This is a great idea for a thread! My dd is only 2.5 so I'm still just noticing and figuring out the different what typical parenting is like in Italy. I wouldn't say that the typical attitude is completely un-AP here, though there are some things that go very much against AP principles, at least as I understand them.
On the positive side, I think cosleeping is pretty common and accepted. Breastfeeding of infants is really encouraged (though health care providers generally give ridiculously bad advice meaning that most women don't succeed. I also think Italians really appreciate childhood and want to let children be children- for example, schools teach reading later here than they do in my home country.
Another example of this is not very positive- parents and grandparents (who tend to do a lot of the parenting here) are often very indulgent...at the same time there is a lot of scolding, which seems contradictory. What I see a lot of is adults basically creating the sorts of behaviors that then make them angry when they finally lose their patience. Does that make sense?
As for other un-AP aspects, there is great emphasis on early weaning and the introduction to solids involves spoon-feeding pretty much exclusively, at least in the region where we live. People were (and continue to be) shocked that I let my dd eat with her hands. Also there's the tendency to make baby/kids foods even into early childhood rather than just giving children what their parents eat if its age appropriate. It's like they have this idea that the food adults eat is bad for children.
The very structured weaning is just one example of not following babies' and childrens' cues. The worst example of it is making children follow adult schedules. I know many toddlers and young children who are perpetually irritable because they are always overtired (no naps, up until midnight and later, then off to school in the morning.) Mealtimes are another example of this...there is the expectation that they should eat lots at two mealtimes and not really snack or graze much during the day. That may work with some kids, it doesn't for my dd and I've yet to meet one for whom it does, really!
I rarely see anyone babywearing. They're really into carriages and strollers here. The ideal baby is one that doesn't need to be held because then its easier for mom to cook and clean. When I used to tell people about how many hours a day I used to hold my high needs dd, to a one everyone asked, 'how do you cook?'
Homeschooling is pretty unheard of. Children are sent to preschool typically at 3 sometimes earlier even if there is a sahp (in Italy that will almost always mean sahm!) My dd will be going too, in just a couple of weeks...I am really sad about it but I feel soooo much pressure and I need to find work anyway. But everyone talks about how its so important to send them so that they can be 'socialized.' I question that with people but it's an idea that is treated like fact so no one will even discuss it!
I've noticed that parents tend to be really overprotective and even micromanage their children's lives, often even into adulthood. I think this is similar to what you said about treating children as possessions and controlling them.
Overall, I think there is a very positive attitude toward childhood that would seem to fit really well with AP, but then somehow in practice, they do a lot of things that aren't AP at all.
I've noticed that people tend to be quite impressed with my dd (in terms of her diet, her level of independence (obviously not terribly high because she's still little, but I mean her ability to do things like put on her own shoes, stuff like that) and her confidence (partially due to her character I'm sure, but I like to think it also has to do with my meeting her needs and helping her create a secure attachment), but they often think what I do is weird or unhealthy. So they like the results but not the methods.