My DS is almost 4... Incredibly verbal, no developmental challenges, My hunch is he's possibly gifted...
He never had troubles like this before but making decisions all of a sudden has become IMPOSSIBLE for him.
Example: there is an awesome bookstore that has great used books for $1. They had a deal that you got a bottle of water and a tattoo (cheesy temp ones, of course) with a purchase. DS looked at a lot of books for a LONG TIME and looked striken... so I picked 3 that I thought he would like and asked him to chose. He would not chose... so I told him that I would chose for him and he could pick the tattoo and have his water. He refused to let me chose.
So, I made it easier the next day and picked two pairs of shorts - one he LOVES and one he says are scratchy... "which one?" He again looked striken and stared at them after a few minutes? I said " are the blue ones more comfortable? I'll leave the room and let you decide in peace." 10 minutes later? I asked him... he had no choice.... "let's wear the blue ones, OK?" and he screamed "I can't chose"
TV shows? He'll go without a show because he can't chose.
We rarely do candy but we went to lunch and the gave us those star mints in three flavors and I let him pick... he left without eating candy because he couldn't chose (we solemnly added the mints to the candy jar so he could pick later - still hasn't chosen)
Making a shield and painting it? can't finish it... He won't chose a COLOR and won't let me chose!
Food? ack! I feel like I could offer him steak (his fav) or chili (his least fav) and he'd freak out.
It's only been 2 weeks but TWO LONG WEEKS.
I don't think it's a manipulative ploy to see if he can get both pieces of candy or he's waiting for a bribe... doesn't feel that way.. he's honestly freaked out