Post partum chat - Page 13

[MaerynPearl]

There goes DH... his 10 days are up and he is back to work.

I'm a little happy, a little sad.



Also... feel like I have a yeast infection and omg wtf happened to my rear!? it felt bruised last week now it feels like someone stabbed it!

[Monkey Keeper]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

Also... feel like I have a yeast infection and omg wtf happened to my rear!? it felt bruised last week now it feels like someone stabbed it!

I had the yeastie feeling about 2w pp as well. Have you tried drying down there with the hair dryer? feels nice and gets rid of the itchies.

As for the stabbing, some wise woman commented that her 'rhoids were worst from days 6-13, and I have to concur. The change at 2w was remarkable. Is that where you are sore??

[MaerynPearl]

Thats where I am sore yes, but I do not have any rhoids right now (which is quite a change from pregnancy when I constantly did!)

[Monkey Keeper]

I feel like i might have a fissure? So I know what you are meaning. Maybe your rhoids are internal?

[Laurski]

nak

LitChick: Ugh! So sorry you were sick! Glad to hear you're feeling better!

We went to the ped. today for Ellie's weight check...7oz up in 7 days, for a grand total of 8.15! So, yeah, I was a paranoid 1st time mom for nothing... (y'all (and DH) were right about all the food going into her length!)

Just as awesome, we got to see the ped. I *really* wanted, who was recommended on MDC but who was on maternity leave until this week. LOVE HER! Am so glad she's back and will definitely be scheduling all of E's appts with her!

[bethanta]

Well I finally have time to get back online!

Seems like lots of us needs I'm definitely falling into this category.

We had a rough time nursing at first, and now that I think everything is going well, it's hard not to be paranoid about it. I feel like I'm letting her newborn phase just pass me by and I'm going to miss all of it.

On a much better note, I actually got off the couch and did something today. I feel so much better after just moving around for an hour or two.

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

Originally Posted by bethanta

Well I finally have time to get back online!

Seems like lots of us needs I'm definitely falling into this category.

We had a rough time nursing at first, and now that I think everything is going well, it's hard not to be paranoid about it. I feel like I'm letting her newborn phase just pass me by and I'm going to miss all of it.

On a much better note, I actually got off the couch and did something today. I feel so much better after just moving around for an hour or two.

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

Glad to see you back online!
Happy to hear that feeding is going better!
YAY for getting off the couch (it is so hard for me to get really motivated!)

I take my little man to the bathroom with me, and put him on the rug in there that lies in front of the sink... I don't know if this is the best idea, but he seems to be happy just being close enough to hear me.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by bethanta

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

Put him down somewhere clean and safe, and go to the bathroom. I understand not wanting the baby to cry, but you have to pee.

[Lit Chick]

Originally Posted by bethanta

On a much better note, I actually got off the couch and did something today. I feel so much better after just moving around for an hour or two.

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

I was you with DS1. I did not move from the couch for WEEKS. It is important to get up and out, even if it's just to walk in your yard or around the block. Or sit on the porch... just get a short change of scene every day! (or you will start to go craaazy)

As for the bathroom... if it's just a pee, then put the baby down wherever and let her cry for the few minutes. You are allowed to pee, it does not make you a bad mom if she is upset while you do it.
If you need a little more time in the bathroom, then pop her in her carseat, bouncy chair, or whatever, and you can rock/jiggle with your foot while you take care of business.

[MaerynPearl]

I agree with getting out. I haven't left my neighborhood but I have sat on my porch every afternoon waiting for the kids, checked the mail every day and walked over to the neighbors house once to give her a paper the bus driver gave us (our bus driver is retiring but her daughter does not ride after school so they always give me two of everything to give one to her)

Today was our one week check (okay... 10 days but still...)

Not only had Mae regained her birth weight by 4 days postpartum... a week later she has gained a WHOLE POUND over her birth weight!

My not-so-tiny-anymore baby is 8lbs 5oz!

Did our hearing and PKU test. Nearly broke the midwifes heart, Mae cried during the PKU. She said that's one of the worst parts of her entire job.

Midwife said I am looking great though. I am feeling great! Ready to get into exercising and MAN am I glad to not be pregnant anymore. The SPD is GONE. The blood pressure is DOWN. I am feeling HUMAN!

And best of all... I can cuddle my baby and watch daddy cuddle her too!

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

And for showers I put him in the bassinet and roll it into the bathroom with me. I keep the door open so the steam can get out and I sing to him while I shower. Works pretty good for us

[xekomaya]

Originally Posted by bethanta

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

lol take the baby with you or you go really fast its easier in a sling or if you bring a towel to set them down on if needed. When you gotta go, you gotta go

[mommy2chloerae]

I agree with the others. It is okay for them to be a little upset while you pee, you're not ignoring the baby's needs at all. It actually is the start of an important distinction where you realize that your needs are important too. I mean it's a small thing, but really you're allowed to pee!

As for me- holy growth spurt batman. I usually am able to pump a few ounces in the morning but today I had none to spare!

[tribord]

Originally Posted by bethanta

Here's a bizarre first-time mom question. How do handle when you have to go to the bathroom really bad and baby's unhappy?

I am pretty good at going potty with one hand and holding the nursing baby with the other one. The only part I have trouble with is washing my hands after and what I tend to do is bend my knees until the baby is supported by the bathroom counter and cradled by my elbows and then I can use both hands and wash them.

But I agree with everyone who said if you need to put your baby down to go to the bathroom and they cry that is OK. It's not like you are letting them cry while you do your nails and a full face of makeup or something.

[JTA Mom]

I am so tired. Elias was up from 11pm to 3 am nursing and fussing. And I can't sleep unless it's dark.

Otherwise, we all are doing well. My friend came over yesterday. It was her birthday so I had made a cake (chocolate--not a good idea, for Elias' sake), and we sat around, chatting. Gosh, it felt so good to have something break the monotony of sitting on the couch, nursing, changing diapers, getting my toddler more milk/food. Tomorrow is the big grocery shopping trip, which consists of our 1 month pantry stock up. My mom and sister also do this, so we've just been going together for the past few months. I am totally looking forward to it. My wrap is ready, ds loves to go especially since the last stop is Costco and he always gets extra samples, AND I get to walk. Ahhhh, to take a long walk.

Mentally doing a lot better, still. Finally set up our first appointment with the trauma therapist. Next Tuesday. We'll see if we click, and go from there. Then later on is the ICAN meeting. Not sure if all that rehashing will help or not. Hopefully it will be a bit cathartic, since both will be in safe places.

I am also skimping on the pumping. I've only done it once. I need to do it every day so that by the time spring rolls around, and I need to go to classes again, I will have a considerable freezer stash. That, and it would be nice to have some milk stashed away for when I am cleared to go back to the gym.

Ami

[happydaymomma]

Anybody used the lily pads reusable nursing pads? Do you like them? Can you use lanolin with them?

I've been using the soothies, but they are getting expensive at $10 a pair (lasting 3 days each). I don't actually leak at all, but I've got wicked cracked nipples and I pretty much HAVE to have something as a barrier between my nipples and the bra/ shirt.

If anyone has used any other products along these lines or has any other suggestions I'd love to hear.

[MaerynPearl]

DHs first early morning today... changed the crib to a sidecar last night. Mae coslept almost all night but it is a lot more comforting to me to have that extra bed area there on the side so she doesn't fall off.

Again, only half a day home alone though (yesterday DH didnt go into work until noon... today he works 5-noon.) so at least I am slowly being reintroduced to spending days alone. I think I am going to spend the next 4 hours sleeping though. I did not sleep so well last night... gotta get used to cosleeping again.

[Lit Chick]

ARRGH.

I have to admit it. I don't like the newborn part. Didn't like it much with #1 either. My boy is so gassy and fussy and upset, and I'm worn out. I ended up just putting him in his bassinet now and letting him cry, because that's all he's been doing for the better part of 90 min anyway. Rocking, nursing, singing, swing, vibrating chair, whatever... cry cry cry. So I told him, if you're going to cry, then I need a little space from it. It sucks. I feel like a total failure. I really just want to give him to someone else and say give him back when he's sitting up.

[Monkey Keeper]

Oh, Lit, I'm sorry DD2 was just like that, and it was exhausting. You are NOT a failure. Not even close. Just knowing you need to walk away makes you a good mama.

Ami--Good luck! I think telling the story will help. At least it did for me w/ DD1's birth.

MP--You are so lucky to have so much tme w/ DH!

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

Originally Posted by happydaymomma

Anybody used the lily pads reusable nursing pads? Do you like them? Can you use lanolin with them?

I loved my lily pads! I only used them when my milk was coming in, but they were AMAZING! The silicone makes them cool when going on, and my body heat warmed them up and they would get nice and toasty... SO helpfull for engorgement. I used lansinoh with them, just make sure your nips are dry when you put them on, or condensation will build up. I don't know how well they would work for all day.