My girls are 3 years 2.5 months.
They sleep in their own beds until 3ish and then nurse off and on in my bed until about 6. (I hope to change this soon!
) Then we are up and putz around until about 7. Nurse a little, play a little, some times watch some tv.
Then it is time to get ready for the day. They go to school 3X week and we leave the house about 8:15. They've only gone once so far. So 3X/wk we leave (on bikes with the older kids) for school. The other mornings we leave via car for gymnastics and a library program, then errands. So basically, the mornings are full.
Lunch and Nap (in any order) between about 12/1-2/3.
Then snack, lots of nursing
, and "ignored" time while I make sure we are all set for the chaos that begins at 3:30/4. They usually play in an older sib's room or entertain themselves with toys, markers, playdo, etc. Sometimes they need more and we read, do puzzles. They go in and out of the house on their own. (I leave a door propped open.)
Then they are dragged around to the older kids practices. They play or hang on me or look for dogs or water fountains, etc. It isn't all terrible for them. Then dinner and they play on their own again. They usually play quite well together at this time, since I'd like to be getting them to bed.
If no afternoon practices then they do tend to watch some tv while I help with the harder homework. They are just starting to play in our yard with the other neighborhood kids without me needing to be there- space trolley, croquet, basketball, trampoline, etc.
In bed by 8:30ish, asleep by 9ish. We do not nurse before bed!
I think the key to playing together well is keeping them busy and getting out of the house. A lot. Just a slow, leisurely trip to the grocery store for a few item to break up the day, kwim? With my first child I remember being desperate for something to do, anything to do, just to get out of the house. It is work to get out, but then everyone is in better spirits, imo.