Edited by candycat - 12/25/10 at 5:03am
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9/1/10 at 3:29pm
I'm sorry. That sounds rough.
I really do think you need to talk to a lawyer in your area.
I was told that the court feels a man can be a jerk of a husband but a decent father. So if the abuse has all been toward you and not the kids (and even that I'm sure he will dispute) then I'm afraid your chances are not likely all that good.
As PP said there is a difference between legal and physical custody. You may have better luck getting one and not the other.
And as far as moving I think your best bet is to get that worked out as part of the divorce agreement.
Apparently here in CO you have to legally seperate for 90 days and then you can file for divorce. He's moving out next weekend (supposedly) so we haven't started the legal separation thing. He says he wants to get it over with ASAP. I think he is going to be the one to file, but I don't really care, it might as well be me. But I know he would respond to it even if I did. I don't even know what looks better, if he files or if I do.
He's said on multiple occasions that he'd kill me if I was disloyal to him.