affect the baby, I need to stop reading about it though, it is making me too nervous. That, believe it or not, was not the worst part...I got a letter from my the hospital where I pan to deliver stating that United Health (my insurance provider) is trying to drop them as an in network provider. banghead.gifhopmad.gif There will not be an answer until January, I am due 2/4. The hospital where I am delivering specializes in labor and deliver and is the only on in RI that does. United's income was 4.8 billion last year- it is disgusting! Cuss.gifmecry.gif


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So much to catch up on!

 

Welcome to AmandaMom and AmyPDX!  Here's to smooth and healthy pregnancies for the two of you. champagne.gif

 

Burg - Yes, we did deal/do deal with ongoing attachment issues.  Our kids were lucky in the sense that they only lived in one foster home for an extended period of time before they were made crown wards and available for adoption which is when they were placed with us.  I think that people worry a lot about attachment issues, and yes they are serious, but I haven't seen too many kids who can't form some sort of attachment when they're finally placed in a loving and caring home.  I also think there's not sufficient emphasis in the adoption literature regarding that adoption is a two-way street - you have to attach to your kids as much as they attach to you.  With our younger one, my DW immediately attached and it took me quite a bit longer.  I attached more earlier on to my older one, and that's varied with time, and my DW still struggles with that.  Part of the issue is that our DD has an LD that presents very similarly to an attachment issue and it took a long time to get a diagnosis and once we knew what was going on moving forward became a whole lot easier.

 

And sorry about the GD and hospital stuff.  What a pain in the butt.

 

LibraryLady - Congrats on the girl!!!

 

Earthe_Mama - Any baby yet?

 

AFU, nothing all that exciting to report.  I saw my midwife on Monday and all is progressing well with the pregnancy.  I wrote about the naming conundrum that we're having over in my DDC, so any comments or ideas is appreciated.  Our donor was supposed to come for a visit this weekend, but I think we're going to cancel on him.  With work insanity (oh, the drama is back in full force), child insanity and school insanity for my DW, I really just need some time to decompress.  I really don't want to entertain or have extra people in my space (thankful that our Thanksgiving was last month!)

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 Anyone else dreading Thanksgiving for the first time ever, or just me?  I'm officially the carb cooker for our "families we choose" feast:  sticky buns, mascarpone potatoes, rolls, and chocolate pie.  I'm planning on sitting in the corner, sipping ice cold water and hugging my giant bowl of mashed potatoes.  For a foodie like me, having to endure the holiday season with this level of morning sickness is no fun at all!

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cejae, sorry to hear your dreading turkey day... i am not, at least not because of appetite (or lack there of). winky.gif hope you are feeling good enought to tolerate all of that odiferous food.

gumshoe, i saw your naming conundrum in our DDC... i like Harper, but i see your point about the Prime Minister. wish i was more help...

burg, so sorry to hear that you aren't feeling well... i am suffering from a cold myself. greensad.gif and FX that the hospital stays in network at least long enough for that babe to be born there and fully covered.

library, i can't believe your having a girl!!! orngbiggrin.gif it makes me wonder about my gut vs. my dreams... only, like, 3.5 more months until we know. oh, and what were you all doing in london? is she english?

erthe, sorry to hear that the midwives turned you in... hoping that your babe is in your arms [soon].

afm, not a whole lot here... baby's kicking up a storm now. seems to like to dance on my bladder. my carpal tunnel is getting worse by the day. i've started chiro, but it doesn't seem to be helping much. i also started a prenatal class (i've been doing video at home) last night but i was the only one in attendance. the instructor seems nice though. i'm ready for thanksgiving dinner... we are going to DPs parents house tomorrow and then will have dinner with my parents on friday. smile.gif happy "we stole the land from the natives" day!
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AFU, nothing all that exciting to report.  I saw my midwife on Monday and all is progressing well with the pregnancy.  I wrote about the naming conundrum that we're having over in my DDC, so any comments or ideas is appreciated.  Our donor was supposed to come for a visit this weekend, but I think we're going to cancel on him.  With work insanity (oh, the drama is back in full force), child insanity and school insanity for my DW, I really just need some time to decompress.  I really don't want to entertain or have extra people in my space (thankful that our Thanksgiving was last month!)


Thread crashing ;) You mention in your post that you would like a different name. I think Addison is REALLY popular right now so might not be different in the long run. I'm also in Canada and I don't think Harper (esp. for a girl) is too related to the pm (who I also dislike!).

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Cejae~ Yikes! I guess I didn't think about it, but it would be miserable to be in the midst of food heaven and be more along the lines of 'food heaving'. Poor thing!  I hope you'll at least be able to go out on the patio and escape the smells! (And when you're feeling better, I'd love the recipe for mascarpone potatoes...) 

 

 

Burg~ URGH!! I'm so so so sorry to hear about your gestational diabetes! And even sorrier to hear about your criminal insurance company. BASTARDS!!! They're all crooks, but this is an especially bad time to be jerking you around.  I do think you're smart not to spend too much time on the internets freaking yourself out about the diabetes, though. Do what the doc says, only take info from reputable sources and TAKE CARE of yourself xoox

 

 

Wehrli~  I thought of you when we got the big news. I do wonder if your dreams/subconscious are really telling you like mine was clearly telling me. At the risk of sounding a little too X-Files, every time someone close to me has been pregnant, I've dreamed about them and their baby's gender and I've been right 100% of the time.  I guess the same accuracy applies to me too, which I find freaky and fun.  I'll try and dream about you next, but I think I'm going to believe that you're having the girl your dreams are telling you about.  And yes, DP is English. I was so bored and so burned out living in Oklahoma, never having a date, working all the time, etc, I decided to fulfill a lifelong dream of going to live in London. I got a teaching job through an agency and lived there for two years just hanging out, traveling, meeting fun people, drinking beer, enjoying the abundance of gorgeous lesbians to the fullest (ahem) and eventually meeting the love of my life. Lucky me!!

 

Gumshoe~ I'll take a look at your naming connundrum, but I will second the fact that Addison/Madison/Addy/Maddy are REALLY common right now.  I don't know if that matters to you, but if it does, look elsewhere. Sorry. 

 

 

Looking forward to tomorrow's feast. We're having another couple over and just eating and being low-key. Then Friday we're driving to Dallas into the shopping frenzy to look for Ikea baby furniture. Fun!!!

 

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librarylady - i don't know if i mentioned it before but i'm scottish (like, born there scottish).  can you guys do second parent adoption on ok?  because if you can, your dp should be able to apply for a british passport for your baby girl!  we are going to do that with ds2 next year.  i'm not sure if that even matters to you but thought i would throw it out there.  ds1 already has a british passport by descent.

 

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Hey everyone !

 

Sorry I havent been around as much, work has been crazy and I just accepted a new job that I have to find a way to juggle with the old. (long story but this is a bittersweet thing).

 

Anyway we had a big US yesturday and the girls are perfect according to the radiologist :) Charlie is head down and Chloe is her complete opposite : her bum is down and her head is up. The Dr doesnt think they will move all that much from this point on. Charlie (baby A) is quite a bit smaller than Chloe (baby B) as they weigh 2 pounds 7 and 3 pounds 2. I am a bit concerned by that difference, Charlie is esimated at the 30th percentile and Chloe, at the 75th... but the radiologist didnt seem concerned. We have our appt with the doc in two weeks so I guess we will have more info then.

 

Oh and we found out that theu both have alot of HAIR !!! isnt thatr amazing that they can see that on US ???

 

Also, on the not-so-hot front, DP is anemic and might have GD. She failed the 1h test and did the 2h test yesturday.  It REALLY depressed her to think that she might have to deal with GD as she eliminated everything else (alcool, smokes...) with using sugar ! I hope she is not diabetic or else Xmas is going to be tough !

 

Hope everyone is well :)

 

Coco

xxx

 

PS: I had a nice post full of personnals and THIS ?%$/$%?& system ate it !!! Sorry :-(


Edited by Coco99 - 11/25/10 at 5:14am
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Thanks to everyone for your feedback on the naming issue. I think that I'm beginning to realize that I'm "old" at 32.  By this I mean I keep on tending towards avoiding names that were popular when I was growing up, so I pick names that are currently absent in my own friend, work and social circles.  I've never ever met a Priya, Addison or Harper.  These names are all relatively unique to me! 

 

I guess if I were to hang out at the labour ward or in a preschool class, I would find lots of kidlets with these cool and unique-to-me names.  Whatever happened to the Lisa, Michelle, Jennifer and Amanda's of the world?  I know 10+ of each of those (ha, on these boards alone!).  Are those names common at all these days?  How on earth does one who doesn't hang out with kids under the age of 6 determine what will be uncommon?

 

(The funny sidebar on this is that if the baby were a boy I REALLY wanted to name him Caden.  I totally dig that name. DW not so much. I've never heard it before, nor have I ever met one.  Then I began to read online name sites and it was everywhere.  This very special name was suddenly so common.  And now, I'm totally questioning my identity.  Have I become a mainstream, picket fence queer?  My name selections are not really helping this assertion.)

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Thanks to everyone for your feedback on the naming issue. I think that I'm beginning to realize that I'm "old" at 32.  By this I mean I keep on tending towards avoiding names that were popular when I was growing up, so I pick names that are currently absent in my own friend, work and social circles.  I've never ever met a Priya, Addison or Harper.  These names are all relatively unique to me! 

 

I guess if I were to hang out at the labour ward or in a preschool class, I would find lots of kidlets with these cool and unique-to-me names.  Whatever happened to the Lisa, Michelle, Jennifer and Amanda's of the world?  I know 10+ of each of those (ha, on these boards alone!).  Are those names common at all these days?  How on earth does one who doesn't hang out with kids under the age of 6 determine what will be uncommon?

 

(The funny sidebar on this is that if the baby were a boy I REALLY wanted to name him Caden.  I totally dig that name. DW not so much. I've never heard it before, nor have I ever met one.  Then I began to read online name sites and it was everywhere.  This very special name was suddenly so common.  And now, I'm totally questioning my identity.  Have I become a mainstream, picket fence queer?  My name selections are not really helping this assertion.)


Yes, Caden is very popular...I have a nephew and a 2nd cousin named Caden and I hear it periodically in public as well. However, I feel like if you really love a name and it is perfect for your baby then who cares whether it's common or not. Your baby won't be common :) I guess it depends on how important it is to choose a unique name just for the sake of being unique. I think it's equally important to choose a name you love and that will suit your baby. For us, uniqueness and how much we loved the name were equally weighed. Luckily DP and I agreed on names right from the beginning! Good luck...you'll find a name that is perfect for you little one I'm sure :)

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Hey ladies~ I'm so full!! I tell ya, having a gut full of baby doesn't leave much room for rhubarb/apple crumble!  Still, it's been a great holiday. DP and I cooked all morning, then some friends with whom we usually spend the holiday came over and we all ate then went for a walk in the cold. Very nice!  Hope you're all as full and happy as we are x

 

 

Indigo~ Oklahoma in no way has second parent adoption (apparently it makes Sara Palin and the Baby Jesus cry) or else we'd have been all over getting a passport for the kiddo.  We're having a civil partnership in 2012 in London, and will file all the necessary papers after that.  We wish we could do more now, but this is the best we can do. She's wonderful to have given me so much time here in the Bible Belt, away from her family, but I have introduced her to the joys of 4th of July cookouts, Prison Rodeo and biscuits and gravy! 

 

 

 

Coco~ Glad to hear the girls are doing well, even if they're small. And yeah, it's nutty that an us can tell how much hair they have!! Sorry about DP's diabetes.  Hopefully they can give you a good action plan and all will be well soon.

 

 

Gumshoe~ Yes, Caden (and similar Jaden/Braden/Aiden kinda names) are really common, and Lisa/Michelle etc are really 'dated' as in oh so late 80s/early 90s.  I guess I'm lucky enough to have worked in schools for the last 20 years, so I have my finger on the pulse of the naming trends.  Of course, it makes it even harder to pick a name for our own little'un, if for no other reason than no matter what we pick, I've probably had a pain in the butt kid by the same name!! ;)

 

 

Carmen~ If I may ask, what's your kiddo's name?  We just don't know what to do. Our top contenders right now are Alice and Josephine, but it's still a while, so who knows!?!?!?

 

 

Braving the crazy Dallas traffic tomorrow to do some baby shopping.  My mom (who is crazy excited about the fact that we're having a girl) is coming with us and will do some serious damage to her credit cards, of this I have no doubt!!!  Enjoy the rest of your holidays!!

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I hope it was a happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrated:  next year, I hope we all get to have babies-in-arms for the festivities!

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Our last ultrasound ! (translation of the title : Hair Already !)

 

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She's wonderful to have given me so much time here in the Bible Belt, away from her family, but I have introduced her to the joys of 4th of July cookouts, Prison Rodeo and biscuits and gravy! 

 


Carmen~ If I may ask, what's your kiddo's name?  We just don't know what to do. Our top contenders right now are Alice and Josephine, but it's still a while, so who knows!?!?!?

 

LOL @ prison rodeo. ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Her name is Skylar.
 

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Coco~ What great pix! And how wonderful you're already getting an I love you! My kiddo was making the Vulcan 'Live long and prosper' salute, so you know she's kin to me!

 

Carmen~  Skylar's a great name. She's a real cutie. And the prison rodeo's something that has to be seen to be believed.  

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hey library... did you post pics of your u/s? did you get any? i'd love to see them!! orngbiggrin.gif

coco, i love seeing all of the photos of the twins! it must be something to be able to see them so often! smile.gifsmile.gif

afm, belly pic to follow! redface.gif
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here's my belly pic....

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Great belly, Wehrli!  I like your hair too.    We haven't posted u/s pics yet. DP's going to scan them in, but having your u/s the day before Thanksgiving break has left us kinda busy. We'll get it done, though.  DP says she has my nose already!

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