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It is so easy with one!

post #1 of 20
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DS1 started school last week so is there from 9am - 3pm every day. It's just me and DS2 at home. I can. not believe how easy it is with just one at home!

The house is (relatively) clean and tidy. There's some toys around, but if someone popped in I wouldn't be embarrassed.

I am soooo relaxed. No having to break up arguments or telling them to calm down. Or someone always needing something.

We've done some drawing, we've played outside, I've got the washing and dishes done and shortly I think we'll have a nap!

I look back and wonder what the hell I was so stressed out about when I only had DS1!! I remember feeling like my life was so hard but it's really a walk in the park!
post #2 of 20
I still have 2 at home, but I know what you mean! Being a SAHM (well, a mom in general) was so. much. easier. with one child.

My DS starts school next year, and while some of my mommy friends are tearful at just the idea, I cannot wait!

Thanks for reaffirming it for me! Enjoy!
post #3 of 20
I agree! My older three are all in school, so it's just me and my toddler. I must admit, I'm loving it
post #4 of 20
I agree..it all depends on one's frame of reference . My three children are all at school now, but on the weekends, it seems so peaceful if only the youngest is here.

One of my SIL's has only one child and they always seem so flustered like they have soooo much to do, it is a little amusing to watch I must admit..tee hee.
post #5 of 20
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Originally Posted by Learning_Mum View Post
I look back and wonder what the hell I was so stressed out about when I only had DS1!! I remember feeling like my life was so hard but it's really a walk in the park!
sure it's easy, you've got 5 (I assume) years of experience and you're used to having two around to take care of. But you seem to remember that being a first time mom is really not a walk in the park, even though you only had one to take care of at the time. Being a first time mom is just nothing like being an experienced mom who is only caring for one of her children at the time. I have five and sure, when only two of them are around it seems very quiet and easy but I'm certainly not going to tell you how easy you have it with only two.
post #6 of 20
I know what you mean. When I had one, it was hard. Then I had two, and one seemed so much easier, etc. Now, I joke to DP that we should borrow another child for a few weeks so that when we give him back, our four will seem easier .
This year will be easier for us because our oldest two are in full-day school instead of one full-day and one half-day. Then it's just the preschooler and baby at home.
post #7 of 20
My older son will be in full-time K this year, and I am excited for him to start for that reason! I had a few mornings with just the younger home last year and it was nice but never enough time to spend quality time with him AND get stuff done!

But I will say.... personality of the kid has everything to do with it. When I just had ds1, for my first two years as a mom, it was hard. He wanted all of me, every minute of the day. I couldn't get anything done around the house and couldn't go to the bathroom alone! He didn't sleep all that well, so I was tired, as well. Life got harder when when I had a 2-3yo and a baby/toddler. But now a couple years later, having a 5yo and a 3yo, even with breaking up fights and all, is not as hard as it was with just one demanding (yet delightful) toddler!

But part of the day with just one easier ds2... I love the prospect of that this year!! Enjoy!
post #8 of 20
I hear ya! I have four, so last year when my 3rd child was in pre-k part-time (and the oldest two were in school full-time) those few hours a day with just my youngest were a breeze! So much easier.

Now, after a summer with all four home all day long, the shift to having all four in school is huge! My house is, obviously, completely quiet and peaceful with just me here.
post #9 of 20
Okay, you're scaring me LOL!!! I've got a two year old and a little girl due any day now and I keep thinking to myself "maybe two will be not that different than having one...."
post #10 of 20
I've never understood how taking 2 children to the supermarket is 10 times as complicated as just taking one. Twice as complicated would make sense, but no. It's definitely AT LEAST 10 times as complicated, with 10 times as many tantrums.

I cannot wait until next week (when DD's phase in period is over and she'll be at preschool for the whole 3 hours) to finally run some errands in relative peace!
post #11 of 20
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But I will say.... personality of the kid has everything to do with it.
Totally! We really lucked out with DS... he's a very easy going little guy. This and seeing other mama's struggle with two or more when we're out has us seriously considering on DS being an only.
post #12 of 20
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Okay, you're scaring me LOL!!! I've got a two year old and a little girl due any day now and I keep thinking to myself "maybe two will be not that different than having one...."
Ya know, I think the hardest thing about having more than one is that they egg each other on! They encourage the other one to be 'naughty'! It's infuriating at the time, but now I'm thinking about it, it's actually quite funny!
post #13 of 20
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Ya know, I think the hardest thing about having more than one is that they egg each other on! They encourage the other one to be 'naughty'! It's infuriating at the time, but now I'm thinking about it, it's actually quite funny!
So true!!

I have 3...and some days my older ones even encourage the baby to be "naughty" LOL!! (like knocking down stuff, "play" screaming in the middle of the store LOL)

It IS so quiet when they are at school and it's just the baby and I at home.
post #14 of 20
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Ya know, I think the hardest thing about having more than one is that they egg each other on! They encourage the other one to be 'naughty'! It's infuriating at the time, but now I'm thinking about it, it's actually quite funny!
This is so true... and they start so much earlier than you'd think they would! They would be having screetching contests in the backseat by the time DS was one, and I'd just think "OMG I thought I had another 4 years before they figured this one out!"
post #15 of 20
SO wait then... it's just me???? My oldest just started full day kind. also and I was surprised to find it HARDER to have my my 2 year old only. He seems to be bored and follows me around- he misses his buddy!! Oh well, number 3 is due shortly so that ought to make things REALLY interesting.
post #16 of 20
My daughter started Kindergarten 3 weeks ago and it's been so nice having that quiet time with my 2.5 yo. Unfortunately they start fighting again as soon as DD gets home from school! lol It's definitely going to be interesting once #3 gets here next month!
post #17 of 20
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Originally Posted by mrspineau View Post
Okay, you're scaring me LOL!!! I've got a two year old and a little girl due any day now and I keep thinking to myself "maybe two will be not that different than having one...."
I didn't find 2 that different than one. It depends a lot on your kids temperament and your life circumstances. Of course it is an adjustment any time a child is added to your life. But sometimes it is more of an adjustment than others. JMO.
post #18 of 20
Okay, now I'm feeling jealous because I NEVER had the chance to only parent one child!
post #19 of 20
NOW you tell me !





Seriously, in the past three weeks I'm starting to realize how easy I had it before, hahaha...
post #20 of 20
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Okay, now I'm feeling jealous because I NEVER had the chance to only parent one child!
yeah... me too...
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