Not a good update :( - Page 2

[Tresa]

Oh mygod.

How horrible. Ugh. Ow.

Why?

big, big hugs.

[korey]

I'm so very sorry, Erika.

[Family4Christ]

Oh mama! Goodness, I am SO sorry! I am glad you got to see your precious son! I will be praying for you.

[lyterae]

I'm so sorry Erika
Sending love and prayers your way.

[ombrooklyn]

I'm so sorry mama. Many hugs to you and may Landon rest peacefully.

[potatocraft]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is ok to not know what to feel, anything you feel is ok.

[spatulagirl]

I am very sorry for the loss of your son

[BunnyMcFluff]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[baby3in2011]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[mrforbes]

to you and your partner mama.

[sweeteleanor]

Oh Ericka. I wish you and your family peace after a time. Your family and little Landon will be in my thoughts so very much. You hang in there, just keep swimming, and allow yourself time to grieve mama.

[eakelly5]

The longer the night goes on, the harder this gets. DBF has fallen asleep. and I was ok for most of the day, but now the pain seems so raw. All i want to do it go get Landen's little box and sit and talk to him, but I don't think that is very healthy for my healing. I feel like I will wake up tomorrow and this is all a bad dream. So selfish to think WHY ME? What did I do wrong? We loved this little guy so much. I just can't stop the tears at this point. I'm usually the strong one..

[Milly_P]

Oh, Erika, I am so so sorry. That is so scary and so sad and I am just so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry for your precious little one. I am glad you did get to hold him. I don't know really know anything about grief and healing, but I, personally, don't find anything wrong with looking at him again and talking to him. This is horrible and tragic and shocking and something that just happened so you need time to heal. No one can expect you to "get over" this immediately or even real soon. Does your hospital have a loss support group? I know many hospitals and churches do. I know that's not what you want right now, but when you feel strong enough, it might be comforting. I'm just so sorry. No mother should ever have to go through this.

[EvansMa]

Oh mama. I am so sorry.

[stormgirl]

The questions are the hardest. The 'why did this happen with all the love around' ones. Love to you and your bf, hold onto each other and your other children, and celebrate the short love infused existence lived by little Landen. I've been there, same kind of timing. My heart goes out to you.

[Mrs.Music]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish we always got to know why. I'm glad you didn't have to get the d & c so you got the chance to hold and name your son.

Originally Posted by eakelly5

The longer the night goes on, the harder this gets. DBF has fallen asleep. and I was ok for most of the day, but now the pain seems so raw. All i want to do it go get Landen's little box and sit and talk to him, but I don't think that is very healthy for my healing. I feel like I will wake up tomorrow and this is all a bad dream. So selfish to think WHY ME? What did I do wrong? We loved this little guy so much. I just can't stop the tears at this point. I'm usually the strong one..

Talk to him. Why not? How could it be bad for you to say goodbye? Don't we all do that with funerals anyway? Isn't it considered normal when a person talks to a deceased family member at their grave?

[Twinklefae]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Coco99]

My heart is breaking for you...
Sending you love and healing thoughts...

Coco
xx

[burg]

I am so so sorry for your loss.

[korey]

Originally Posted by Milly_P

I am glad you did get to hold him. I don't know really know anything about grief and healing, but I, personally, don't find anything wrong with looking at him again and talking to him.

I completely agree with this. I know I would feel the same way, Erika. You might also want to consider having a formal funeral or other ceremony with family and friends. It would allow you to grieve deeply and be supported by those who love you.