Sorry if wrong forum. Not sure if he's a "toddler" or a "child"
My DS is almost 4... Incredibly verbal, no developmental challenges, My hunch is he's possibly gifted...
He never had troubles like this before but making decisions all of a sudden has become IMPOSSIBLE for him.
Example: there is an awesome bookstore that has great used books for $1. They had a deal that you got a bottle of water and a tattoo (cheesy temp ones, of course) with a purchase. DS looked at a lot of books for a LONG TIME and looked striken... so I picked 3 that I thought he would like and asked him to chose. He would not chose... so I told him that I would chose for him and he could pick the tattoo and have his water. He refused to let me chose.
So, I made it easier the next day and picked two pairs of shorts - one he LOVES and one he says are scratchy... "which one?" He again looked striken and stared at them after a few minutes? I said " are the blue ones more comfortable? I'll leave the room and let you decide in peace." 10 minutes later? I asked him... he had no choice.... "let's wear the blue ones, OK?" and he screamed "I can't chose"
TV shows? He'll go without a show because he can't chose.
We rarely do candy but we went to lunch and the gave us those star mints in three flavors and I let him pick... he left without eating candy because he couldn't chose (we solemnly added the mints to the candy jar so he could pick later - still hasn't chosen)
Making a shield and painting it? can't finish it... He won't chose a COLOR and won't let me chose!
Food? ack! I feel like I could offer him steak (his fav) or chili (his least fav) and he'd freak out.
It's only been 2 weeks but TWO LONG WEEKS.
I don't think it's a manipulative ploy to see if he can get both pieces of candy or he's waiting for a bribe... doesn't feel that way.. he's honestly freaked out
Developmentally normal??
Help??
My DS is almost 4... Incredibly verbal, no developmental challenges, My hunch is he's possibly gifted...
He never had troubles like this before but making decisions all of a sudden has become IMPOSSIBLE for him.
Example: there is an awesome bookstore that has great used books for $1. They had a deal that you got a bottle of water and a tattoo (cheesy temp ones, of course) with a purchase. DS looked at a lot of books for a LONG TIME and looked striken... so I picked 3 that I thought he would like and asked him to chose. He would not chose... so I told him that I would chose for him and he could pick the tattoo and have his water. He refused to let me chose.
So, I made it easier the next day and picked two pairs of shorts - one he LOVES and one he says are scratchy... "which one?" He again looked striken and stared at them after a few minutes? I said " are the blue ones more comfortable? I'll leave the room and let you decide in peace." 10 minutes later? I asked him... he had no choice.... "let's wear the blue ones, OK?" and he screamed "I can't chose"
TV shows? He'll go without a show because he can't chose.
We rarely do candy but we went to lunch and the gave us those star mints in three flavors and I let him pick... he left without eating candy because he couldn't chose (we solemnly added the mints to the candy jar so he could pick later - still hasn't chosen)
Making a shield and painting it? can't finish it... He won't chose a COLOR and won't let me chose!
Food? ack! I feel like I could offer him steak (his fav) or chili (his least fav) and he'd freak out.
It's only been 2 weeks but TWO LONG WEEKS.
I don't think it's a manipulative ploy to see if he can get both pieces of candy or he's waiting for a bribe... doesn't feel that way.. he's honestly freaked out
Developmentally normal??
Help??
