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Can't figure out bedtime or get our 15 mo old to fall asleep consistently at night

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Tonight, I ended up laying with our co-sleeping son for 90 min before he finally conked out. He fully nursed and was almost asleep after 30 min, but then he got a burst of energy and was all over the bed and cruising along the headboard and all over me with a full tank of gas.

His one nap ended up only being an hour today (usually it's 2 hrs), so I thought for sure he would go to bed earlier.

We have planned activities for him 3 times a week (swim lessons and music class), which tends to mess up his nap times on those days, pushing it later.

He is just never consistent in how long after waking from a nap he ends up going to bed though.

Sometimes it's 5 hrs after waking from his nap, sometimes it's after 7 hr +.

We look for his tired signs of yawning, rubbing his eyes, but I get him into bed, nurse him and he ends up wanting to play in bed after fully nursing.

I try to keep the room dark, with only a nightlight on, but tonight, the sun had not quite set by the time he seemed to be ready for bed. About half way through his playing, I decided to turn out the night light and only had the ambient light of the alarm clock, but he still played for another 30 min in the dark.

We attempt to wear him out before bedtime thinking that all the physical activity of walking behind his push toy back and forth and crawling all around will tire him out. I've also tried to dim the lights and start the bedtime process with some quiet time just before bed, but that hasn't worked either, though I haven't tried that much.

We don't do baths before bed because he loves to play and that just gets him all excited or upset that he has to come out of the water.

Anyone have any tips to get some more consistency? Also, I thought that yawning and eye rubbing were the magic signals of tiredness. That seems to not quite work in our case.
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My DD would be tired at a reasonable time, but unable to fall asleep, kept just moving around like a mini Energizer bunny. I ran across an old thread that talked about magnesium, some people need more than others, and yep, supplemental magnesium means she can fall asleep at a reasonable time. She's 6yo now and still needs extra magnesium to fall asleep each night, we started back when she was a toddler.
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If you are not familiar with it; The No-Cry Sleep Solution has some helpful tips: basically about finding a routine and sticking to it so sleepy-time is familiar and means that its time to go to sleep. That said it still can take us a while to get our 22-months old to go down. It sounds like she had a similar pattern to your LO: getting that burst of energy. What has shortened it recently is starting the whole routine earlier. I think previously she would get tired and then we'd start giving her dinner, getting ready for bed etc and by the time light were out and she was nursing, she'd get her second wind.
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This sounds SO much like my ds. For months I kept trying to figure out what his natural rhythm was with little success. I was confident that he would eventually fall into a pattern on his own & that would be the easiest & healthiest schedule for him.

But at 18 months we finally realized it just wasn't happening & perhaps we need to force the issue a little more.

For ds I knew he rarely slept longer than 10.5 hours & I knew the time we generally got up at that worked for us. With that we decided 9:15 was the right time to start our bedtime routine. We don't do baths as part of the bedtime routine 'cause it gets him too revved up. So our routine is potty, pj's, play with shape sorter for a couple minutes, read 3 books, nurse. It takes anywhere from 20-45 minutes from the start of the routine until he's asleep.

Before we started doing this he was going to sleep anywhere from 8:30 to after midnight & we were super frustrated.

It did take 5 weeks or so before he really settled into this timing so at first it sometimes took close to 2 hours & we wondered if it was going to work.

Many people are surprised that ds goes to bed so late but the timing is working really well for us.
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Just for my 15 mo, by the time he's rubbing eyes and yawning, he probably should have already been in bed. Maybe he really does need earlier and he's actually revved up from being up too late?? I don't know. Who knows with these things??!!

We definitely have a routine, though, and he knows when it's bedtime. He doesn't always go to sleep easily, but usually it doesn't take more than 10-15 minutes (after lights out, stories over).
post #6 of 6
you mentioned that he was tired until after u nursed him.
are u having something sugary or caffeinated before this nursing session. i find that has made a difference with my 15 month old. hope this helps and good luck
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