Song-So sorry to hear the disappointing news. Not sure if my story will help but figured I'd tell you. Our last cycle before this successful one ended up with no embryos to transfer. That had been our second failed cycle. Our problem was our embryos made multiple nuclei and wouldn't even make it to PGD. Each cycle I would make over 20 eggs & all the embryos were deformed. This last cycle where we got our twins I had 26 eggs & only 3 were normal, we transferred all 3 and thank god got our twins. Our Re suggested donor eggs immediatly after 2 failed IVF's & said my eggs looked bad, fragmented & dark whatever and dh would not pursue donor eggs. Embryologist actually told us she hadn't seen anything like our case in over 10 years & when I looked it up on line it was like 2% chance of that ever happening during IVF. So I took a couple months break & decided to switch to another Re & our first cycle with him worked. Our new Re was also shocked at what happened to all the other embryos. He said for our age & health we should of had like a 75% fertilization. I'm only telling you all this to offer you hope, If you physically, emotionally, & financially can continue try & do so, a lot of Re's love to throw out the donor egg thing & don't really offer much support but believe me I never ever thought it could happen with my eggs. Just wanted to offer some of my story & some hope.
MOMTOALEXIS -- Thank you SO much for sharing your journey. I read this to my DH this afternoon and it gave both of us a shred of hope.
Do you mind if I ask a couple of questions--I know everyone is different and eggs age at different rates, but I'm just curious.
How old are you?
Did you do anything different (protocol, self-care) with the new RE?
Did you do PGD with cycle #3?
Also, it is interesting that your embryologist said she hadn't seen anything like your case in over 10 years.
I'm 40 w/good FSH (as of 1.5 years ago) and an antral follicle count of 12 (also good for my age).
We are definitely going to try again with my eggs before moving on, but it was really disheartening to have our RE give us the donor egg speech right away, just like yours did. We're also considering Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine (#1 in country), because the fees are about the same as our clinic (plus travel and travel stress!). My gut, though, says to stay with our RE and try again just to see. We have the means--it is just scary to contemplate it happening again. Bravo to you to go through it TWICE and have the courage to try again.
Thank you, everyone, for your support and kind words of comfort.
DH and I are still somewhat in shock. Right now, I'm focusing on booking a last-minute vacation to Hawaii for early January (when we thought we'd be preggers). We planned to vacation in Feb/Mar, but wanted to keep things loose, depending on the outcome of this cycle. I will cycle again in late Jan/early Feb and see what happens. I'm also looking into the donor scenario, too, just to test the waters.