Butterflymom, sounds amazing... what a birthday...and I'm impressed that you managed it all with (apparently) your child(ren?) in the house. I find it pretty distracting when my son is around, but my time to see people without him around is very limited. My first serious boyfriend was a bass player in a death metal band and was (underneath) the softest, most cuddly good-hearted guy I've prob ever been with
so yeah, it just shows not to go with the appearance of things. Bonus that he is so hot!
Mimim, sounds like your instincts are intact with this guy - no point wasting your time even being friends with someone that sends off any 'jerk' radars. Anything further happening with the other guy?
I'm still a bit confused about Musician Guy, but having had a few days of no contact with him and really nurturing myself with lots of time alone while DS was at his dad's, really helped. I ended up calling him tonight bc I just genuinely wanted to connect with him, and we had such an amazing (but very 'normal', not deep or heavy) talk - he's such a brilliant listener - I was in quite a bad mood before that and it lifted me right out of it. He seems to have that effect on me...maybe it's a bad thing...but I'm starting to realise I need to allow myself the need for intimacy. We are going to just 'date' for now, and see where it goes. No heaviness, just taking it one step at a time.
As for what I want from him, Mimim, yes, maybe it is that he likes me and i like that - but I think it's more than that. There is something special about this guy, and I want to give it a chance to develop - if nothing else a good friendship (as he's indicated he would be happy with too). I've spoken to a few friends who ended up dating or marrying guys they didn't find 'wow' attractive or sexy in the beginning, but it really grew...and I know my usual 'taste' is very much coloured by my liking for 'bad guys' - which I want to avoid!