The September "Whatever" Thread - Page 9

[akind1]

I have only been pregnant once, and I tested on 12DPO b/c of FF study. with a digi no less, as I didn't want ambiguity at 6 a.m.

I am just not into testing early, b/c I am a PIAC/POAS pansy.

I am really torn regarding delivery place also. IF I can find a midwife who will do a VBAC (while midwives doing homebirths are perfectly legit in SC, HBACs - not so much, but I have heard there are some that will attend you under the radar). Even if so, I will probably do shadow care also, but not sure I want to continue with the hospital-based midwife practice I had for DS . . .may switch to their OB side, as I actually really liked the OB that did my c-section and he sounded far more encouraging of my VBAC trial than the midwives. (weird, I know), or switching to an entirely new practice . . .

I am not ruling out UC either, but I need DH to be completely supportive of that, if so. He was on the fence with DS and a couple random high BP readings pushed him into more the hospital route.

CD 7 here, and I think :AF might have left the building! start temping tomorrow

[Kindermama]

I got a + internet-cheapie at 9 dpo with my 4th and at 10 dpo with my 3rd. I guess it just depends!

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by akind1

not sure I want to continue with the hospital-based midwife practice I had for DS . . .may switch to their OB side, as I actually really liked the OB that did my c-section and he sounded far more encouraging of my VBAC trial than the midwives. (weird, I know)

I'm a big advocate of midwifery care. I chose a midwife over an OB with my first pg when I was only 20 and had no idea what I was doing. I had the same experience with the midwives vs. OBs at the army hospital in Hawaii. The midwives were pretty negative about my VBAC but I found a great OB who was supportive of anything I wanted to do.

[Kimmiepie]

With my first two I had no idea there were any "early" tests on the market, if there even were. I think I took a fact plus with DD and an equate with ds1. First time we were trying, and I tested + on the day of my missed period. The second time we were not trying and I was in denial. I tested a week late and got a +. Don't know if I would have gotten a positive any sooner or not. It just never occurred to me (nor did I have the $) to test a bunch of times back then.

With ds2 and ds3 I tested + with a FRER at 9dpo both times. The internet cheapies didn't even show a line. With my miscarriage I also tested + around 8/9dpo with a FRER. I really like that brand.

Technically though, it totally depends on when you implanted. You could implant at 6dpo one time and the next pregnancy not implant until 13dpo!

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Kimmiepie

With ds2 and ds3 I tested + with a FRER at 9dpo both times. The internet cheapies didn't even show a line. With my miscarriage I also tested + around 8/9dpo with a FRER. I really like that brand.

I've never liked FRER because Answer Early costs less, is made by the same company, and is very, very sensitive, so take this FWIW. FRER have changed. They now test for a different variant of the hcg hormone, which is supposedly why they can be used even earlier than before. The problem is that now they are also prone to false +, especially in older women. I don't know all the details about how and why they are prone to false + but, as far as I know, they are the only test that can give a true false + rather than just an evap that someone may mistake for a +. I will not be using them ever again. I'll stick with AEs if I need a big fancy test.

[MarineWife]

Ok, I give. I'm ready to admit that systematic early testing may not be such a good idea. Not that I'm going to give it up. I don't have that much willpower. It never used to get to me like this either. I can't stand it anymore when it looks like there might be a line there but I'm just not sure and I have to wait another freakin' day! Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!

I think my eyes play tricks on me. Because I know where the line is supposed to be, if I look long and hard enough I can make one appear. Then I look away and glance back and it's not there. Look away and glance back again and there it is but if I look too long it disappears. So I set it down and as I'm setting it down I'm sure I see a line again.

I'm going to try to take my mind off of it by doing some yarn stalking. A dyer is going to put a colorway I requested up for sale today. I sure hope I can get some before it's all gone. (Oh, and shhhhh...don't tell my dh.)

[Maine Mama Doula]

My quant HCG yesterday was 13.5. So I go in anytime after the 20th to test again. Need to see the values go down to <5 or up if I'm preggers again. This means I won't need to buy any tests My MW recommended waiting a cycle because she said my chances of a m/c again were higher if I didn't. I told her it might be too late for that We'll see. I think that if I get another cycle though, we're going to start preventing. I think I need to make plans that don't involve another baby if it's not meant to be right. now.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife

I think my eyes play tricks on me. Because I know where the line is supposed to be, if I look long and hard enough I can make one appear. Then I look away and glance back and it's not there. Look away and glance back again and there it is but if I look too long it disappears. So I set it down and as I'm setting it down I'm sure I see a line again.

I get so crazed I pull them out of the trash, like,"Wait, lemme just look one more time..."

Sigh, it's nice being zen this cycle!

The only thing I'm stressing about is I still have this UTI. I'm going to call the dr today b/c it's been almost a week, and while the ACV helps, it's not kicking it. I'm so run down fighting this pain. I think even taking abx at this point will be easier on my body then all these natural remedies and the stress it's causing me. What do you guys think?

[Maine Mama Doula]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

The only thing I'm stressing about is I still have this UTI. I'm going to call the dr today b/c it's been almost a week, and while the ACV helps, it's not kicking it. I'm so run down fighting this pain. I think even taking abx at this point will be easier on my body then all these natural remedies and the stress it's causing me. What do you guys think?

It sounds like you've tried everything and if it's not getting better after a week, I would take the antibiotics too. I'm assuming you've drank a lot of water to try flushing it out, right? GL! Oh, and I've dug tests out of the trash too

[MarineWife]

Nina ~ That's so interesting that your hcg is still 13.5. How long has it been since you m/ced? My hcg was 12 on the day I started bleeding. I did test until they weren't + anymore but it only took 2 days, I think.

I don't even bother putting my hpts in the trash. I keep them for comparison to the next ones.

[BarefootScientist]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica

Those ARE fantastic updates. In my head (and of course this is coming from not having had kids yet) I'm interested in some form of early PL'ing/elimination communication... but we'll see what happens once I'm actually there. I know the reality is often different once you get there.

I did EC! I LOVE it.

Let's see, what other discussions are happening...

Testing: The only time I've been pregnant I tested pos at 15 dpo, but that's also the only test I took. I already knew. Right now I'm agreeing with BabyCakes that early testing is overrated. This month I'm just going to try to put my mind on other things until it's obvious.

Birth: I'm with ya'll on being conflicted. DS was born in a hospital with midwives, just barely. The labor was so easy that he was almost born at home. In fact, had I known that what I know now about birth, I think I would have hopped into our bathtub and pushed him out instead of getting into the car. Now we have since moved, and there is a practice of midwives at a hospital in our town, but I really don't want to do the whole hospital thing - you know, having people in my face all the time, an IV and monitor, having to fight every intervention, etc. Homebirth midwifery is allegal in my state so I don't know how many midwives are around or how good they are (although I can find out). I do know there are a couple who will come over from the neighboring state. I live quite close to the hospital, so I'm considering just going with the hospital midwives and staying home if everything seems to be going well. I'm just trying to figure out the logistics of that though. I guess I need to ask a lot of questions when I get pregnant.

My Chart.

[BarefootScientist]

Hey guys...ok this is totally not whatever, but does anyone know what the definitive formula is for calculating a due date from your O date? It looks like I O'd Sep 8 or 9, so I'm looking at a June baby if I get pregnant right?

[lyterae]

Dropping in to say hi ladies

RE Testing: The two times I have been pregnant I tested the first time at 12DPO and got a faint line (DH didn't believe me), and the second time most of you remember and it wasn't until 16DPO and it was a very nice dark line. I have of course done the testing during a cycle and stared at tests and dismantled them to see if I could see anything. It's really nice when there is no mistaking that there is a line to see.

MW: How are you doing? How many dpo are you now?

[MarineWife]

Mel ~ Count 38 weeks ahead from your O day to get your 40w EDD. Or just use this. If you use your lmp it's going to assume a cd14 O. For a more accurate EDD, use the conception day and put in the date of your O.

lyterae ~ I'm only 8dpo today.

So...I went and rechecked my hpts. There is definitely a line on the $ Store test. Now the question is whether or not it's an evap. I'm leaning toward not since I really thought I might have seen a line within the time limit. I would expect it to get darker and more obvious after drying since that's what all my other hpts have done. I've never been tricked by an evap before. I picked up some AEs to try to confirm. I'm trying to wait a couple more hours before using one.

Oh, and I remember my justification for testing so early. I'm supposed to call the OB as soon as I find out I'm pg. I figure the sooner the better, right?

[MarineWife]

The AE was definitely BFN. But...it's supposedly not as sensitive as the DT, 25 vs. 20 mIU. So I guess I still don't know. I'm marking it as BFN and will see what tomorrow brings.

[Baby_Cakes]

MW -
I'm totally rooting for you! I know how much is riding on this cycle.

AFM - I'm so chill it's redic. This putting the therm away was the best thing I ever could have done. I probably sound sarcastic but I'm not! I truly feel like whatever happens happens, and I'm not upset.

Honestly (and I'll only admit this here) I'm almost hoping I'm not b/c it looks like I'll need abx, and then on top of that I know I'll get a yeastie beastie from the abx so I'll need diflucan -- or monistat, and all that would just suck if I'm pg. But that's definitely putting the cart in front of the horse, so I'm just going to see how it goes. My dr appt is Monday night. I'm of course going to keep trying to kick it by myself before then. And yes, pushing lots of water, real cranberry, cranberry tablets, ACV. Then whole nine. SUCKS. BLARGH.

PSA - go pee right after bd, b/c that's what got me in this mess.

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ I'm actually in a weird place now regarding this cycle and pg. I pretty much don't care if I am pg or not. There's part of me that's wants to be but there's also part of me that doesn't. I just want this cycle to be over one way or the other because there are going to be some big shake ups around.

I'm going to share a bit of TMI. The last time we dtd I was on top, which is supposed to be a hindrance for getting pg. You certainly can get pg from that, or any, position but it sets gravity up to work against the sperm. So we shall see.

Oh and good PSA except that for BD you are supposed to wait 15-20 afterward before getting up.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife

Oh and good PSA except that for BD you are supposed to wait 15-20 afterward before getting up.

I know! I can't win!

I'm fairly certain you can get pg w/o doing that so I'd rather get up and pee right away and take my chances then get another UTI. This is AWFUL!!

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

I'm fairly certain you can get pg w/o doing that so I'd rather get up and pee right away and take my chances then get another UTI. This is AWFUL!!

Yeah, you probably can. I wonder, though, if going after waiting a few minutes would still keep you from getting a UTI. I mean, maybe it's only if you fall asleep or lay their for a long time without going. Do you know? Like I said before, I've never had one so I have no knowledge or experience.

[Baby_Cakes]

I don't really know. This cycle was the *only* time I didn't just jump up and go pee. I would just lay around and we'd watch tv for 10-15 min, and I was in no rush to go. Ugh I could shoot myself now. Soooo not worth it.

So - another annoying thing. I can't stand when ppl say to "relax and it'll happen". I've decided this is my least favorite "encouragement" from anyone who learns we're working on #2. I never knew how maddening that was to hear until I heard it for myself. I was chatting w/a coworker about it today, just saying I was hoping it would happen soon, and she goes, "Well, are you stressing about it? Just relax and it'll happen!"