10am this morning, I got a call from the kids dad to come and get them. I tried to size up the situation, and he said he would call back. He called back, told me nothing, but said he would call back again. Shortly he called and again, very angry, over the top angry, screaming at me, "What did you teach our children!" I couldn't understand what he was saying, he voice was so garbled due to his anger. He said my son swung his fist at him, and my daughter refused to look at him. This all seemed to be missing info. Over the next hour, I had more calls. I finally asked to speak to my son. I asked if he wanted to come home. He said he didn't care what the %^)) he did. He doesn't normally talk like this. The anger was scary. Every once in a while, his dad would shout at him. Then my dd1 got on the phone, was crying so hard I couldn't understand her. I had to listen to her once, then asked her to calm down (told her I love her) and had her say it again. She said that her dad was going to call the police on them (ds and dd). I never could understand why. I was very busy today with clients and I would have picked them up if he would have let me. In between clients, he called again, and said my son was sick at his stomach, hadn't taken his medicine and he wanted to know what to do. I told him to give him ginger so his stomach will relax. He called back later saying, "What I am going to do with him?" He was obviously angry, still angry...that was at least four hours later. I was near and asked to come see the children. He let me do it (against my better judgement, but needed to see that they were okay). I gave them hugs and talked to them, they said they were okay now. I had another client and (so worried about them all the time) then went to the store for groceries. While I was shopping, he called again, asked me to come get my son. I asked him to bring my son to me, because I had to go home (had left my dd2 for several hours with my parents). AFter alot of negotiations, he finally brought ds to me. Ds was miserable, very upset. I still don't know all that happened, although my son told me if I talked to his dad about it, that his dad would call ds's scout leader to tell him how bad my son is, and "then he would hear all about our family problems". Wish he had indeed called the police, and the scout leader. He is so unstable. I am still working with the attorney on gathering evidence. It's so hard. WWYD? and I really wish I had called the police immediately after the first phone call where he was so angry, and wanted the children to come home to me.
My kids can be naughty sometimes, but they are not malicious! Ex was holding my dd's wrist because she wouldn't look at him. When he threatened if she didn't look at him, he was holding a broom, and told her he would hit her with it if she didn't look into his eyes. My son still loves his dad and wants the love dad's are supposed to give, but he is seriously concerned he will never get it. I think it could be worse...as I could feel the anger in his voice with every phone call.
My kids can be naughty sometimes, but they are not malicious! Ex was holding my dd's wrist because she wouldn't look at him. When he threatened if she didn't look at him, he was holding a broom, and told her he would hit her with it if she didn't look into his eyes. My son still loves his dad and wants the love dad's are supposed to give, but he is seriously concerned he will never get it. I think it could be worse...as I could feel the anger in his voice with every phone call.
