I'm so sorry that things are rough with DH right now. As MW mentioned, the cycle of emotional redeployment is probably to blame. The service person does become accustomed to self-care and having more "free time" (depending on job, FOB etc.) while deployed, so readjusting to home life and wife/kid responsibilities can be tough. Have you considered talking to your unit's MFLC, or contacting Tricare to get a referral for off-post counseling services? It seems like DH should understand why you need him to be home more at night, but perhaps a neutral third party would be able to help you both negotiate your way through this impasse.
MW: I'm not sure if the class you are describing is like the ones the Army offers through ACS (Army Community Services) that deal with redeployment challenges and other marriage or parenting issues. If it is, these classes tend to be fairly poorly attended unless the speaker comes to a regular Family Readiness Group meeting, and children are welcome. I haven't attended any of the classes myself, but my neighbor (who is a new mom) has found them helpful. I prefer to meet with my counselor one-on-one to talk about any concerns I have, in part because I like the confidentiality.
Mae: Here's to hoping that the changes in barometric pressure=cervical changes as well
. I'll be thinking of you and waiting for updates!
AFM: Came away from my OB appt today with a back brace for my sciatica and a bottle of iron supplements due to moderate anemia. OB (a very nice guy who happened to provide my care during my last m/c) also gently mentioned that I failed the depression quiz for that visit, and asked if I wanted to see someone about it. When I mentioned that my DH is STILL deployed, he chalked it up to situational difficulties and gave me some reading on prenatal depression in women with a history of pregnancy loss and/or high risk. We'll see if it helps. I feel like we're in a holding pattern for now. The boys will no longer talk to DH on Skype, and my 4 yr old told me that he doesn't want to see daddy anywhere until he's in the house. Thankfully, the older boys return from their dad's house in CA early next week just in time to start the new school year, and we start gymnastics tomorrow. Distractions are good.