I have been watching this thread and find it really really fascinating.
With DD....we had 2 US's.....a 20 week anatomy scan and a 18 week gender US...the 3D no less
(I would never do a 3d one knowing what I do now).
I'm in the same boat with kalamos23 in that I've had two miscarriages this year. I am *REALLY* struggling with whether to get an early US or not. I honestly just don't know what to do.
On one hand, to me, getting one this early when I *KNOW* when I conceived seems odd. The first time I had a miscarriage, I had a US and we saw the heartbeat and everything looked great, and the baby died shortly after the US....which also adds an aspect of if they told me everything was fine...would I really TRULY believe them anyway? Would my anxiety go away? Would I even feel better? Last time they said everything looked great. It wasn't. And then two weeks later a US told me my baby died in which the tech had to sit there emotionless without saying anything to me even know I KNEW.
The other thought for me, is that the US isn't going to CHANGE what will happen, aside from adding a possible risk of the doppler going into my baby's cells....yk? If I am going to miscarry, the US can't stop that from happening in the first trimester.
I am feeling incredibly anxious this week. This is my 5th week of this pregnancy, and the last two times this year, I started spotting in the 5th week, and with the last pregnancy, I miscarried at 5 weeks 4 days (which is what I am tomorrow). I've been shaking lately..and I think it might be fear coming out because of this being my 5th week. Getting to see my baby and see a heart beating WOULD make me smile, make me feel more hopeful, make me happy, and relieve SOME fear even if it wouldn't be all of it.
My other thought is....the doctor would order a 7 week US....but 2 or 3 weeks after that I could hear the HB on my own doppler that we bought....so what's another few weeks (though it really seems like FOREVER in early pregnancy!).
I have one friend who is very very anti US...and I think her opinions are what have been making the decision to get an early US even that much harder on me. I wish I could just KNOW what to do...lol.
Anyway..it's just really interesting how we all have to base our decisions off of our own experiences and emotions. I truly don't believe there is one "right" answer as everyone's life experiences has lead them to feel differently about this kind of thing.
For example....for me, I could never get the screening for down syndrome. My mom had it done, and it was a false positive and my mom waited on pins and needles for weeks and weeks of her pregnancy thinking her baby would have downs. I don't want to experience that kind of fear...so I simply could never do that test! I know what it's like to wonder for weeks on end if your baby is okay...and I wouldn't ever wish that on anyone.