Hi Mommies! I've turned to Mothering for great advice for many years now but this is my first post. Katielady, thanks SO MUCH for starting this thread (though I don't know if anyone's still checking it... it was started quite a while ago!) I've having difficulties with DS #1 for about a year now and the issues aren't resolving themselves like they're *supposed* to when you follow the ES approach.
I have been following the Ellyn Satter approach to feed both of my sons since they could take solids. My youngest is a year old and has NO problems whatsoever with eating. He devours everything that I offer him and has a very hearty appetite. My eldest (who is 3), on the other hand, has been a "meh" kind of eater all his life. Despite stickng to my guns with the Satter method, he's still got these really bad eating habits:
1. He LOVES carbs of all kinds and eats A LOT of them at all of his meals. Often, he will turn his nose up at everything else offered and only eat the carb, be it rice, noodles, pasta, bread, etc.
2. He refuses to eat pretty much all veggies. The only one that he will eat is sweet potato.
3. He is no longer willing to try new foods as readily as he used to be.
4. With junk food, he pretty much never self regulates! Mind you, we don't offer it to him often or have much of it around so perhaps it's because he doesn't get enough opportunities to learn to self regulate with junk. But, the times when he is offered cookies, for instance, he'll happily sit and eat 6 cookies and still want more! (This is after he has had a full meal just before, and said he's full) I then have to force myself to step away from the ES method and put a stop to it and tell him no more because I just cannot stand to allow him to consume so much junk!
5. If he doesn't like anything that's offered at a meal, he'll just chug down milk. Sometimes, I sadly step away from the ES method and limit the amount of milk he can consume and switch him over to water.
There are MORE isses but these are the main ones that I'd really love advice on. I've held strong for these 3 years, with the belief that the ES approach will eventually kick in and help get his healthy eatng habits going. But, after a year of having these issues and still no change in sight, I'm starting to lose the strength and am so tempted to start wavering!