I just wanted to add that my dh was really against it in the beginning (sounds like even more than your dh, since yours has stated that he isn't so very against it at the moment), then against it but less sure as he got more info... and this was right up until literally the week ds was born. I knew I would regret it so I wasn't backing down, but I also wasn't about to make it a fight, so I didn't push back at him too much. He didn't need more info, he just needed time to process. I took silence as leaving the decision up to me. He didn't want to bring it up, so I didn't bring it up AT ALL. We actually pretty much just stopped talking about it.
After ds was born, and he held him, dh looked at him for a long time, then at me, and quietly said "you were right about the circumcision thing."
I think he really couldn't process what the whole thing meant until he saw the baby. Looking at the little guy now, I would no sooner cut off his foreskin than any other part of his adorable pudgy, little body.
IMO, I don't think a mohel is much of a compromise (and naturally they will minimize the pain/trouble aspect of it, because it is their livelihood)... there's still no pain control there. I think you'd be much better waiting a bit longer and going the whole anesthesia route with a trained pediatric urologist. (also more time to realize that the whole thing really isn't necessary or worth the pain and $$ spent).
So sorry about the marital troubles though
Go easy on yourself. You sound so troubled... and I completely remember feeling that way, like I was tied in knots... but I promise it is not so monumental as it seems. Just take a deep breath and set this aside for awhile. It isn't worth having such an argument within yourself of with your dh, because it sounds like you still have time. Just remember that by not circumcising, you actually aren't doing anything but leaving things alone, which is actually really easy to do (just like housework, lol, but that's another topic)! When in doubt, just procrastinate!! (that's my motto about everything!) 
After ds was born, and he held him, dh looked at him for a long time, then at me, and quietly said "you were right about the circumcision thing."
I think he really couldn't process what the whole thing meant until he saw the baby. Looking at the little guy now, I would no sooner cut off his foreskin than any other part of his adorable pudgy, little body.IMO, I don't think a mohel is much of a compromise (and naturally they will minimize the pain/trouble aspect of it, because it is their livelihood)... there's still no pain control there. I think you'd be much better waiting a bit longer and going the whole anesthesia route with a trained pediatric urologist. (also more time to realize that the whole thing really isn't necessary or worth the pain and $$ spent).
So sorry about the marital troubles though
Go easy on yourself. You sound so troubled... and I completely remember feeling that way, like I was tied in knots... but I promise it is not so monumental as it seems. Just take a deep breath and set this aside for awhile. It isn't worth having such an argument within yourself of with your dh, because it sounds like you still have time. Just remember that by not circumcising, you actually aren't doing anything but leaving things alone, which is actually really easy to do (just like housework, lol, but that's another topic)! When in doubt, just procrastinate!! (that's my motto about everything!) 
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) I'm glad too.
