Originally Posted by Laurski
I've been carrying Ellie around in a Catbird Baby Pikkolo carrier since about day 3. She really seems to like it and falls asleep immediately once she's snuggled in there. She's probably still a teensy bit small for it, but I just keep readjusting her and so far things seem good.
We went for our first newborn well checkup with our pediatrician's office, but got the douchebag doctor that I really don't like. When I asked him about how Ellie won't lay on her back in the co-sleeper at night, and just kicks and cries, his response was that "well, you can spoil a baby even from a very early age. You should let her cry it out." I was so stunned I couldn't even say anything, but DH told the doctor that she's been doing this kicking/crying thing since the first night she was born. The doctor then decided to check her hips to make sure everything was ok, but I absolutely refuse to see him for any other well visits. I left feeling pissed off and weepy.
Any advice for getting her to relax a little bit when we put her down? I usually feed her, then we swaddle her, swing or bounce her, then sing to her while she is in the cosleeper and I lay next to her. We've got her to relax for about a half an hour or so, but then she usually starts crying in earnest. DH has been sitting in a chair in the living room, holding her while she sleeps, so I can sleep a little between feedings, then bringing her in for feedings while he sleeps in bed. Obviously, not something we can keep up for long, especially once he goes back to work in a week (and trying to read info online about infant sleeping and napping makes me panic that I'm doing it all wrong, that she'll never, ever sleep, and I'm destined to screw everything up...)
Sorry to keep crashing...
Just want to give a :irk to your ped. That's crazy.
Also, it's possible she's overtired. It's easy to miss their sleepy cues in the beginning. If they start getting less sleep than they need, it turns into a nasty cycle.
I can't remember the name of the book, but the best advice I ever got was to try to do a 2 hourish routine. Usually, the baby is ready for a nap, even if it doesn't seem like it. They will sleep better, and longer if they are not too tired when they start their nap.
It looks something like this (I'm just going to use fake times for clarity. This is NOT rigid, and is NOT a schedule.)
830a change diaper, play
9a nurse (or whatever) to sleep
915a put down to finish nap
1030 change diaper, play
11a back to sleep
1115 put down...
At night, I ignore the wake time, and nurse every other hour. My babies seem to catch on pretty quick. I keep the lights off, and only change them if I have to. (usually, I do, though.) Another thing you can try is to be sure to dress her in day clothes during the day, and make sure she gets plenty of light. At nighttime, choose cozier, more comfortable clothing, and keep it dark.
It really is a lot harder to keep getting up to get the baby, nurse the baby, put the baby back to bed over and over. Just holding her yourself and rolling over to nurse her will afford you a lot more sleep. I just hold my babies in the crook of my arm, lined up and all ready to nurse when they want. I don't want to push you to bed share if you are really not up for it, but I did want to mention how much easier it is.