my mom gave me guilt... I didn't think she would, she was a Navy wife. But she gave me guilt about how both my brother and I (who never got to live with her when she moved with the military, due to her divorce from our dad and dad getting custody) both decided to have the military enter our lives the same month (okay I made the decision years ago, but I got married 2 weeks after my brother shipped off to basic training) and I took her 2 1/2 grandbabies far, far away from her, with her unable to even see the newest one until she is a few months old!
I just had to keep in mind... i may be her daughter, but I am my husbands wife and my childrens mother... i am an adult and free to make the decisions I think are best for the good of my family (husband and children, not parents and siblings!) and I 100% feel like moving to North Carolina and living with DH was the best decision I could make. And I do not regret it at all. Yes, I miss my mom. I wish we were closer physically... but we have phones and skype and Facebook. We keep in contact daily if not more often (I have been very close to her so being so far apart physically is hard)
She still gives me guilt trips, though not on purpose. She tried her hardest not to when my little brother (who just joined the army) got married last month. Back home in Illinois... on September 26th. I cried, I wanted to be there so bad. But I went into labor that night and had DD2 the next afternoon, proving that I made the right decision to stay home.
Its tough and really... with the distance and difficulty of getting to each other... it honestly feels like I live in Alaska or Hawaii or even another country!
But man, its worth it. I love the life we are making here...
I love being a stay-at-home mom. back in Illinois, I had to work to keep our home... down here I don't
and being able to make choices like homebirth without having to worry about what my mom will think if she comes over and sees all the supplies yes, I told her about it but we did not dwell on the subject, she was iffy about it. Though now that it is over she is more proud of me than my two pain-drug-free hospital births.
So I say... do what YOU want, what YOU think is best for YOUR family... not your mothers family... your husband, your children, yourself. Because that is your responsibility.
Sometimes tough choices like that come with surprising results. Like your mother not actually giving you a guilt trip. Which I hope is the case for you, because it is no fun.
another possible pro to alaska? Go in and see if theres a find your tribe for the town in alaska you would be stationed at. I know that theres a disproportionately large amount of people on MDC from alaska compared to other sites I visit.
As far as I can tell, where I am in NC (specifically the Jacksonville area... not going further inland to raleigh though that is a decently short trip) the majority of women on MDC that live around here happen to also chat in this thread lol.
As for the cold... it can be a con, but it can be a pro if you let it! Well, if you are like me at least. I love wearing warm clothes and snuggling up under a blanket with the kids to watch movies in the winter. It can be too hot to snuggle sometimes, but it can never be too cold to snuggle! LOL