Does anyone have a 7yr old like this? *Super* Competitive?

[greenmom17]

My oldest dd is 7.5, and is beautiful, smart and the single most competitive person I've met in my life. *Everything* is a competition - she always has to be first, be the best, be the fastest, etc.

Especially with her brother (4), who has some sensory issues, speech issues and is much less coordinated and athletic than she is. He ADORES her, and she eats it up. She is good to him - they are always playing together, they cheer eachother on, but she must win or she throws a fit, literally crying and pouting. He can never be the first one down the stairs, or use the best swing, or use the #1 remote, etc.

DS is pretty good at Wii, and they like to play together sometimes. The other day ds was about to win a race and dd was screaming at him to put down his remote because she wasn't winning...he put the remote down...and dd won the race and yelled "I won! I won!" It's completely out of hand.

I have 0% of that in me, my dh is somewhat competitive, but she's incredible.

She's always showing off in one way or another, and it's getting annoying. I'm ALWAYS correcting her in these situations, it's not like I let it slide. But lately I'm worried that her behavior is going to alienate her in school and the kids won't want to be friends with her b/c of her competiveness.

She's uber-smart and I believe she also has ADHD, if that means anything...anyway just looking for anyone who might have a child like this - maybe it's normal at this age?

[lifeguard]

My nephew is like this. He is now 10 & it is definitely improving. To add to this his parents pretty much do NOTHING to improve it so the improvement is simply maturation (& perhaps input from teachers/coaches).

[meemee]

i think its the age + personality.

i think its also linked to perfectionism. i notice with my dd she has to know she will get it before she tries it. for the first time. otherwise she loses interest quickly.

she has no sibling so i am her competitor. even while walking to the car she has to get there first. at wii with her friend she doesnt ask him to put the game down. what she does is stop playing if she is not good at it.

since its the two of us i dont say anything. because life is teaching her at school. i know its an age thing because i've seen her friends do the same thing.