Em doesn't hit (yet, probably, I hear it's a phase they all tend to go through), but she will get frustrated and push things away. Like, I'll offer her a bottle of milk and she'll get mad and shove it back in my face, that type of thing. I'll say "be gentle" but try to understand that it must be frustrating not being able to tell someone what you want.
I'm SOOOO ready for her to be verbal. I'm not "worried" about it because she shows all good signs: varied babble, a few words (at this point "sock" is big), nonverbal communication (including shaking head "no" and nodding "yes"), and definite comprehension of language-- she understands most of what you say to her. So it's not so much that I'm worried that she won't talk, just impatient, haha. Especially as she's 17 months and so many kids are talking so much more now. She won't even say "mama" or "dada"-- if I say "where's daddy?" she'll point at him, "where's mama?" she'll grin (thinking I'm being silly) and point at me, she'll point at herself for "Emma". But not a peep. *sigh* I reckon I just have to be patient, likely one day she'll just start talking.
She's also a bit shy / stranger anxiety... she's fine with people she knows well (me, her dad, my mom, mil, my sister) but except with my husband and I, she still takes a moment to "warm up" to people. Once she feels secure with them she's fine and will let other people pick her up, etc., but they can't just rush in and pick her up right away. I did have to leave her for a few days when I was in the hospital giving birth to her brother, and my MIL and my mom took turns staying here in the house with her. She did come visit every day (I was in there two days), but she did really well with them. I think it helped that she was in her regular environment, and I left ridiculously detailed notes of when she eats and what, when she naps, etc., so her routine was the same.
Originally Posted by ~Katie~
I think the fact that we can't remember the state of our own homes when we were small children should be a big reassurance not to be too hard on ourselves as parents, after all, our children will be the last people to judge us
Uh, that doesn't help me, rotfl, because my mom was literally Super Woman. She was a single mom after my parents divorced when I was about nine years old (at the time, my older sister was 11, and my little brother was 4). She worked literally every day (two jobs) because my dad never paid child support. She cooked dinner every night for us. And the house was always SPOTLESS. I can just assume at this point that she didn't sleep, because she would stay up cleaning all night. Now, partly this is because she has some type of cleaning disorder, but it kind of gives me an inferiority complex, rotfl.
But yeah, I'm struggling a bit right now to keep things under control. Because I grew up in such a clean house, it is really hard for me to focus or concentrate when things are messy. But with the newborn, the toddler (both in cloth diapers which just adds another thing to do every day), and us being broke as hell so I have to do a lot of money-saving stuff like cooking everything from scratch... I'm a bit worn out. The only time I ever get to relax is sitting at the computer nursing the baby.
I did join a "meet up" group for SAHMs. We've only had one playdate so far but everyone seemed kind of cool, we're meeting up again on Friday. It's nice to get out of the house once in a while and interact with other real live adults, haha.
Playing with sand/water table:http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../091810058.jpg
Naps with daddy:http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../091810029.jpg
New little man:http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../091810049.jpg
"finish nursing him and come play with me"http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../092810013.jpg
Hanging with the stuffed animalshttp://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../092810009.jpg
In the babyhawkhttp://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../092810006.jpg