Originally Posted by Maine Mama Doula
Lurking, subbing, thinking of joining the Navy...
|Other than deployments, it can't be any worse than the 12 hour days I was gone while working in research.
Yes it can. Imagine your sergeant or whatever they have in the Navy calling you at eight p.m. on a Saturday at the very moment you're tucking your babies in (you have the phone on because you have to--that's your job) and telling you you need to be there Sunday morning.
And you had promised the kids the zoo.
They even picked out outfits for it.
Your kids waiting, waiting, waiting for you as you sit there while some blabbermouth talks on and on or punishes you all for something you didn't do... and for whatever reason, DH can't pick them up, and you can't either.
As in, cannot. You'll be AWOL. You just can. not. Someone else has to.
And this happens not once a year, not twice, but monthly or more.
Even if you're an officer.
My friend's husband is a sergeant. He's had duty every four day weekend this year. EVERY. Four day weekend. As well as every weekend.
True, that's the army, but it's also the military.
My husband chose to join rather than face a harsh job environment in 2008 and possible homelessness or me leaving our new baby at home. It has been so hard.
|It's a lot more than the regular 6 month deployments that happen every 2 years or whatever it is.
Army is every other year for at least one year. Plus, in my husband's unit, 30% of "at home" time is spent training for two weeks or more completely away from family (different town, etc.).
|DH and I have been talking a lot and I am just the better breadwinner and he is the better homemaker.
If your DH will SAH, then I think it's possible. But be ready to have your entire life changed 100%. I've done a lot in my life and nothing's been as pervasive in my life as this has, and I'm not even the soldier.