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When do you plan on telling everyone?

post #1 of 61
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I've already told a few close friends and we plan on telling our parents sometime in the next few weeks. If something does happen I'd like to have a little support group...but I think if I don't tell anyone I'll jinx it...lol

And how are you planning on telling your parents? I'm trying to think of a cute way. I want to get bibs that say "grandma" and "grandpa"...but I'm not sure how to present them lol
post #2 of 61
We are going to try to wait until Christmas to tell our parents. I don't know if we will be able to wait that long, but we won't get to see them in person before then AND I love the idea of surprising them when I'm already 20 or so weeks along.

I have to a handful of close friends of mine to be praying for this little one (we've had two losses already this year).....but I think I'll be waiting until after the sonogram next week before I tell anyone else.
post #3 of 61
We've told more people than we planned...we're excited! Immediate family and about 8 close friends total. We swore them to secrecy...so hopefully, they listen!

We'll tell everyone else either 7 weeks (when we hear the heartbeat) or 13 weeks.
post #4 of 61
We've already told my family, and I've already told some friends.

I was just so excited, and we tried for so long ...

We're waiting until we see DH's parents next weekend to tell them. I'm having my beta numbers retested, and hopefully it'll be good news. If my numbers end up going down (), we might not tell them at all.
post #5 of 61
We found out this morning and have already told our close friends, both of our families and DH told everyone at his work, lol. We like to talk to much to keep our mouths shut.
post #6 of 61
Since I have had a few miscarriages after my last birth, I'm being more cautious as to who I tell yet. I don't want to have * that* convo with everybody, if the worst happens! I'm beginning to truly doubt a loss tho.

So far I've told my best friends, and my mother. My kids are already starting to ask questions about why I'm eating so much, etc.. I figure I will tell them within the week, and tell the rest of my friends and family around the 8 wk mark. {I'm around 6 wks, tomorrow.}
post #7 of 61
I have told some online friends and a couple of friends who I've happened to see/be in touch with but don't see often (it came up, and I couldn't help myself ). We think we might tell DH's family at Thanksgiving (October - I'm Canadian) because we will all be together. Not sure about my family...it will depend on whether they're planning to visit in the fall.
post #8 of 61
I plan to wait until as close to 12 weeks as possible.
post #9 of 61
Since I am 37 my miscarriage risk is about 20% so I'm going to wait till 3+ months.
post #10 of 61
I'm only 31, but at just 3.5 wks along so I'd say my m/c risk is still close to 30%. We might tell close family a few wks down the road, but will probably wait until the first trimester is over. We had an early loss a few months ago, and was SO thankful that we didn't have to tell anyone.
post #11 of 61
I've told close family and friends. I've had 2 miscarriages this year. The first we told everyone immediately that we were pregnant. It was hard when we miscarried because everyone knew and felt bad for us...but at the same time, with our second we hardly told anyone..and I think that may have been harder in a way....trying to pretend I was "fine".

This time we told close immediate family and friends. I feel comfortable with the choice...and if I feel the urge to share with others, I will. Just not my entire place of work or on facebook or anything like that for a long long while.
post #12 of 61
Since I am in my 20s and no history of m/c, I will probably tell people soon (got my this morning). I've always wanted support in case a m/c happened.
post #13 of 61
So far I haven't told anyone, but my husband is the blabbermouth haha He's told his boss and another couple. Last pregnancy, the wife of said couple was only three weeks further along than me. We were awesome pregnancy and newborn buddies. This time, she has a seven month jump on me.

I'm definitely nervous about telling everyone. It's just so early and if something happens I don't think I could stand the looks of pity. We'll probably hold off telling as long as possible.
post #14 of 61
I def haven't announced it on FB yet. I don't think I'll do that until the second tri, or else late first tri. As far as telling in person, I think if I did have an m/c, I'd want my close friends to know. I'd def need support.
post #15 of 61
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Originally Posted by slb1107 View Post
I've already told a few close friends and we plan on telling our parents sometime in the next few weeks. If something does happen I'd like to have a little support group...but I think if I don't tell anyone I'll jinx it...lol

And how are you planning on telling your parents? I'm trying to think of a cute way. I want to get bibs that say "grandma" and "grandpa"...but I'm not sure how to present them lol
Already told my family and in-laws but no friends yet. For me and DH's family, we took a picture of our son holding a bag of tator tots(our nickname for our kids) wearing a cloth diaper!. My nickname growing up was tator, so tator tot is a baby of course. We took a picture of the tator tot bag in the oven with a diaper on (bun in the oven) and made a mr. potato head family. The newest baby had no arms or legs, just eyes. Sounds creepy but it was cute

My inlaws all got it right away, but my family thought we were just being silly and one of them acutally thought DH and I were drunk and being stupid. lol. Anyway, I had to call my sister, and brother to explain it to them.

I told DH by having my DS write a note that said "I'm a big brother" and we stuck the note in the back of the potato head (DH proposed to me this way by hiding the ring in the back of the potato head)

We are telling everyone else by having DS wear a shirt that say's "big brother" and posting the pic on facebook. I'm having a hard time keeping the secret from my friends, but because I don't really feel pregnant yet, I don't want to jinx it by telling the whole world yet.
post #16 of 61
I've told close family and friends, as well as my two closest work friends. I'm five weeks along and I'll start telling the world next week because my belly is starting to pop out already and people will probably guess anyway if I don't. I've had m/cd before, but those were both before this point so I feel pretty confident.
post #17 of 61
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I def haven't announced it on FB yet. I don't think I'll do that until the second tri, or else late first tri. As far as telling in person, I think if I did have an m/c, I'd want my close friends to know. I'd def need support.
That's how I feel. I haven't announced on FB. Though I am having an early u/s, and I might tell after seeing the heartbeat since the risk of miscarriage plummets after that. I've told at least family and/or close friends about every pregnancy in the 1st trimester. I ended up losing 2 of those pregnancies, and it was really nice to have people who knew. Even though it was hard to tell them the sad news, they were really great for me. One came right over with a Hershey bar, my favorite Chinese, and a chick flick.

Since I am having my beta numbers retested on Tuesday, we'll wait for those results before telling DH's parents. (I've already told my family.)

@ slb1107 - When we were pg with DD, we got the grandparents each an "I love my Grandpa/Grandma" bib. This time, to tell DH's parents, I got an "I'm a big sister" bib for DD. I plan to "ooops, I forgot to get a fork/cup/napkin/whatever" for a meal and have MIL the bib to put on DD. I can't wait for her reaction!
post #18 of 61
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Yeah I'm not telling the Facebook world for a while. I've figured out what I wanna do for our parents. I've made a photo frame that says "Baby T" May 2011 in the frame. It's real cute!!!! I'm a big scrapbooker so it's got my special touch on it..and they can keep it forever. =) We're telling them next week.

Oooh I took another test haha..the line was darker than the control line!
post #19 of 61
We are telling our parents tomorrow! This will be the first grandchild for both of our sets of parents so we know they are going to freak with happiness. We were going to wait another week but can't due to his family being out of town. Which really stinks because it was going to be on GRANDPARENT'S DAY! We are still going through with my idea, which is to give them Grandparent's Day cards from the baby saying "See you in May!"

As far as telling others, my best friend knows and that is it. I think we will announce it tomorrow to our close group of other couples that live in town that we see all the time. I thought about just telling the women of the group (who knew we tried for the first time last month) but I know they will tell the guys, so we might as well tell everyone! I feel pretty confident about this because we see these people all the time and share a lot so I know I couldn't keep a happy face up if something happened. I would need their support for sure. I must admit I was feeling more confident until I noticed so many on this board have had miscarriages. Apparently they are more common than I thought , which makes me nervous.

DEFINITELY telling everyone mum is the word on Facebook etc. I will try to keep from making that status update as long as possible!
post #20 of 61
We waited until DH's family found out to go "facebook official" lol. He tried calling them all day yesterday and finally got hold of his sister (25, still lives at home. She's bipolar and has a 6yo son her parents are raising). We'd recently had it out (SIL and I--she may be bipolar but completely medicated she's still a jerk), so I wasn't really excited for her to be the first one to find out. When DH told her, "Tell Mom and Dad they're gonna be grandparents again." she responded with, "What, I'm not pregnant." I was so furious I walked out of the room. She went on to complain that we "just" had DS (18m). Their mom called later and said we "misunderstood" what she was saying. Sure, make ANOTHER excuse for your lazy, whacked-out, hateful, rude, insanely jealous daughter...

Sorry, guess those pregnancy hormones are already attacking. Anyway, I don't know anyone who doesn't know now!
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