I've been pretty anti-ultrasound since day one, when I first found out I was pregnant with DD.
The research is so sketchy, we just don't know the long term effect, better play it safe than sorry, etc. etc. etc.
Recently however, I've had to rethink my position. Especially in light of being pregnant again.
Basically, I found out that 1 in 100 children is born with a congenital heart defect. When I found out this statistic, I thought about it...I actually know at least 3 children born with it, 2 who needed surgery within days of birth in order to survive. One is my cousin's little two week old son, who is right now recovering beautifully from his first surgery.
I had no idea before my cousin's baby entered my circle of consciousness. The only reason the heart defect was discovered was because at 11 weeks, she started bleeding from a hemorrhage. They were sure she was miscarrying and went to the ER, where an ultrasound confirmed baby was fine. But the u/s tech said he saw something weird and referred them to a specialist, who diagnosed the exact kind of heart defect and what needed to happen for little Joshua to stay healthy and live after birth.
If it had been me? I don't know that I would have gone to the ER if I'd started bleeding. I probably would have waited it out at home, and as time proved the baby was still growing, I would have ignored the bleeding problem. I also wouldn't have gotten an ultrasound at the normal 20 wk mark, since I wouldn't want to find out the gender, and didn't want to expose my baby to unwanted possibly harmful U/S waves.
And I would have given birth with my midwife, at her birth center, and several days later...if it had been my baby...it would have died.
Thinking through those scenarios has REALLY made me rethink.
I'm 9 weeks now. I'm still not cool with ultrasounds, but knowing that it's not a rare condition...it's so common that I know 3 children in my immediate circle of family and friends age 2 and under who have survived it (that's more children than I know with forms of autism!!!!) that the odds are THAT high....
I think I will be getting the 20 wk ultrasound.
If I had been in my cousins shoes, I would never have lived with myself knowing I could have prevented it if I hadn't been so hard headed in what I thought was right for my baby. I still believe I as the mother know best. But my picture of "best" is definitely changing.
If you want to read more, Signs of CHD this blog post helped me think through the statistics.
And if want to see my adorable first cousin (once removed), check out his mommy's blog Real Life Of A Redhead
Thanks for listening mamas!
The research is so sketchy, we just don't know the long term effect, better play it safe than sorry, etc. etc. etc.
Recently however, I've had to rethink my position. Especially in light of being pregnant again.
Basically, I found out that 1 in 100 children is born with a congenital heart defect. When I found out this statistic, I thought about it...I actually know at least 3 children born with it, 2 who needed surgery within days of birth in order to survive. One is my cousin's little two week old son, who is right now recovering beautifully from his first surgery.
I had no idea before my cousin's baby entered my circle of consciousness. The only reason the heart defect was discovered was because at 11 weeks, she started bleeding from a hemorrhage. They were sure she was miscarrying and went to the ER, where an ultrasound confirmed baby was fine. But the u/s tech said he saw something weird and referred them to a specialist, who diagnosed the exact kind of heart defect and what needed to happen for little Joshua to stay healthy and live after birth.
If it had been me? I don't know that I would have gone to the ER if I'd started bleeding. I probably would have waited it out at home, and as time proved the baby was still growing, I would have ignored the bleeding problem. I also wouldn't have gotten an ultrasound at the normal 20 wk mark, since I wouldn't want to find out the gender, and didn't want to expose my baby to unwanted possibly harmful U/S waves.
And I would have given birth with my midwife, at her birth center, and several days later...if it had been my baby...it would have died.
Thinking through those scenarios has REALLY made me rethink.
I'm 9 weeks now. I'm still not cool with ultrasounds, but knowing that it's not a rare condition...it's so common that I know 3 children in my immediate circle of family and friends age 2 and under who have survived it (that's more children than I know with forms of autism!!!!) that the odds are THAT high....
I think I will be getting the 20 wk ultrasound.
If I had been in my cousins shoes, I would never have lived with myself knowing I could have prevented it if I hadn't been so hard headed in what I thought was right for my baby. I still believe I as the mother know best. But my picture of "best" is definitely changing.
If you want to read more, Signs of CHD this blog post helped me think through the statistics.
And if want to see my adorable first cousin (once removed), check out his mommy's blog Real Life Of A Redhead
Thanks for listening mamas!










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