If he couldn't act like a jerk,

[haydn'smommy]

he wouldn't know how to act. IDK WTH his problem is, but really, I get tired of listening to him raise his voice at me, treat me like garbage and call me ignorant.
HE's the one who wanted this divorce, not ME. I'm so sorry that child support is a legal requirement and it might prevent him from living the perfect bachelor lifestyle he seems to think he is entitled to, but this is just how it is. He wanted out so now he is going to have to suffer the consequences of that. Calling me names and raising his voice at me isn't going to change that.
GAH!
At least the kids weren't here to witness it this time, though.

[hillymum]

I feel your pain! This is why i love our mutual restraining order! All contact must be pertinant to the children and conducted over text or email. LOVE IT! It is driving sbx nuts though. he tries to get me to talk to him about three times a week. e also wants to drop the restraining order. Not going to happen.
I highly recommend looking into getting one. Decreased my stress level no end!

[Momtwice]

That's right. The child support is one of the consequences of his choice.



It gets better.

[doubledutch]

disengage! you don't have to listen to that.

[kryztuh]

Your H sounds exactly like my H. Whenever he pulled something like that, I tried to keep my composure and end the conversation. Then I followed up with an email explaining that our phone conversation about x,y,x needs to be civil and that it's not OK to call me names or raise his voice to me. Until he can talk to me like this, all communication will be via email.

The tirades have gotten less since I started doing this and it creates a paper trail of documentation should you ever need it. A lot of ladies here think documentation of these things is essential. Good luck, I'm still going down this road...

[haydn'smommy]

I've really been keeping my cool lately and not letting him get to me. That actually seems to piss him off more. LOL. I have requested that most things be communicated in writing, but he still lives here so I see him daily and we talk and it often gravitates towards divorce stuff. I had thought we were doing good and going to learn to be civil for the sake of the kids, but he just cannot control that temper.